Ok..well my dad chews tabacco. There I said it. I'm really worried about him. I've given him a hard time about it plenty of times but he doesnt care. He is addicted. My grandpa (his dad) was recently hositalized for cancer. But my dad and my grandpa havent talked to eachother in more than 3 years, so he didnt care much. I want him to know that he could be the cancer patient soon, but I dont know what to say. I've talked to my mom about this. She doesnt have much of an effect on him either. OK so my questoin are 1) How can I tell him that I want him to stop, and 2) What is going to happen to him if he keeps doing this drug?! Thanks in advance for your answers. :)
2007-08-11 06:02:22 · 6 answers · asked by lax4life<3 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Sweetheart I know you are scared. You have every right to be. You can't make him stop no matter how hard you try. He has to want to.
That part you can help with. Try writing a letter to him. Don't bombard him with facts about how chewing will cause cancer. We never think those things will happen to us. Instead try telling him how scared you are. Tell him how you are afraid of not having a father. Make it very personal, really open up to him. Don't nag. Second make sure he reads it. Put it somewhere he will see it or hand it to him.
You know him best. The most powerful thing I can think of is handing to him when he can sit down and read it with you sitting beside him. This will probably be a huge emotional thing. But remember. You are not responible for his choices or actions. It may work, It may not. But you are not to feel responsible if it doesn't.
Amy
2007-08-11 07:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a loving daughter. The problem is that you cannot get your dad to stop. He has to decide to stop. As a loving daughter you can say "dad, I love you and I hate to see you get cancer like grandpa got. I want you to be around for me and see my kids when they grow up." That doesn't mean your dad will do what you say. But, you would have let him know your feelings about this. Tell him it scares you. The problem is that tobacco is very addicting. And people have to make a choice about quiting. They will feel miserable as they are quiting and very often people still feel the draw of tobacco long after they stop. Know you did the best you could and then it is up to your dad.
2007-08-11 08:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope i can help i am a cancer survivor i had cancer 5 years ago. but the way i would talk to him is just flat tell him how u feel he is your father and should listen to your concerns just say to him dad im really worried granpa has had cancer and im worried about you getting it. ive seen what tobacco can do(which im not sure if u have seen what it can do, but it aint pretty) umm.. u could say dad i really love you and i dont want to see anything happen to u and i would really like to see u try to get away from chewing tobacco... the thing is is tht u cant force him to do something tht he dosnt wanna do. he has to make the choice. also, he is at risk of getting cancer if he keeps up with the tobacco but he could just git lucky and not get it just b/c he does tht doesnt mean he automatically get cancer. but i can feel ur concern and hes ur father u should just be able to put it to him straight and forward!!
2007-08-11 06:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by itz meeeeeee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you could just tell him your feelings. Tell him that you don't want him to die and you want him to see grandchildren graduate from high school one day. IF that doesn't work, look online for pictures of people that have had cancer of the mouth from chewing tobacco, and show him the pictures. Believe, there are some pretty vivid pictures. But just do research on it.
2007-08-11 07:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 00:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell him how you feel about it. Maybe he doesn't know that you worry about him. That's all I can think of.
2007-08-11 06:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Flakkenmarsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋