My fiance' of 3yrs, 4 almost the first year the sex was great. I could feel everything everytime! all of a sudden one day. We had sex I ,amost fell in.. Later i asked her about it she said she didnt know why. ok, I love her so i tried not to worry about it. I slacked up on sex to try and see if it would go back to normal We agreed this would be a might work. This was 1 1/2 yrs ago. There times since when it seemed like it was getting better and some not. Well just recently we had sex and it felt even more loose than ever. She still doesnt know why. I cant figure out why neither of us can enjoy sex togther, it was so good during that 1st yr. now my motivation isnt there, She is very quiet and polite, but she has alway like to check out guys even when were together. She only goes to work and come hom, but there has been times whenshe when she left work and lied and said she didnt.I can deal w not entiely enjoy the sex. But I dolike honesty and she is always lying. Am I fooling myself?
2007-08-11 11:47:49 · 43 answers · asked by rocky1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there are exercises she can do to firm up. have her ask her gyno on the next visit if that is the problem or something else, there is even surgery to make it smaller - but what it sounds like to me is you think she is cheating on you, maybe that is why you don't feel the same for sex any longer. she is not going to just get bigger for no reason.
2007-08-11 11:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by brandi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing I know of that will enlarge and loosen a woman's vagina is childbirth. Has she had children since you've been with her? If that's the case, she may have pelvic floor damage and surgery could be the answer, although it's probably expensive.
Was she a virgin when you first had sex with her? That might explain a little more tightness when you first had sex, but it wouldn't explain continued tightness after an entire year.
Are you using very large sex toys? Even so, women's vaginas are basically designed to accomodate just about every size penis, so I'm doubtful that this would make a difference. (Unless she's into sex with horses or other large animals).
My guess is that it's psychological, and that it's most likely your erections that aren't as big as they once were when you enjoyed sex with her, hence you now get the feeling of "almost falling in". A man's erection can be affected by many things, both physical and psychological, and each time you get an erection there are size differences, both in length and width, depending usually on what you call "motivation".
From what you said about dishonesty and checking out other guys, my guess is that you're not sure if she's been faithful to you. And I would also guess that you might feel less confident and as a consequence, less sexy, which definitely affects the size of your erections.
My advice would be to examine the underlying emotional and psychological reasons for doubting your girlfriend and your relationship, and once these are resolved (if they are) your erections should be back to where they once were, along with your sex life.
BTW, you don't mention why your girlfriend only goes to work and then comes home, but this is pretty constricting. You say that she is always lying, but it is unclear whether she's lying to be dishonest because she may be seeing someone else or if she's lying because she feels suffocated in the relationship because she's not "allowed" the freedom to, basically, have a life outside of your relationship.
These are all issues that should be explored if you wish to have a healthy relationship that includes a healthy sex life.
You might wish to contact a counselor if you and your fiancee can't work things out on your own. Sometimes a third party's objective take on the situation can be enlightening and liberating.
Good luck!
2007-08-11 12:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by patriotgal27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! A loose vagina isn't caused by a girl having a lot of sex, lol. I didn't think people actually believed that! It just happens, some women are just born with looser vaginas. A baby could stretch it out some, but a penis? No way man. I think you were joking, but just in case you weren't, having sex does not change the how loose or tight she is.
2007-08-11 11:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by melissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be two issues here: One, that she's too 'loose', and two, that you think she may be cheating on you. As far as cheating goes, I don't think you've got much to worry about. You may like to confront her about her constant lying however and let her know how much it bothers you; if you mean anything to her, she'll respect your wishes.
As for her 'looseness' I'm almost certain there's a solution; I'm sure if she does a little research she'll find plenty of exercises that might help her situation. Also, bare in mind that if you're using lubrication, you might actually be using too much which may well explain the 'falling in' that you described.
Good luck!
2007-08-11 11:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she have a baby?! If not then she's definitely cheating on you. A baby can change a woman's vagina but that's the only thing I can think of that can change it and keep it changed. Other than that she must be sleeping with someone else. She should still see a doctor because they have a procedure that can make her tighter.
2007-08-11 11:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by liljomo1234 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its more down to your penis than her vagina?
Her vagina would not stretch with sex, that's just not the way it works...and the fact that you jump to that conclusion, rather than thinking she might be pleasuring herself says a lot about you and your insecurities!
Do you think that you saying things like that to her makes her want to have a sex life with you? If she is bored, she is going to loose tension in the muscles down there, maybe that's the problem...
Try being romantic, doing things you know she likes, touching her where she likes to be touched. Try treating her like a woman rather than a portable vagina and you might get somewhere!
Happy humping to you both!
2007-08-11 12:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have two separate issues here. One, you don't trust your girlfriend and are seemingly eager to learn she's cheated on you. That's for the two of you to work out.
Two, your girlfriend's vagina feels looser to you. Relaxing fully, lubricating more than ever, where she is in her menstrual cycle, and various gynecological problems like a fallen pelvic floor can do this. (I'm unconvinced that lots of sexual partners would, though. Got proof? Seems like if it did, the best prostitutes in places where it's legal would have very short working lives, when in fact they do not.)
2007-08-11 11:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now. You know what's going on little fellow. It seems the motion of the ocean ain't working for her. She just likes a big boat. Got it? Sex with a bigger man DOES make your vagina looser. Believe me. It has happened to me before and my boyfriend DID notice. He just couldn't prove it. So like him, I'd say yes, you are fooling yourself. She likes a yacht my friend. Not a kayak. A yacht.
2007-08-11 11:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Brainy Smurfette 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You think she might be cheating on you or what? How can you trust someone who lies all the time? You need to ask her whats going on and tell her your not buying on all that denial she is posing. You got to stand your ground and ask her to tell you whats going on. If she still dosent come clean then its time to find a new women.
2007-08-11 11:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by D S♦T♦A♦R♦S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it in mining terms:
When you drill a hole with a certain diameter drill bit it makes a certain size hole. If you come back the next day and the hole is wider, someone is playing a joke on you because it didn't happen on its own... The only way it got wider was if a bigger drill bit got used.
2007-08-11 11:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by special-chemical-x 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋