What to do about a clingy and overly emotional gf?

Question

Ok she crys at the drop of a hat if i even look at another girl shes ready to cry and say i'm ready to cheat on her. Like wtf we are engaged im not going to cheat so chill the f out. Anyways whats her deal and what should I do?

Answer 1

How old is she? Is she always like this or only during her period?

If this really bugs you, you should reconsider the engagement. It is unlikely things will get better after you're married. It will drive you nuts and hurt your marriage.

She sounds like she has major insecurity problems. If you really love her, be prepared to work through these problems. She needs counseling. It will be tiring.

Lemme tell you, I know plenty of grown women who drive their husbands absolutely nuts because they are suspicious or possessive (aka clingy and overly emotional).

If she is an older girl, this is a red flag. Run the other way and find a more emotionally stable fiance.

Of course, if she is just young, she'll grow up. Hopefully. Omigosh, all the other answers here must be from really young girls. Cuddle her when she's being ridiculous? blah, blah, blah. Gosh, it shows me how little girls are just trying to play grown up but they don't know how. They need to learn that they can't whine, cry or throw fits to keep a man. If they're "too scared" to lose the man, he isn't the right one. A man's gotta wanna stay. Being a sniveling, terrified baby is not attractive.

So, in answer to your question, she is scared you will leave her or find another woman. You can reassure her, but be prepared to do this constantly...she will not feel differently after marriage.

Gee, maybe you should find a woman.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Damn. I had a friend like that (grand total time of going out with someone: 3 hours before he ran for the hills). You're in a sticky situation. The fact is if she's always like this, she won't change. EVER. There is the chance that she's pregnant or has bad P.M.S. simptoms. Though, my friend had neither and she was always like that. The big question is, has she always been like this. If it's a recent development after you are engaged she's probably feeling alot of anxciety. You don't want to marry someone who isn't ready, so maybe put it off for a year or two. If she's always like this you either have to call off the wedding or deal with her emotional problems. :/

Answer 3

Your girlfriend is more than just overly emotional. She is terrified of losing you. She wants to feel like she is the only person that you would ever look at in any way. For some reason, she doesn't fee like that. It may not have a thing to do with you. It may have everything to do with the way she was raised, things that have happened in her past, and her past relationships with guys. You need to sit down and talk to her. She needs to come to terms with the past or she may end up pushing you away for good. Something is going on in her head. She's got this idea of relationships that is not accurate. Figure out where she got this. Find out why she's so emotional. It's more than just that. She's scared of losing you.

Answer 4

Well. I would need to know how old she is. Younger girls tend to be more needy and need more reassurances. As a woman of 36, I have learned from my mistakes and have more confidence in myself. This comes with age, experience and confidence. I say, wait it out and do whaterver you can to make her more comfortable. maybe she has a had a bad experience in the past and she will push you away if she doesn't stop. I would talk to her about this. You know that expression 'self-fulfilling prophesy'?

Answer 5

She is very insecure. Did you cheat on her in the past? If so she is not over it and doesn't trust you. Did someone else cheat on her in the past? If so she is afraid you will cheat on her too. She has some deep insecurity personal issues to resolve. I recommend she get individual counseling for herself and if you want to stay with her couples counseling before considering marriage. Any relationship and marriage is doomed to fail without trust.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Maybe she's cheating on you. Usually, when someone is cheating, they get very insecure, very clingy, and very emotional. It's because of the guilt they feel for doing something like that to their better half. Or maybe she's just nervous about the future marriage.

Answer 7

try being reasuring to her. Getting mad at her for having her feelings just increases them. A tiny bit of undivided attention and apreciation makes all the difference. Think about how it was when things were good with her.
Your swearing about it tells me that you are annoyed about her caring so much. Pay attention to see if you act different with her around other girls. Try holding her hand . Throw her a penny and she will reward you with hundreds. Yell at her for wanting a penny and everything closes up.

Answer 8

perhaps she got cheated on b4.. so she had some insecurities.. its suggested you don't get married until you work these issues out.. bcuz in the long run while being married its just gonna make both you guys life a living hell.. and eventually end up to a divorce.. so just deal out this issues b4 commiting to bigger steps in the relationship.. i sincerely wish you the best.. this is a tuff one :)

Answer 9

If you love her then you need to help her work through this. She's obviously insecure and might need some professional help.

Often times this type of behavior is found in gals who haven't matured enough for a relationship yet. I would hate for you to get married, then she reaches maturity and finds different feelings.

Answer 10

Sounds like she has been hurt in the past and is afraid you will do the same. She needs professional help to get over this. Talk to her about seeing someone. Don't give up on her if you love her.