why divorce rates for arranged marrige is lower than the regular marriage?

Question

I don't think arranged marriage is that bad.... the divorce rates are lower...

Answer 1

Your observation is correct, but you can't conclude that because arranged marriages have lower divorce rates they are necessarily happier.

Correlation does not imply causation. Just because cultures with arranged marriages have lower divorce rates, you cannot conclude that arranged marriages are necessarily better than non-arranged marriages. There are too many other social and cultural factors to consider. The biggest one is that in many cultures where arranged marriages are the norm, divorce is taboo. Also, women typically do not have the same social, legal, or financial standing as men and often cannot become financially independent and support themselves and their children. Often, a divorced woman is often not accepted back into her parents' or siblings' homes, and many times she has no way to earn enough money to support herself. So...the decision is "live with this person I really don't like or be homeless and destitute". hmm...wonder what they choose? Also, men who divorce can be seen as big embarassments and disgraces to their families.

It is certainly true that many arranged couples grow to love each other very much and are just as happy as those who started out in love. In fact, I have some dear friends whose marriage was arranged 20 years ago, and they still act like newlyweds. However, that is not always the case.

My soon-to-be husband's parents were arranged, and for the past 15 years, they have barely spoken to each other. My fiance says that this is not terribly unusual. Ironically, they still think he's nuts for marrying a woman (me) because he's in love and not someone they find for him.

Be very careful when you make assumptions based on one criterion.

Answer 2

Divorce Rate For Arranged Marriages

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Arranged marriages typically leave the women helpless. Since she cannot *survive* without her husband maintaining the marriage is not a free-will choice for her. Those talking about romantic love are off-base. Emotion follows action not the other way around (like in fairy-tales). Any two loving, healthy, decent people can build a happy life together with enough compromise (if you're slothful fat-asses then it's not going to work.) Love is an action verb - a choice. So I do not think that arranged marriage cannot work. But the question hit on divorce rate, and every arranged marriage is not between two caring, loving, decent people. They stay married because she is SoL.

Answer 5

Extended family is more involved in couples' life because they have some interest involved. Arranged marriages are not just between the 2 people but between the 2 families.

Love is a risky nature when just between 2 people. Physical attraction is a small issue when marriage is a MAJOR issue.

The Hindu traditions (horoscope matching) create potential for a selection between more than one suitor at a time, unlike dating where it is exclusive, so best choice can be made among a larger pool of potential mates at one time........

I admire arranged marriage, but could never have one now that i'm divorced....LOL

Answer 6

I support and agree with arranged marriages, as long as there is mutual respect and equal treatment among partners.

Too many people get married for JUST "love" which can wax and wane (and even fade) over time. It can even be not love but infatuation or sexual attraction, which we all know won't last forever. If someone knows how to look hot and 20 until you're 90, please fill me in. ;)

With "regular" secular marriages there is always the option of divorce. It's an easy out (with few legit exceptions like abuse) when you are not 100% happy at any stage in your marriage. You also see no incentive to REALLY work it out. You try half-heartedly for 1 year, then call the divorce lawyer and tell him you and your partner have "changed" over the past 2 years.

Instead of working to grow together, like those in religious (Catholic) or arranged marriages do, you allow yourselves to grow apart.

I also think that many people who marry for "love" think this is enough to hold a relationship together. It's not. They get married without premarital counselling and preparation. Without anyone to guide them, they marry someone that really wasn't a good fit in the first place. Usually, an arranged marriage is done by the immediate family, who know the bride and groom and their needs best.

I've seen people think they've found their "soulmate" because they both like the Knicks (or hobby X). What? If that's all you've got, don't bother with a wedding.

I told my now fiance right off the bat that having a partner to raise a family with and having a solid *partnership* is what I want over simply finding my "soulmate". Feelings and interests can change, teamwork doesn't have to. You have to realize that people change, and expect that.

All the best to you, whatever you do!

Answer 7

In arranged marriages, the families know each other's background, characters,natures,and also the willingness,and abilities,and the looks.

They ask the man and woman if they like each other.
usually they are successful, but some time problem comes up.
However these are the people who fall in love by the first site.

I just went to a friends 40th wedding anniversary. They never even saw each other untill after wedding. Man is doctor, she is HS grad 4 kids all educated.

my wife & I fell in love by our own selection,never saw any
other person. 40 years,3 kids 2 docs,one teacher.

Marriage is enhenced by true love,caring,sharing , understanding and devotion and being happy with what you have in your hand. When you both have only one picture of each other in your heart,eyes and blood, the marriage lasts.

Answer 8

Well, don't forget that in most cultures that support arranged marriage women have significantly less rights than men. So how exactly will they get a divorce when she's completely subservient and can't leave him even if she wants? Don't forget, divorce rates were a lot lower when divorce was illegal too.

Answer 9

Arranged marriages are in most Case's involve cultural and religious beliefs and to divorce is against those beliefs

Answer 10

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