I've been seeing this guy for 5 months, and I just realised not once did we discuss why or what we were to each other. We haven't had sex yet, and although he's made it clear he wants to, he knows Im not too keen. When we meet we kiss for 3-4 hours, and I always say No, and he says 'that's cool'. He calls me daily, replies to my msgs straight away, and so on! He'll come over to my place (which is a 1hr train ride) just to kiss and hang and watch movies. When we watch movies he wants me to lie with him, and then he hugs me and touches my hand and piches my cheeks...(god i sound lame :P). Im a really perceptive person, and I don't wanna be naive at all. Are some players aware that in order to get sex from a chick who's not easy, they have to try the 'boyfriend' tactic, in order to gain her trust??? Pls if someone has had a similar experience, let me know...
2007-08-11 02:54:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, last 2 weeks, he's called me and we've been speaking for over 3 hours.. we laugh so hard we have to put the phone down.. I tried to get off 3 times and he said .. 'no.. im enjoying this.. stay'. This crap is getting to me, as sad as it is to admit.
2007-08-11 02:55:42 · update #1
Babe u got him hooked. You havent had sex with him, and not many blokes will hang around for 5 months if thats what they want. You obviously buzz off eachother and love eachothers company. I dont think hes using you at all. You should defo talk to him, he probably doesnt want to incase your not as into him. He may think that because you dont want sex, your not interested in him. Hes definately fallen for you-make the first move. Just make sure that your 100% ready to have sex okay? Good luck sweetie!
2007-08-11 03:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have ANY question at all about being ready for sex, you are not! Sex opens the door to all kinds of things, and I don't just mean getting pregnant, disease, all the things you already hear about. I mean, emotionally, sex can play with your mind and confuse you further. If you don't know what kind of relationship you have and how strong it is, then sex won't clear that up for you.
Of course there are men who will use the b/f thing to get sex, there are men who will do all kinds of things for it, but there are also those who really care and will have sex, but will still realize you are not the one for them and break up with you after you've had sex. If you know that sex doesn't make a relationship permanent and that after sex you could still lose him, if you know all that and you feel sex is okay for you both, then you might be ready for it. But if you have any of these questions you have, then sex should not be considered.
Before you are ready for sex, you have to understand it does not prove love, it does not keep a man and it does not lose a man, it does all of it and none of it all at once. Confusing? yes, that is why you should be emotionally mature enough before you have it, because if you are not, then you will not be able to recover and have good relationships after you have had a bad one where sex was involved.
If he is willing do be your boy friend without sex, then enjoy that, if he is pushing you to have it and you have questions, then you are not ready and it may be time to move on to someone who is at the same place in life you are at, where sex is not something you want until you are ready.
2007-08-11 10:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_contradiction 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, if he is sticking around after 5 months with no sex, he truly likes you. Most guys won't wait that long. If the friendship is this good, sounds like you have a good thing started, and you need to give him a chance. I don't mean give in to him - that should only happen when you are ready for it. You have what most women hope to find - a good friendship based relationship that may grow into something more. These are the relationships that last. I know - I'm married to the same kind of guy for almost 28 years now. We are still very good friends, too.
2007-08-11 10:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you blind? This guy likes you more than just friends! Just friends don't kiss for hours and hug, etc. You both get along very well and can talk for hours. Sounds like you are in denial that YOU like him too.
Guys will change their tactics, but only in the first month or so. A majority of men in a casual relationship will have left within the first month with you not giving in to sex. A lot men will leave after three dates!
This guy is being respectful of you and is trying to woo you, but you are looking at it as being lame. If you are not interested, you NEED to tell him NOW. You are leading him along.
2007-08-11 10:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Staveros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Missy, it sounds like you don't really know what you want from the relationship either. Mostly, this depends on your ages. If you aren't 18 yet, you should cool it and be friends,,,, concentrate on school and studying. If you're an adult, then you need to define your own goals and aspirations and see if Romeo fits in.
Good Luck
2007-08-11 10:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a guy :) and i personally feel IMHO that for me when i truly love a gal, i will think about long term relationship with her and sex is something that is to be done after marriage.
2007-08-11 10:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is definetly persuing you..........you're a conquest, you'll never know until after the fact....and wait to see how is then
2007-08-11 10:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋