i told my sister in law no today...her child was screaming and instead of trying to calm him down, she slapped his mouth. all i could do was try to stay non violent. so i yelled no! i don't care if he is your kid, i don't ever want to see that again! was this out of line? mind you...this was taking place in my house.
2007-08-11 13:24:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Your reaction was entirely understandable, you have a kind heart :-)
Lighthouse has really hit the spot with her/his answer.
By yelling at her you may have embarrassed her and caused her to reject what you were saying. Taking her aside later and explaining your point of view ~ and offering to give her some time out ~ is a better way :-)
Best wishes :-)
2007-08-11 15:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't yell at a child's parent in front of the child. Sure, the discipline was out of line, but teaching the child to use disrespectful tone/words to their parent isn't going to help anything. Chances are she realized that she shouldn't have slapped him as soon as she did so, anyway. Next time, I would try to diffuse the situation by sending little Tommy out of the room and telling your sister in law, calmly, and with as much respect as possible, that you don't find that kind of discipline appropriate, and will not tolerate it in your home. Also, in most states, smacking a child in the face is considered child abuse. Mention that to her as well...no one would want her kid taken away.
2007-08-14 02:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think you were out of line. You don't say how old the child is but I think its damaging to a child to answer their distress with punishment. Maybe it would have been better if you could have remained calm but you did refrain from violence! Maybe later you could talk about it calmly with her and help her see that this was bad parenting.
2007-08-12 00:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling at her at that moment is probably like throwing a match in gasoline. Pull her aside and express your concern.
Tell her that in your household, you don't condone violence. You don't want your children to see hitting and the likes.
Ask if you could watch the son while your sister-in-law takes a break.
2007-08-11 21:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to stand up for the kid that wasn't able to stand up for himself. If you see anything more like that happen...you should consider, for the well-being of that child, calling the police, or the DHS which would NOT disclose you were the one to call.
2007-08-11 21:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when ever someone tells someone in any way shape or form that their partenting skills are to par.
it hurts .. regaurdless.. but i have to say i may have done the same thing maybe in a different way like in a talking matter
do you always hit your kid like that? what other ways of disipline do you take into action? then express how i fee about all that!
well good luck
2007-08-11 20:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it was not wrong. I believe in disciplining a child however under no circumstances should a child be slapped in the face.
2007-08-11 22:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want children slapped in your house, you have a right to say so.
I'd keep an eye on that kid to see that it is not abused.
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2007-08-11 21:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Wise@ss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kinda i think in my opinion! B/c how would u feel if sum1 told u how to raise ur kid(s)? I wouldn't like it. I wouls tell em that it ain't their kids and they need not worry bout it. unless it is abuse. Now that is a different story!!
2007-08-15 20:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thik if it happens in your house then you have every right to say something, but if at her house or someone elses then you can't.
2007-08-11 21:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋