Ok so my bf and I are getting married but no one knows yet we're waiting until just the right time to tell everyone. The thing is that I feel like I'm on my own for this. he keeps kleaving town to go camping with friends and stuff like that and the thing is while I am planning I'm realising we probably cant afford this right now and when I tell him i want to push it back a year he tells me he doesnt want to... what do I do?
2007-08-11 06:00:21 · 7 answers · asked by Vickey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont ant my families help I want to do this on our own
2007-08-11 09:13:16 · update #1
yes he has set a date its next year.
2007-08-12 05:04:16 · update #2
Have you set a date? Once you choose where you want to be married and where you want the reception and then book both of those, that is what help you choose your date.
My point is if you don't have a date yet, you may be stressing yourself out for no reason. You could also use this to help push the date back, as in "the such in such is not available until ___" if you explain that you need more time to plan things maybe he Will understand.
Also it sounds like your feeling a bit neglected. Try to make some "date time" for the two of you to go out and have fun and not talk about wedding plans, just go and relax.
Whatever your budget, you will be able to work it out. Just keep the lines of communication between both of you open!
Good luck!
2007-08-11 16:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is that you feel like you are alone in this. Can I ask why you dont want to tell others? Once you do tell things will most definitely turn around, your family and friends will be thrilled and in turn your spirits will get a boost. Plus when you have others helping you, you'll be more motivated to plan and find those deals and such on wedding things.
I wouldnt hold of on making your announcement any longer, if you are engaged and have your ring, its time to tell everyone.
Best of luck!
2007-08-11 13:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should be the most wonderful time in your life, and your bf and family and friends should be sharing it with you! Maybe you should do as you say and push it back a year, give your bf some time to grow up and both of you need to tell your families.
2007-08-11 13:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get yourselves registered first? If he really wants a ceremony then do a small signing ceremony at the registrar's with you and him fully dressed up. Invite closest family and friends.
Then when finances are less of a problem you can throw a big party for more people, and then have your honey moon.
2007-08-11 13:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by bronzedgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does he keep leaving town and why having you all told any one yet? This sounds as through it can be off to a bad start. Best Wishes
2007-08-12 07:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go elope somewhere. (carrebian, mexico, vegas.. whereever) Wedding planning is hectic and can ruin a marriage before it begins.
2007-08-11 15:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Silac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your family so they can pitch in to help pay for stuff.
2007-08-11 15:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋