I am crushed by life; can someone see some answer?

Question

I have tried much and achieved nothing; mocked by idiot neighbors, penniless, without family and friends and ashamed. I can't fake it anymore, I'm not going to be anything in life. I'm old as well. I'm holding on with the skin of my teeth.

Answer 1

If you are serious, send me an email.

Meanwhile, why don't you have family or friends? Why are you ashamed?

By the way, so what if you're old? You're not dead. There is always hope for a better life until then. There are many, many examples of old people who suddenly made something out of themselves at a very old age (Grandma Moses, Col. Sanders of KFC fame, etc.)

Even if you think you're alone, you're not. Most older people start facing the grim reality that life didn't turn out the way they planned. But you know the saying, "Man plans, God laughs." So your plans didn't work out. Make new plans.

Penniless? So was Jesus, Ghandi, Van gogh...Don't measure your worth with money. Anyway, you can't take money with you so why spend your life accumulating it?

Tell us more about your life and we'll try to help. We all need a helping hand. And, strangers or not, we're all connected. You have a spiritual family whether you care to accept this or not.

There is always hope. :)

Answer 2

I really doubt that you've achieved nothing. I bet if you honestly looked at your life with a little bit of optimism, you could find things to be proud of. Don't measure your life by how much money you've made or the 'accomplishments' that only other people recognize.

I know it can be hard to keep going when you think you've failed, but you haven't failed yet. Try to fill your life with something you love doing. Small achievements are wonderful, anything, even keeping a garden alive, or building a gazebo in your back yard.

Find something you love, and learn how to create that thing. Do you love music? Learn an instrument, write some songs. Do you love food? Learn how to bake, and bake things for your neighbors. That will also help things with them.

Here's an idea; find a charity to work for. You'll be doing something worthwhile, that you can be proud of, that will make you feel great. Volunteer at a hospital, or an animal shelter.

Also, try seeing a therapist. Don't be embarrassed. You sound depressed. It's not a weakness, it's just something that you have to work through, which a therapist can help with.


Best wishes.

Answer 3

I have read a good deal of success books and help books. The truest statement I have found in any of them is "Most of lifes biggest successes come on the heels of our biggest failures."
There is no such thing as success unless you first taste failure. As a sports analogy, the best baseball player in the league today has somewhere around a .340 batting average. That means he gets up to bat and fails 66% of the time. The most successful baseball players will all tell you, it is not hard to come to the plate and get a hit or even hit a homerun. The hard part is failing 66% of the time and having the fortitude to come back to the plate the next time and just keep swinging.
Now I could say a whole bunch of cliches like, quitters never win, or the glass is half full or a bunch of crap like that, but that stuff really never helps anyone.
All I can really suggest is if you measure yourself a failure, maybe you should get a new measuring stick. Maybe today getting out of bet was a small success. Maybe tommorrow, you go make yourself a new friend, or call a family member and let them know that whether they are willing to accept you, you still love and remember them. Maybe that can be your success for today, and what you will find is that successes are contagious. The most important thing for you to remember is that failing does not define you, its just a neccessary part of figuring out what not to do next time.
Rich, smart, successful,and powerful people decompose at the same rate as poor, dumb, poweless failures. We are all the same when we pass. The difference is that while we live that we make a difference to ourselves. If you are tired of feeling worthless, then stop feeling that way. I know that sounds retarded to hear out loud, but you are really the one who can change it. The only common denominator in all of your problems is you. Hope this helps

Answer 4

The best thing to do is find something that will make you happy and stick to it whatever it may be (just make sure its a healthy habit) with that in that area you will find people that will have a common interest in what you like so that way you gained two things an interest and friends. Also seek help from someone you can confide in that will give you positive feedback's that will show you that everyone has bumps in life and that sometimes its hard to get up but eventually you do get back up and that your not the only one out there that feels this way. Well try some of these and if you find anymore advice (positive ones) give them a try it won't hurt if it will make you feel happier. Good luck!

Answer 5

Well it's kind of that you think that way. If you believe you aren't going to be anything in life..then you AREN'T, Because you believe in that. Suicide is not an option. Because you only get one life on this earth and if you throw it all away you NEVER get another chance. Start joining clubs and think HAPPY! :) Always put a smile on your face even if it's not real because soon that smile WILL turn real. Do something good for the earth. Help a person. Donate money. Go out and meet new people. Introduce yourself. Whatever it is you enjoy to do: DO IT! It doesn't matter how bad you are. As long as you're having fun. Apologize to the loved ones you feel you have hurt. Try not to ask people for anything. Especially money. Learn to be selfless. Start going to church. And practice your religion. Get a haircut, and be really friendly to the receptionist and the stylist. Learn to develop your social skills. Don't be shy. No matter what it is you want to do go for it. Keep trying. Continue with your education. It leads to great success in life. Learn to be very polite to people. Try joining a drama club so you can learn to be more enthusiastic. Appreciate the important things you have in life. It doesn't sound like you are actually trying. It sounds more like you are quitting. If you quit on life, life will quit on you. And if you don't try then ofcourse you aren't going to be a success. Don't let people put you down. Hold your chin up high and KEEP TRYING! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

This is obviously your burden to bear. I dont know how old you are or what you consider to be old but one is never completely stuck in ones situation. Maybe you should ask yourself some questions. If you have nobody then do you have to stay where you are? If everyone respected you would you enjoy the burden of responsibility? Can others learn from your mistakes? Do you think you deserve what your life is like? Im not going to try to solve your situation but I think ive been in some pretty low spots in my life and it was hard to end them and i am always aware there could be another around the corner. I often caused the situation by myself as a result of bad decisions or from being unwilling to deal with the burdens of responsibilities any longer. I dont know if you have but the best thing ive ever done is pick up a christian bible and read it. I wouldnt force it on anyone so its just an idea.

Answer 7

what do you have to be ashamed for, my friend? That you have human frailties? Life has no answers, but plenty of questions. Perhaps you need to be thinking of different questions in order to see your own silver lining.

Yes, the optimistic crowd spouts the "when life gives you lemons make lemonade" crud but can you honestly name any one person that has never had a shadow of doubt in their hearts at any one given time? Christians will tell you "Jesus" never doubted. I have to wonder sometimes what it must have been like to be Jesus. To never once feel a shadow of a doubt...

Personally I think that it is your responsibility in life to create happiness, not to expect it. Your quality of life greatly depends on your attitude, and what you wrote up there speaks volumes about that. Your neighbors may be idiots in your opinion, but you should not close the door on them. Money is just money, you cannot take it with you into the afterlife, and if you don't believe in an afterlife, then there really is no point to trying to save it all for the end now is there?

As far as being something, you are who you are. You will never be nothing, so you are always something. You have one life to live, and if you don't like how you have lived so far, then now is the time to change that. Think of one thing that you can do now that could help somebody else, and then do it. You may not think that you are much help, but to somebody else that one small thing you can do is a mighty big thing to them.

Answer 8

I think that this is not just a outside problem but a spiritual problem too. I imagine right now you aren't thinking to highly of yourself therefore your self esteem is down making it seem even more horrible.

So if you've got a job i might not be satisfying you at this point in which if your as old as you say and have a pension I think you should retire and maybe try something you like, like writing or painting. If your still to young it might be time for a career change so as to re-spark your interest.

If you have no career this may be our problem because money is the only way to build a bridge over rapids, even if love can swim through. So start with a job you can build off of, fast food is not the way to go.

Answer 9

I can see that you achieved getting on the internet and communicating with all of us. That's a skill many old people don't have. Go to the library and read up on books about positive thinking. That's free - you don't need any money. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer is a great author to look up. "Real Magic" teaches you how to be happy, healthy, successful and prosperous in daily living through positive thinking and good works.

I suggest you take your Medicare card and visit the doctor for a checkup in case you are suffering from depression. There are some great medications out there nowadays if you are in need.

We care about you and wish you good luck.

Answer 10

You said i cant fake it anymore. then you said I'm not going to be anything in life. Think about what you are saying, and ask your self What is to be something in life?
I am telling that because i know people that has everything and neighbors think they are everything, but the true is they are so unhappy or don't get along or is unhealthy, different situations.So ask your self what is missing in my life that is making me feel this way.? After you figure it out you can came up with another questions like where i can go to make friends or what can i do to be around positive people? you choose, you have control in your life, nobody Else. Life is beautiful my friend don't feel this way, OK! :)