how to rasie a baby as young teens 18 and 17 with no help from parents and still in school and need jobs?

Question

My boyFriend and I want to find a way to stay with each other for good wich we know what to do about that but, he still in school and we both need jobs and we do not want help from our parents and we need to find a way to find some where to live too.

Answer 1

1. stay with your parents...for now
2. both get jobs and work for about 2-4 months get money save it all.
3. Get some money from parents before you leave (optional)
4. Share rent with your bf , in an apartment. Shouldnt be terribly expensive. Use food stamps to get free food
5. Use rest of money for yourself and future baby
6. go finish high school and it would be good to go to technical school OR community college
7 you can be making 40 grand a year each so that should be enough to save up for a house

the total time to complete this is mabey 6-7 years

remember you have to plan , or it wont work

Answer 2

good luck doing that with a high school diploma. Not only are you ruining your own lives but your potential baby's. If you don't earn enough, you could even kill your baby. If you are smart, which you don't sound like you are, then get help from ur parents. Would you rather pay for a apartment which costs high than a feww house? You better go to college so you can get a REAL job. I can't believe your boyfriend is also feeling the same way as you are; you both really want to ruin your lives? You can still stay together with your parent's help. You can have small jobs for now, since that's all you'll be offered, go to college so you can raise the baby.

good luck and dont make stupid decisions like this, you have long lives and you are responsible for a life. If you don't make enough money, it'll be your fault if the kid gets affected.

Answer 3

Why would you want to get stuck with kids at such a young age? There's nothing wrong with being a parent, but there is so much more to experience in life before having kids. Go to school, start a good career instead of just a "job", travel, and give yourself time to grow up a little. If you start having kids now it will be even more difficult to go back to school and you will end up stuck in a dead-end job. Is that what you want?

You may think that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with now, but people change. Don't be in such a hurry to move in with someone and start having babies. If you really love each other you can wait until the time is right.

Answer 4

The way I am reading this question is that you are not pregnant, yet? Is that correct? If so, DONT get pregnant until you atleast finish school. You are 18 and 17 so you can't have that much longer to go.

If you are already pregnant, Good luck. You will have a very hard road ahead of you. Working, school, baby, etc. That is a lot of stress. Also, if you do not have insurance, you will likely be stuck with hospital bills that you cannot pay or you will have to seek assistance (welfare, medicaid, etc) to help cover the costs.

Answer 5

I’m lost are you already with child? Or Your wanting to have a baby to stay with your boyfriend for good? If it’s the later, please honey a baby does not guarantee you will stay with that person for good, its just means you will always being a part of each other lives because of the child, but it certainly does not mean that you will forever be with them romantically.

You would be ill advised to purposely have a baby. Even more when you don’t want any help but want to continue school, work and care for a baby. You’d likely be struggling to even get by, the real world is costly, and having a baby is costly, living on your own is costly. While your at work who will care for your child, Day care is costly. It would be unfair to bring a child into such a state on purpose, I can understand if accidents happen but then you should be willing to accept any help you can. I’m not saying that grandma and grandpa should be raising their grand kid but you should accept their help if they are willing.

Answer 6

Wow you are really young and it is going to be super tough. You are probably going to need to go on welfare and get government subsidized housing. Also, you are going to have to give up going to the movies and the mall and eating fast food all the time. Forget cell phones and the latest clothes and cable TV. That stuff all costs money. It's packed lunches and budget spaghetti dinners for you, for a long time. If you are really happy together, then that won't matter so much. I don't have a lot of money, so my boyfriend and I find free things to do in our city, like free concerts in the park and free museums and getting dvd's from the library and stuff. You're going to have to get very frugal, use coupons, wear old clothes (that you bought at a thrift shop probably), and walk instead of drive, just to save money. It's going to be really hard, harder than you can even imagine. I wish you the best of luck, I really hope it works out for you the way you want it to.

Answer 7

It isnt going to be easy but there is help out there for you. First I would find out from your school if they have a work release program, I had my daughter when I was 16 and I had taken so many of my clases that in my senior year I only needed one class to graduate so I got to leave school after first period and went to work. As far as housing and day care and what not go to your local social services office and see what they can offer there are great programs out there to help young parents just please try and be responsible and not live off the system I think that is the biggest mistake some people make they get on government programs and never plan to get off, do you have other family members that can help ? I had help from my mom but it can be done you just have to work hard and know that it is not going to be easy until you can get a good education and get more established. Good luck to you guys.

Answer 8

Wow, that is alot to take on your plate. And you are not willing to take help from anyone huh? Well, I would recommend start filling out applications ASAP. I would also recommend, start looking for apartments, and see how much the cost, so you know how much you are going to have to make to afford living on your own. Remember, that most of the time your rent is going to be probably half of your monthly income. Also remember that you have to pay for utilites, food, gas (for car if you have), plus baby supplies, clothes, and such. You both are most likely going to have to work to make it, and you better find a full-time job that has benefits, cause it is not cheap to have a baby. You will need money for all of the doctors appt and such. I will say that you should be able to sign up for health & welfare since you are pregant with no where to live, so you may be able to possibly sign up for housing. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Having a baby at that age is terrible, terrible mistake. Despite how offended you may be an abortion or adoption is probably best.

Whatever dreams and aspirations you had for your life are now over. You will be forced to raise your child in poverty. You are now forced to choose between giving the child a sub standard life. Or letting so so both you and your baby can lead a good life.

Answer 10

i also had a baby at 18 no support from family. It is a hard way to get by a little but consider walfare they can provide financial, food stamp, and medical care for the family.. if your in school it is a great way to finish and complete. there are school i think nation wide that help with pregnant teenage mothers it was a great way that i got through school... Its a thought...