Are only families with one mom & one dad "ideal"? Could you tell a dead vet's kid his family wasn't ideal?

Question

When conservatives say the ideal family consists of one father and one mother, do they realize they are marginalized families where one parent died, like perhaps a father who was killed in Iraq?

Could you tell a child of a dead war vet his family was not ideal?

What about a two opposite-sex parent family where one parent is highly abusive? Wouldn't a single parent, non-abusive environment be better?

What about a two opposite-sex parent family where both parents abuse narcotics? Wouldn't a stable, financially secure, loving same-sex family be a better environment?

With so many one mother and one father families that are broken up by death and divorce, or that have one or both parents as abusive, neglectful, drug addicted, crazy, etc, isn't unrealistic to restrict children to a one mother and one father family?

I'm of the opinion that ideal families come with one single *loving* and capable parent or two *loving* and capable parents.

Should we retire the every child deserves one mother and one father sloganeering, especially since people like Bush who use that slogan has torn so many families apart and sent so many parents to their deaths in Iraq?

Answer 1

I agree with Barbara when she says this is conservatives trying to push their own agenda. I guess it can be hard to grasp that what is best in your own mind isn't necessarily the objective ideal.

There are perfectly functional families with one mother and one father...but also countless dysfunctional families with "traditional" parents. The same goes for single parents and same-sex couples. You can't make a blanket statement and expect it to accurately describe the group in every single instance.

And I can't even tell you how audacious I find it when people try to say that adoptions should only be allowed for opposite-sex couples. There are so many children out there in need of good parents of any number and gender...to try and impose your own personal ideals on the situation could be depriving a child of a happy life.

I was raised by a single mom and I consider myself to be a strong, well grounded woman who always sticks to her guns. I'm pretty sure my mom couldn't have done a better job if there was a man in the picture.

Answer 2

They are only trying to push their ideals not what is real in society. With the advent of smaller nuclear families, rising divorces because it was no longer such a social taboo to end a marriage because of a variety of reasons they feel threatened their definition of family is slipping away.

While the rest of society moves on and finds value in a ~stable~ family situation - be that with two same sex parents, one parent - they continue to fight for what they consider the norm even if it condemns children to situations that isn't healthy for them to be in.

A good family is the one that raises a healthy, socially -well adjusted child no matter how many parents are there or what their gender is.

Answer 3

I consider Josh's Muffin. i don't understand why she have been given maximum of thumbs down. If ladies and boys have been meant to be raised in a independent way, then there could be a independent gender. they're diverse for a reason, for this reason they're raised in yet differently. adult males and ladies are equivalent, yet that doesn't cause them to the comparable.

Answer 4

I wholeheartedly agree with your last paragraph: "I'm of the opinion that ideal families come with one single *loving* and capable parent or two *loving* and capable parents."

The key being LOVE, because that's what Today's, Yesterday's and Tomorrow's children really need to make their family "ideal."

BTW, the dead veteran's love still lives on in his child's heart -- he/she may be gone, but should never be forgotten.

Answer 5

I think every child deserves a parent (or parents) who love them, regardless of the sexual orientation of the parent(s).