i want to get back with my ex boyfriend what do i do? He has cheated on me 2 times already.. i cant let go and i still love him...
should i dump him and get a new boyfriend or what?
Help asap please
2007-08-11 11:02:14 · 10 answers · asked by baby girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, Baby Girl. This is one of those backwards-sounding answers that is in fact, the Secret to Love.
I know that sounds incredible, but this is the TRUTH, handed down thru the ages.
(It's amazing more people don't know this, but like I said, it's a secret.)
Paying attention?
Whatever caused the breakup, you will stand the greatest chance of attracting him back to you as soon as he knows ...
... ready? ...
... cause here it (the TRUTH) really truly is ...
As soon as he knows ...
... you are doing FINE without him.
(Even if you're not.)
Let me explain why this works. (It is equally true for guys and girls, by the way.)
If you try to "express your love," or "open your heart" or "show him what he means to you," or WHATEVER; if you try to pursue him in ANY WAY, he is going to think:
a. "Good - she's hurting over me. Serves her right!"
and
b. "I MUST be hot, if she's so broken up over me. Maybe I can do even better!"
and
c. "I never saw how CLINGY this girl is before. Time to try Plan B. Where's that phone number I got from that other chick last week ...?"
(I'm a guy. This is how we think. Sorry about that).
IF ON THE OTHER HAND, he sees you DOING JUST FINE without him.
- Happy when and if you run into each other.
- Out with friends, instead of sitting at home pining over him.
- Not particularly interested in what is going on with him.
- Independently enjoying life.
- Maybe even thinking about dating someone else.
- Or better yet ... actually dating someone else.
He will think
a. "WHAT AM I DOING?! That Baby Girl is sooooo hot, and I'm letting her slip between my fingers! I gotta get this straightened out right now. Where's the number for the florist?"
or ...
b. Not. It could be that one or both of you has moved on. That is, unfortunately, a fact of life that cannot be denied.
BUT ...
Your best strategy is to look (and try to be) doing just fine. It is the ONLY CHANCE of bringing him back, if he is so inclined.
If he isn't, well, you will be dating other guys so much the sooner, and you really will be just fine.
Make sense?
Sometimes love hurts. We've all been through it.
But it's only when you set yourself up to be happily independent that you attract love, from him ... or maybe from an even better guy who will treat you even better.
(There's a lot of us out here looking for fine girls like you, you know. And life really is too short to be with someone who is not devoted and loyal to you.)
Hope this helps.
All the best,
Rob in Virginia
2007-08-11 11:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Robert J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Experience is the best judge of character, and U know what UR getting. Cheating isn't always a act of , betterment but of a low self confidence. They must have lots of reasurance all the time. It's like an addiction to some people who want to feel better about themselves. They don't apply fidelity to this because, they don't place high value on the person they use. Some treat mates as something they own , not a loved one.Sorry comes easy when it's just words. Move on for yourself while U can. What if U had children or had to depend on him for help. He has'nt steped up yet and his record is very poor. Their are lots of great guys out there look.
2007-08-11 15:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by oatesmokid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no no!!! whatever you do, do not stay with this asshole! i'm speaking from experience - my ex was cheating on me, left, right and centre.. I knew it, my freinds knew it but i was convinced i loved him and that if we both forgot about it and moved on things would change. How wrong was I. I turned into an over-paranoid, clingy mess and nearly lost some very close friends because he kept cheating - and i kept ignoring it.
In the end, it all came to a head and i plucked the courage to break up with him. I was devastated at first - but then met my boyfriend who i am still with now and am expecting a baby wtih and ive never looked back or been happier.
When I do look back I'm embarrassed at how I let myself be walked all over. Trust me, letting go might be hard, but when you meet someone who will love and cherish you and never hurt you, you won't even remember what you were desperate to hold on to...
2007-08-11 11:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by jaimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby Girl, Baby Girl, Baby Girl, why are you wasting your time on him, he's already cheated on you twice, what makes number 3 a charm, you deserves better than that. I know you still love him, but what will make him not cheat again, I don't see anything that would, except bring sorrow to your heart again. I strongly suggest moving on. Dump his dumb a** and find someone who will bring happiness instead of pain. Take care Baby Girl.
2007-08-11 12:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Just J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no...hunny, if he's cheated on you twice already, even if he did come back, what makes you think he won't do it again? You're just setting yourself up for more heartbreak. I know you still have strong feelings for him and it's hard to let go, but his isn't the one for you. There are plenty of other guys out there, that will give you what you want and deserve, unfortunately it's just not your ex.
2007-08-11 11:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could sell off him asap. If he likes yet another woman and he or she him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? genuine love would not play video games or have wandering eyes, that's dedicated and annoying paintings. you ought to work out this as a pink flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your youthful, i'm guessing, you mustn't additionally be pondering a extreme courting that is going to reason you lack of self assurance. have relaxing, do no longer exchange into overly invested in this, WHAT? you are able to no longer flirt? flow on, the writing is on the wall and it spells hassle. Do your self a want and decrease the guy loose, whether it quite is destined to be, that's going to run that's course and he would be back. yet why you're able to take him back in trouble-free terms you are able to answer.
2016-10-15 00:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I can see why you would want to be with such a great guy that cheated on you twice. The guy does not respect you and does not want to be committed to you. You only want to be with him because you are confusing this hurt you feel with love. Start dating other people.
2007-08-11 11:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by alygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, my girlfriend won't even let me LOOK at another girl before starting a dilemma ... your boyfriend CHEATED on you twice.
2007-08-11 11:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated twice, he'll probably do it again. Forget him and move on. Not easy maybe, but you have to do it, or you'll be miserable.
2007-08-11 11:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cheated on you twice. do yourself a favor and find some1 more fitting. looking at your picture, u shouldnt any have trouble at all.
2007-08-11 11:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋