Me and my girlfriend are both 16 and have been going out for just over 3 months now.
I really like her and im quite sure that she feels the same way.
The only thing is that shes quite shy meeting new people and stuff like that, but once shes got to know you a bit, shes all good. Her being bit shy is not a problem at all.
The thing is that because of it she doesn't like to call my house because she doesnt want to have to speak to my sister or parents becuase she says it would be embarrassing.
She also doesnt want to come to my house i assume because she would feel a bit shy meeting my parents and the like.
Its been three months already :|
What can I do or say that will make her see that all will be good if she just trys it. Ive tried telling her before that theres no reason any of my family wouldnt like her and that theres nothing not to like, as i think this is another worry of hers.
What can I do to at least make her try it so she can see that theres nothing wrong?
2007-08-11 05:32:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any past expereince on this sort of thing?
Any advice appreciated :)
2007-08-11 05:34:26 · update #1
I met her family in the first couple of weeks and have let her know that at first I even felt a bit shy/nervous but it went away very soon after i met them :)
2007-08-11 05:47:31 · update #2
She lacks self confidence in herself in meeting new people,which is normal with teenagers.All you can do is be patient with her and eventually things will work out. You may want to try a major family function like a barbecue or birthday party or such as there willbe more people around and she wont be the center of attention then which is less threatening to her.Another thing might be is to invite her when your family goes out to eat like for pizza or such as public places are less theatening too and she will feel more comfortable too. She just needs to be in a situation where the limelight is not on her alone. Hope this makes sense and good luck
2007-08-11 05:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you have been to her house and know her family...right? If not then get to know them and start letting her know in small ways how much you enjoy her family and see if there is anything about her family that is in common with your family. Start making opportunities for her to get closer to your family without having to go into a full tilt frontal assault...ha ha...perhaps one day you can run back by your house to get a jacket or whatever and a sibling can run out to the car and say hi or your folks can wave at her through the window.
Being shy is tough stuff and it takes some people a long time to get over it. I suspect that shyness is only part of her issue and her concern in meeting your family has more to do with her sense of self-worth and worries that she might not meet with your families approval.
I know you are eager to have her meet your family and so I wonder if your family is eager to meet her? I would imagine that your folks won't get too excited about the girls you date until you are in college and there is someone who might be a candidate for daughter in law...so probably it is just how happy you are and wanting to spread it around.
I'm glad you find this girl to be such a treasure and hope you can find a way to keep her safe and secure.
2007-08-11 05:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by LEC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've said so far this girl seems insecure and uncomfortable being who she is. This is not strange considering that you are teenagers. It's very easy to have hang ups about who you are and insecurities. Everyone has them. The best thing you can do is not pressure her. I probably wouldn't bring up the issue anymore and just have fun with her. The truth is, highschool relationships don't usually last past college so don't allocate too much time on any highschool relationship issue. It has only been three months, and while in highschool that seems like forever, it's really not. Just chill and enjoy yourselves.
2007-08-11 05:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Exipnei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that your family really wants her to come over and hang out with them. Make sure that it is a comfortable situation. I'm kinda shy myself and it's always nerve wrecking meeting new people esp. the parents of a bf bc you always feel like they are judging whether or not your good enough for their son.
2007-08-11 05:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let here know that her meeting your family is important to you and that you would enjoy being able to hang out at your house etc.. After she meets your sister and parents she will realize that its not that big a deal and it shouldn't be an issue. Maybe ask your mom to cook a special dinner for her and that way she will feel more obligated to come. best of luck!!
2007-08-11 05:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by avonwithjulie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't mentioned what she likes or what type of person she is! Does she like a particular band? Get her their CD. Does she love the romantic stuff? Then go for a little teddy bear, a rose, and a box of chocolates. Does she like jewelry? Then get her a necklace or earrings. How about getting her a charm bracelet? Find charms that remind her of the fun things you've done together.
2016-05-19 22:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I'd wait for her to come over to your house. Since she is shy, you could scare her off by forcing her to meet new people!
Just talk and hang out, and wait, when she does get to know all your family, then you know she will be very comfortable with you, and you can even make a move!
2007-08-11 05:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mike T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that i am like that too at first but after a while or when i feel comfortable i open up slowly. Don't rush her just give her time she'll open up when she is ready.
2007-08-11 05:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont push her to do it. It seems like shes just not ready yet. Give her a few more months or weeks or so, and after time she will probably be ready.
2007-08-11 05:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by s k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months isnt very long...let her do these things in her own time..im quite shy wen it comes to meeting new people and boyfriends family..she will let you know wen she is ready to go to that level with you..time and patience thats all...she will come around.x
2007-08-11 05:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋