Well lets see here I have a boyfriend and we were together for a couple of weeks before I left for a summer program.He is 17 and I am 15. In the couple of weeks he asked me to marry him I said yes and then 3 or 4 days later I broke up with him. Then like a week later we get back together and he asked me agian to marry him. I said yes once again and now I am thinking that I am making the biggest mistake of my life what should I do
2007-08-11 11:44:03 · 22 answers · asked by Megan H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He keeps saying lets marry now I keep saying no because I have my future to worry about I want to go to college before anything but he is being pushy
2007-08-11 11:50:38 · update #1
Let's make this simple. We aren't even going to get into the fact that at 15 a 17 year old boyfriend is too old for you. We aren't going to get into the fact that you shouldn't even be thinking about marrying ANYBODY for at least another 6-10 years. Or the fact that (and this is my guess) he doesn't have the ability to support a family, and you haven't even finished high school.
What we'll focus on is this: You have told him plain and clear that you have ambitions for your future of going to college and having a career and you don't want to get married until you can do these things first. Instead, he is being (using your word) "pushy". What that means is HE DOESN'T RESPECT YOU. A man who respected you would give you the room you need to grow. Dump him altogether and get away from him before you do something you'll regret.
2007-08-11 12:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by missbeans 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now your to young to think about getting married. You should wait till you finish high school at least and then make sure you are stable and have a place to live and a job so you can support yourself if anything goes wrong with the relationship. You must always have a back up plane just incase it does not work out with the both of you.Dont make a mistake that you would regret later on in life take time to think about it. Maybe he is not the one for you. You got your whole life ahead of you right now.
2007-08-11 11:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are way too young to make a commitment like that. I know you don't want to hear that, the age issue, but trust me, you will be 20 yrs old some day and understand. Relax, enjoy each others friendship
You need to ask yourself why you keep saying yes. Do you think that is the only way to keep him or make him happy. Do what is best for you, if he is as serious about you as he says, he will understand.
2007-08-11 11:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by susie2962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ARE making the biggest mistake of your life.
First of all you can't possibly know after just a few weeks of being together that this is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life.
He's not your Mr. Right, he's just your
Mr. Right Now.
What is the reason for wanting to get married at this age?
You still have lots of fun years ahead of you to enjoy being with whoever you want to be with at that time.
You have the rest of your life to be with just 1 person, so enjoy the time you have now.
And especially if you are already having 2nd thoughts for the 2nd time ;)
2007-08-11 11:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered you own question. First you are 15 and he is 17 (sorry to say too young) second havent you broke up and got back together in a manner of days. Wouldnt your marriage be the same.
2007-08-11 11:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by yp_lena_albuquerque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 15, way to young to be even thinking about marrying some one, i know it's exciting, but the fact that you broke up with him, the first time he asked you, must say something about how you really feel about getting married!
If you really do like this guy though just try telling him that you don't want to put that much pressure on your relationship just yet, you want to both be able to know everything about eachother before you even consider getting married.
I hope you get it sorted, seriously your 15 have some fun! You don't want to be settling yet!
2007-08-11 11:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and have a lot of life ahead of you. Give yourself some time to date and have fun. If you are second guessing yourself already, then you shouldn't say yes to the marriage proposal...just my opinion. If you don't want to say no, ask for a five year extended engagement. Maybe he will be willing to wait, and if not...it just isn't meant to be. Remember marriage is supposed to last a life time...for better or for worse...in sickness and in health and everything else.
2007-08-11 12:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mzguydid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you are very young and you only been dating this guy for a couple of weeks. Get to know him before you make a mistake. Enjoy your teenage years don't make a mistake by getting married to a guy you barely know
2007-08-11 11:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by joesy617 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're clearly too young to be getting married and this guy is a little stupid for thinking you were ready. You shouldn't have agreed to marry this guy for the second time because you've only gone and got yourself into a BIGGER mess. I suggest sitting him down and telling him maturely that you're not ready for marriage yet. You should be DATING at 15, not getting engaged!
2007-08-11 11:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!! Your 15!!! Not even old enough to be legally married plus you've only been together for a couple of weeks. You don't know him very well. Something is telling me he's trying to sweet talk and flatter you to get you in bed. Boys can be scoundrels you know. Be careful!!
2007-08-11 11:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋