OK the EX...?

Question

I've posted a lot of things about my ex (who i am still in love with). we broke up 8 months ago but i haven't been able to move on. i have tried seeing other guys but it just makes me feel worse, and think about him more.
So we've been talking on and off on the phone/via text messages. It's mostly just friendly small talk. We also spent a weekend together about a month ago, and during that time we basically acted like we were a couple again. But he says he doesn't want to "force things." i asked him recently if he wanted to see me and he acted less than enthused. So i've stopped talking to him. He's been calling and i haven't been picking up. He's texted, too, and i haven't responded.

So he just called and left me a message, saying, "I'm sorry about what I said. I just have a full time job now and there are more important things in my life than a relationship. But I do miss you. And I think when you come back to school we'll probably see eachother." what does it mean?

Answer 1

Honestly, it sounds like he is enjoying being single and has no desire to complicate his life with a relationship at this time.I am sure he does miss you, but it should not be confused as being in love or wanting you back.You can love and care for someone and not be in love with them.You will see each other at school,there is no avoiding that ,but it does not mean he wants anything more than friendship.If you are unable to handle just being friends,you may just want to cut your ties with him for now.Take this time to focus on you and what is good for you and what you want.You are a beautiful person.Love will come again for you, when you least expect it.I wish there was something more I could do to ease your heartache.Hugs!!!

Answer 2

Forget him... Act like what he does doesn't phase you. The more you push the more he will move away. He knows you like a book. I suggest that you act like you don't care. Pretend that you have more important things to do then text him. Even if you don't. You know everyone wants what they can NOT have. Try playing hard to get.
And getting back together with him even if it is only for a weekend will only hurt you in the long run. Tell him to stop jerking you around. You have had enough. And you don't have time for someone who is indecisive.
Move on..... If it was meant to be it will happen.

Answer 3

Well, you really only have two choices, I think. Get back with him or move on.... and you can only get back with him if he wants it too, and by the message he left you, it doesn't sound like he does, for whatever reason.


Try to move on... I know it can be hard, but it'd be the best thing for you, I think. I probably sound calloused, but I'm not... I swear. I just think that's what would be best for you.


Hope this helps, hon. Good luck. Remember, the man who wants to be with you, will make sure he is with you. And that's the guy you should go after.

Answer 4

Maybe what he meant was, that probably, when you see each other in school, you'll have time to hang around, catch up with each other... But I advice you to not expect anything furthur, for it really hurts when you expect too much of the person.. Believe me, it does! Just live life each day.. Keep yourself busy. And when he does show up, then he's there. When he's not, then he isn't. You'll get through in time..for there's no permanent thing in this world. And be glad there's nothing! I am.. it's my only consolation. But that's my story. Keep the faith!

Answer 5

Its a guy thing is what we do we are born with it and he sounds just like me right now what i am doing with my EX,
I am seeing someone I wish to be with but I still care about my Ex we still see each or and other things. I want as a friend and a lover, but i will continue seeing her because what if it does not happened between the new girl I have my Ex to go back to. I know its a bad thing to play with peoples lifes and someday it will happened to me. I know it will. I am sorry but he sounds like me. Ask friends , follow him, I put money he is seeing someone else, or dump him for the trash he is. Bye

Answer 6

I have to say that if a person causes you to cry as much or more than he causes you to smile, then you need to move on. Life is just way too short to be with someone who wants to play little boy *or girl* games. If he only wants you when it seems like you're ignoring him, then he's got problems beyond your ability to fix with a kiss. Roz, you're awesome. Lots of people know this. Find one of them and let this guy go on.

Answer 7

I think a lot of us (women) don't follow or instincts and in not doing so, we get ourselves hurt. My suggestion is to spend some quality time alone really examining what you want and why. Maybe make a list of pro's and con's about him and your relationship. Sometimes we want what we can't have and that is the only reason we want it. I have been in your shoes and I know that no matter what advice you get, you will find that, the best advice was the one you paid no attention to, YOURSELF! Trust your judgment and your heart.

I wish you happiness....You deserve it!

Answer 8

I'm not sure, maybe he wants to prepare.
Before you can help others you must be able to help yourself.
Before you can love someone you must be able to love yourself
maybe he wants to prepare himself and improve himself at some point that he does not need to take care of himself anymore and what he needs to do is to take care of you.
All he does is sacrifice. Trying to find a good job is a sacrifice. its better to have a relationship when your stable. and he sacrificed the relationship maybe because he doesn't want it to end to something bad because he becomes a lousy boyfriend.
Remember he misses you. He misses you because for now he is busy making sacrifices.

I just hope i am correct

good luck!!!

Answer 9

He could actually mean what he said about being other important things going on. It happens. There may be things that need his attention right now but it doesn't mean that he cares about you any less. He's probably just putting himself first to take care of things. Have you ever had to "tie up loose ends"? It may be what he's doing. Hang in there. Good luck!

Answer 10

I dont know if you want to take advice from us, my daughter was in a relationship, and something like that did happen and they broke up But they are back together better than ever and engaged. It was both there faults for the brake up.