Ok so here it goes....I have been with this guy for a litte over a year...Our sex life was really good for awhile. Then I moved in with him last March. Since then, it has decreased significantly. We may have sex like once a week now if I am lucky (though it varies-some weeks maybe 4 times, but still). I am a very sexually active person and so is he it seems. He watches MASSIVE amounts of porn and I am pretty sure he is whacking himself to it. He gets up at like 5 am, meditates, and then does this. The porn is regular porn, no S & M or anything ike that. I just don't understand. When I approached him about it, he said he was trying to be celibate because of this "spiritual path" he is walking on, but that I would get it maybe 4 times a month. However, I think that is just an excuse considering the amount of porn he watches. So is he not sexually attracted to me anymore? The rest of the relationship is fine. Also he has issues with love in general. (giving and receiving) Any advice?
2007-08-11 10:11:08 · 7 answers · asked by P, j.d. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend has a serious problem. He is addicted to porn so much that it has taken away his desire for in the flesh intimacy. On top of that you say he has issues with love. Great catch you got there. He has to want to change and it doesn't sound like that will be anytime soon. Do yourself a favor and move out. Find someone who knows how to have a real relationship.
2007-08-11 10:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by alygirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People are complex and relationships are complex, and he sounds like a complicated person! I lived with a boyfriend once for 4 years and our sexlife took a nosedive when we moved in together. He watched porn and I watched porn but both at seperate times. I guess, things ebb and flow in relationships, so maybe at times you might be passionate and at others less so. I guess that's just how it goes in long term relationships.
2007-08-11 10:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Warm Breeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adult males are so superficial. Lose the load if it will make you happy. He desires to understand that it replaced into due on your thyroid which you gained it, no longer from being lazy. And if that's what's holding him from having intercourse with you, possibly he's dropping interest interior the courting as an entire. Ask him if he will fell extra powerful in case you exercising ordinary mutually. and the two get in shape. If he needs you to be fit. He ought to parent which you rather % him to be slot besides. it quite is a 2 way highway. and for him to act this style with you after 4 years? possibly it quite is time to go directly to somebody who will love you for YOU.
2016-10-15 00:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt know there was such a thing as 'normal porn'
2007-08-11 10:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by Love Doctor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him...Obviously he is not giving you the satisfaction that you need.
2007-08-11 10:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy seems a bit unstable, why did you move in with him.
2007-08-11 10:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Greg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have to question it........then you already know he's not into you. My guess is he's banging your friend.
2007-08-11 10:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by Carson D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋