My awful depression?

Question

I don't know how to explain this even though a lot of people go through it. First off I really don't have any friends, I find myself alone all the time when it's nice out or bad, I am alone, just my family. I can not even hang out at a party for too long because I feel left out because everyone look so perfect and they are all succeeding at something and me I am still stuck back in the gutter. I am 17 and I have my whole life in front of me. I really want to be come a competitive boxer but my family have bad luck with money so boxing is out of the question do to the fact learning by myself will only develop bad habits and will not get me into the game. I am no good at school, actually I hate it, my grades are poor, and I am good at nothing, I have searched and yurned but no potential in anything has showed up in my life. Honestly I am ugly, never had a girlfriend in my life, I am over weight a bit, besides my immeditate family, I can't hang out with my other relatives.

Answer 1

hi,do not listen to ima4nr. you are importnant,your just going thru a pahse in your life,things will get better.you do have to work on your self esteem.if you have to look it up on the internet and how to build confindence.try to figure out what you would like to do ,go to college?what career choice seems interesting to you.it will come a time when you will have to get a job,if your shy or unhappy with yourself this will make it harder on you. take care

Answer 2

How about starting with some self improvement. Write down the things you wish to change about yourself and set goals for accomplishing them. This will help your self esteem more than anything. According to your question, here are some goals you can set for yourself:

1. You make friends by hanging out with people. You don't have to do anything.
2. If you want to box, then box either at home with a punching bag or at a gym.
3. Spend more time studying. See if you can bring your grades up a little.
4. Lose weight. Just don't eat as much and get out of the house and be more physically active.
5. Your looks do come from within. If you say you are ugly, you are ugly. If you say your not, you won't be.
6. Think more positive about yourself. If you act like a loser, others will treat you that way.

Answer 3

A lot of times we make or break ourselves when it comes to our life because no one can live our lives for us....do you know the saying that says something to the effect of " to have a friend, be a friend" make the first move...find someone who, like you, seems to hang back from the "crowd" someone who doesn't always have anybody around them....walk up to them and say hi, and then, find something that the 2 of you have in common "hi, I'm____ we are in the same____class at school" or I see you hanging around the ___all the time ........" and as far as the boxing goes, why not find a local boys &/or boys & girls club and ask whether they have a boxing club or team that you can attend....boys/gir/s club is usually free of charge. Get a grip man, find 1 thing about yourself that you can like or make likable and praise that thing every time you look in the mirror....(" I really like the color of my eyes...my "blue" eyes really pop when I smile".....)
Change your vocabulary.....instead of always saying or thinking how ugly you may or may not be start saying how you would like to look then start trying to do something about it...lose a little weight, do something different with your hair.... If you really want a change then make an effort....there are things that can change about your situation but you have to take the first step toward that change.

Answer 4

Try your local boxing club or boys club. I realize that you are older than most but they may be able to direct you to a gym with reasonable rates or even having you help clean up for work outs.

Answer 5

what you need is self confidence and and out going personality. Your almost in college...life will be much better.