Okay, this is hard to explain so pay close attention.
So, there is this guy and he likes my best friend... although he often says that she gets mad too easily and personally... I DO NOT disagree, she has been really hurtful lately.
This is where it gets weird. Okay, this boy that likes her... he tells me all the time how hott i am and he flirts with me all the time, i would never want to betray her. so i never say these things back.
Now it gets even worse.
Just recently this boy told me that his best friend likes me... but i don't really like him, and he's not all that cute. We haven't really ever talked before though...
also... i think he's waaay cuter than his BFF, and umm AAAH!
Here's the question:
-Should I give his BFF a chance?
-Should I try not to get closer to him?
-What about by BFF?
AAAAH! confusing... just spill give me all the advice you can think of. I need it!
2007-08-11 03:26:46 · 15 answers · asked by kadeyp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no one forced you to read this.. so don't be an asshole if you are not going to help.. i don't care what the hell you do, so just leave me alone!
2007-08-11 03:34:13 · update #1
There seems to be only 1 real relationship in this story...you and your friend. If you don't care about it than steal her "bf". Give the other guy a chance, you never know what might happen. But be honest with the bff if you go out with him and you're not interested after that.
2007-08-11 03:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it as A, B, C and D
A thinks that B is hot
A says he like C
D likes B
A is the boy
B is you
C is your best friend
D is A's friend who is interested in you
A is a playboy but he seems to love C and he treats you just casually. Flirting and telling you are hot is not love.
B that is you, love A and you don't like D. A is trying to get you to like or love D so that he could have C all to himself.
A at least knows who he wants. He wants C. This is the part of the problem solved.
Now the other part is you and D. If both of you can accept one another, then this part of the problem is solved also. Or else you will have to get away from A and D and let A continue a love relationship with C.
2007-08-11 03:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mohammad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give his BFF a chance, which could be a good idea, you need to know you might never have a chance with the one that flirts with you, if you date is BFF.
You should just talk to your BFF and see who she likes, she might not even like him.
2007-08-11 03:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from reading your question I would say not to get into any relationship. You aren't old enough. or Mature enough. There is nothing complicated about this situation, you are a kid and can't process it right.
Do what ever you want. We can't tell you and you wont listen to us if we tell you that you are immature, and shouldn't be worrying about boys.
I don't mean to offend you. I'm not trying to do that. It's just that you don't need to get into anything that is going to be meaningless in the future and possibly ruin friendships.
2007-08-11 03:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, complicated indeed. um, firstly, if the guy continues to flirt with you, you should gently tell your friend (as he could be doing this with other girls). plus it doesnt seem like this guy's good for her at all, telling her she's too easily annoyed when she's not, and especially if she's hurtful and he's NOT trying to make her feel better. Finally, dude if you dont want to go out with this other boy then dont lol, I'm sure he'll live to fight another day (and its not very nice to go out with someone and be, you know, half-hearted about it). anyway good luck, I'm sure you'll do the right thing ;)
2007-08-11 03:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by spark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you said is that you don't want to betray your best friend, so don't. The second thing you said was you don't think his bff is all that cute, so why would you want to give him a chance. See it's not all that complicated when you break it down.
2007-08-11 03:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you date someone you don't want to? To prove to yourself you're not attracted to your friend's boyfriend? Well, you are, but he's simply off limits. As for the boyfriend's friend. You're not attracted to him (2+2=4) Unless you're letting the boyfriend pimp you out. Get a grip. The only thing you need to solve this "dilemma" is some morals.
2007-08-11 03:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Shon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just tell him that his BFF isn't really your type. If you are feeling the guy, don't waste your or his time trying to make yourself feel him. If you are feeling the main guy, you should tell him that. It sounds like he would be unhappy with your friend anyway.
2007-08-11 03:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you know that the bf of the friend of yours is flirty and do you want to worry about him and get him when hes all over everyone else? i am wondering maybe not huh? well his friend isn't cute but could be nice if you got to know him and your fb why is it you want to quit with him is he boring? well if hes borng dump him but try and meet the new guy. not the older one that is someones boyfirend cause hes a big firt and he will do the same to you. good luck
2007-08-11 03:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try which ever one u like better even if your friends dating him just talk to her about it first though
2007-08-11 04:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by tyler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋