i'm a 44 year old divorced, school teacher. i have known this particular 19 years-old gal since she was 17. i have done everything possible to be in her good books like providing her with pocket money, as well as fetching and sending her back to her college which is many hundred miles away from where her folks and i live. earlier her family coaxed me into an engagement with her which i accepted though i wasnt financially stable yet (my divorce settlement squeezed every last penny out of my pocket). the wedding was planned for next year. 3 mnths after the engagement, the gal asked 4 d engagement to be broken off. for ur info, i am more embarassed than angry coz at such a matured age, i could not see the game she was playing. her parents have dared to say a word about it. i am wondering, why they asked me to propose and get engaged with the gal in the 1st place without making sure she was ready for it?
2007-08-11 02:28:01 · 8 answers · asked by hisham d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It could be that the girl's parents wanted to unload their daughter onto someone else who would pay for her education and give her pocket money.
2007-08-11 03:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of off age is a big factor here, i am sorry but when i was 19 yrs old i wouldnt want to be saddled with a 44 yrs old man. in 6 yrs u will be 50 and she is probably looking at that too. u obviously didnt love this girl and she didnt love u so a broken engagement is much better than a broken marriage. suck it up and move on with your life as i am sure there are plenty of females your age that wants a distinguished school teacher.
2007-08-11 09:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Heather. It doesn't sound like you were even dating. Why would you agree to an engagement if you hadn't even dated the person?
Please consider yourself lucky to have escaped this marriage. And next time, look for someone closer to you in age. Someone with whom you share some common interests. Really get to know the person first, before considering marriage. Good luck to you.
2007-08-11 10:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
44, engaged to a 19 year old? it didn't sound as though you were even dating, so why would you ask her to marry you? at 44, you should be making your own decisions, not listening to her family. grow a set, and be a man!
2007-08-11 09:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
at your stage in life, i would think it would be obvious when one is being used. they thought that they could set their daughter up for life, but then they realized that you aren't made of money. that and she is only 19. do not get me wrong, 19 years get married and go on to be married sometimes for a long time, but usually to other 19 years olds. :P my rule of thumb is if you could have been her father, you are too old for her.
2007-08-11 14:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Glad that someone was willing to end this "engagement". Time for you to start dating women your own age.
Have a great time at it.
2007-08-11 11:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the parents were using you
2007-08-11 09:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by mom to be 6/27/09 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They were using you to pay for her college expenses.
2007-08-11 13:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋