Help Me im 14 year old guy and Depressed?

Question

i play alot of sports but i've never had a freind i feel so bad about my self and my sis only make fun of me....does anyone have any advise

Answer 1

I know this may sound way out there, but I would suggest you first tell your mom and dad, and then get a good therapist that can help you for the amount of time this is gonna take. There are so many ways to make it better for you that you aren't gonna get the justice this question demands. I went through what you're going through, and I know how very painful it is, and know it will always be a regret for such a loss of time where I might have been happy.

Blessed Be and may you find peace

Answer 2

Felix,

I browsed through the answers other people were giving you and they were typical of 18 yo kids. I am an adult, old enough to be your mom, and there is not another opinion on your board that will tell you the truth.

Depression is not a minor thing. Kids kill themselves over depression, they drink, smoke, drugs, sex. Teens today don't know how to get help for depression. On top of depression, you've got self-esteem issues, and your sister sounds like she has a eating disorder.

The advice is to go to your parents and have them take you to a psychiatrist (it is important that they take you to this kind of dr.). You also probably need to see a therapist. You need help for the chemicals in your brain that are not working properly, and you need help solving your esteem and sibling stuff.

The good news is that having depression is not that abnormal. The bad news is that, unless you get help, and soon, your life expectancy and future success are flushing down the tube.

IF you should have trouble with your parents taking you to the dr., talk to your school counselor, or a coach or a church leader. Keep talking until someone helps you.

Take care, honey,

TX Mom
Not a dr.

Answer 3

You know, growing up I always had troubles with my older sister like that. We're 4-5 years apart, depending on who's had a birthday. I don't know, one day about eight years ago she came home from junior high and decided she was too cool to play with her little brother anymore. We'd always got along before then, I would play all kinds of make-believe games with her...then she just decided she was superior and for the longest time, since she was older and had to be right, I just believed her. Now things have warmed up a bit, though she's still a bit of a *****, I am able to simply pride my own self in my kindness and "real"ness, and be happy that I never succumbed to thinking I'm better than anyone and making anyone feel like she made me feel. Sure she's skinnier. But you know what? You can fix fat but you can't fix mean and patronizing. I hope she has fun finding someone who is attracted to people who are skinny but mean all the time to everyone they meet.

Answer 4

Don't let them get you down. You say you do sports? And there is no one on your teams that you enjoy hanging out with? Do you have no friends, cause you just want to sit at home? Maybe you should go online and test to see if you really are depressed, and if you pass the test online, I would tell you, that you need to ask your mom if you can go to the doctor and ask him about anti-depressant medicine, or if you think that she won't do it, then just ask if you can go in for a check-up you want to make sure that everything is up to par for this school year and sports. Talk to the doctor when you get there about depression, and let him know you think that you are. You will take a test in the office, just questions about how you feel about certain things in your life.

Here is a webpage to go to for the test:

http://depression.about.com/cs/diagnosis/l/bldepscreenquiz.htm

Answer 5

hey man. i'm 18 years old and your story reminds me a lot of myself. i played sports all through my public schooling (football and soccer) up until this past spring when i graduated high school. all through elementary and junior high my brother, who was two years older than me, gave me crap for being overweight. i wasnt very athletic at the time either so my self esteem wasn't exactly high. as i moved into 8th grade, i finally decided to bite the bullet and try to make friends. I made an extra effort to talk to kids at school and in athletics. it was hard sticking my neck out there; making conversation, calling on weekends, talking on msn etc.. I just graduated and those same kids are still my friends today. athletics played a big part. it's a great way to meet people. as you get older, your peers will learn to respect and envy you if you are any good. after my 9th grade year i started working out and lifting weights a lot. i cut the fat and by my senior year i was captain of the football and soccer teams. in the fall i was homecoming king. im heading to college so none of that matters at all now, but i want you to know that your future is in your hands. from the info you have given, it looks like you are big into sports and hopefully having friends. there are things you can do to better yourself and help you out in both of those aspects. best of luck to you. dont be afraid to stick your neck out and be yourself. you will only regret it if you never try at all

Answer 6

hi, From what you mentioned, i'm uncertain if it would desire to easily be defined as melancholy interior the experience of it being a affliction. quite, to be clinically determined with important melancholy a clinician is calling for right here indicators (lasting 2 weeks or extra): 5 or extra of right here indicators (interior the comparable 2 week era):depressed temper extremely some the day, dwindled interest in events which you as quickly as enjoyed, weight benefit or loss or improve in urge for nutrition, insomnia or hypersomnia (slumbering too a lot) daily, fatigue or loss of ability daily, emotions of worthlessness or extreme guilt, psychomotor agitation, issue thinking, concentrating, or being very indecisive, recurrent techniques of dying or suicidal ideation. whether you're no longer depressed interior the scientific experience of the observe, it would not make your subject any much less substantial. residing interior the "shadow of" a sibling is not any relaxing and that seems to be what's bothering you. i think of it quite is large to be pals with the comparable human beings as your brother, yet you ought to additionally start to strengthen friendships of your man or woman. discover some thing you're good at whether or no longer that's lecturers, activities, a interest, despite and get entangled with it. possibly which will help you to fulfill people who've comparable hobbies as you. good success.

Answer 7

Take a deep breath. Don't let you're sister get you down. At least try to make friends. You play sports, find someone who also likes it or someone who just has stuff in common with you. In no time, you'll have lots of friends. And like i said, don't let you're sis get you down. Tell her how you feel, tell her to leave you alone, or just ignore her.
Good luck.

Answer 8

um, yea, your not really depressed, maybe a bit to emotional, or maybe you have nothing to do at all, and just thinking your depressed. as for the never had a friend thing, i dunno, you gotta be more social and try to work on your personality perhaps. i know it gets annoying, cause im 14 also and have a bastard brother, but, eh, you sound pretty pathetic. Well, maybe your one of those types thats just depressed so you can pity yourself and use that as an excuse or somehting when your life goes horribly wrong.

Answer 9

Yes look its not a good idea but it doesn't heart to try, maybe you should consider getting high, you smoke you a blunt. or a joint and you will never be depressed again, and at the same time that you are smoking good weed you meet friends smart ones dump ones and athletic ones, but just remember its just n idea, its all up to you but look kid if you whant a friend ill be yeah friend

Answer 10

dude I'm 13 and I'm depressed too my sister shes is so freaking skinny she calls me fat and my mom thinks I'm crazy so Ur not alone look this is what I'm doing just start a book in on ur computer and write everything that happens to u is not like a diary is something like a journal and i would love to help u so if u wanna talk to me more my yahoo is [e-mail] good luck