He walked away from me last night how do I fill this empty space I feel inside me?

Question

Last night my boyfriend left me saying I killed all the love he felt for me but he asked me to not get out of his life, be friends with him no matter what. I sent him several SMS and in the last I asked him to talk. When I called him to his cell phone the first time it did ring but after it was off. I feel so empty. On Monday I start to work again after several years without working because I was taking care of my mom (she got cancer) and my sister (she needed me because she was studying medicine and needed so much support)...I need to have a smiling face because it is customer service...how could I smile now? I can't. I took this job thinking about going to him and now it doesn't matter anymore...

Answer 1

Go to work and get on with your life, you have done so much for everyone elce now it is time for you. Make the most of your time apart have you ever heard the saying "You never know what you've lost till it's gone?" Well let him figure it uot Be nice to him but when you see him don't let him know you are hurting inside let him think your life is good and maybe if your lucky he will see what he has thrown away and want it bac. Don't sit around and think about it, it will just make it harder.

Answer 2

It's not all lost. He left a little "window" open and you can do the best of it if you want to win him back. Don't overwhelm him with so many calls, take a little brake and tell him how sorry you're for whatever you done that kill the love.
Be thankful for the opportunity to stay in contact and start from the beginning, the same way it happened when you two start going out.
Your job, think about it as a little escape to see the world in a different perspective. It's a great chance, if you open your mind, to meet new friends. Practice in front of a mirror, smiling is easier if you see how nice you look when you do, and when you start working smile again, start with your mouth and your whole body will start feeling the change.

Answer 3

* for my friend good question. I can only answer this based on my own perception of how I behave. I think that I like to be "empty". I won't exert the energy, emotion and time it takes to have a friend. The reason for that is disillusionment of what a friend is. I have been disappointed, used and to some extent abused so much by so many that I just say well you know what screw it, I'd rather not have the BS that goes with having relationships that might make me feel a little better, a little less empty. Some things I do that help the day seem good and worthwhile are talking to my boyfriend, he is the best but he leaves me alone when I want to be. Spending time with the dogs 4 of them they love me unconditionally and they never disappoint. My grandson, he is my world, I love going to the park, feeding him, reading to him, sleeping with him, just chasing around after him. My Mother, who is a gem, I will do anything in the world for her including socializing if necessary. I volunteer at church and stay involved in the church activities. I help someone who needs a hand up, for instance we just moved furniture for a woman who had no help. So these things make me feel more fulfilled and less empty but ultimately I think I like feeling "like me". Does this make sense? *smile* Your questions always make me want to write a book about my life. lolol. God Bless you!

Answer 4

well, I know it's hard and it will be for a long time maybe, but you can still be thankful that you didn't get in deeper with him than you did. If his love for you was killed, then it wasn't the true love that you deserve. Try some relaxation, purify your mind, get closer to God if you like. It's not so much if you're bubbling and happy, it's if you're cheerful and not depressed. You never know, this new job could have been placed in your path to help you heal, and you may find the man of your dreams, and one who will really love you, through this job, Try to put a happy face on it, and redirect your life again to be about you instead of ur relationship with him

Answer 5

Count your blessings.

If he can just up and walk away from you because of some lame excuse, then he did you an enormous favor.

Sure, your heart may break for a while, but don't dwell on it. Move on. When he realizes that what he had in you was the best thing that ever happened to him, it will be too late.

Smile on the job because you never know who you might meet.

Again, count your blessings!

Answer 6

Well! first of all u have to be clear of one thing i.e. DO U WANT HIM BACK, OR u r just finding it hard to move on?

anyways, what seems like u have really scared him away by factors u MuST have to find urself e.g by asking him face to face , Just ask him to give u a chance to really find how u have hurt him un-consciously. He will tell u, then do analysis of ur own behaviour and actions. plz try to be considerate and open minded, COZ its obvious u dont knw how u have let him fall out of love.

trust me there is no harm to admit mistakes and discover wt actions of urs has hurt him. Once u find out, try to see from his side and try not to justify from ur own point of view ..IF U R REALLY THAT SERIOUS IN THIS RELATIONSHIP.

Then try to work out on it, its not gonna happen overnight but it should.


I will also suggest not ignore the chance of him just making excuse to get out. take help of very very close and trusted mutual friends to get to knw his feelings more....

As for work, u will pull it through once u will be at work, maybe not very cheery but u can pull off a smile for few days. i knw u can.Good luck

Answer 7

Smiling is the easiest thing to do, no matter how you feel. When I go to my office I leave all my personal problems and negative emotions at the door, walk in as proud and confident as I can, smile as wide as possible to all my colleagues and when I reach my desk I'm already involved in my work. Imagine you are an actress, practise it if you wish. I know it's hard... but you can learn how to control your facial expressions - you can really do it!! Good luck!

Answer 8

hmm..
there are plenty of other guys out there you know..
and the fact that he still wants you in his life is that you still mean something for him.

just give him his time.. i think he just needs some time alone to think. and he still wants to be friends with you no matter what..

on you work and family problems i'd say that you just have to pretend that u r happy and make some new friends and start going out together.. if you keep on saying that you have nothing to be happy about you wont be happy for sure..

so just keep holding on until the world gets brighter for you..

if you need anything im always here..

:: goodluck ::

Answer 9

the first thing to do is to accept to your self your situation now.... that you and your boyfriend had part ways.... i know it is very hard but time will heal the wound,though not instantly,it would heal in proper time.... it would be better if you stay away from him for some time, give your heart a break.... because if you still see him or communicate with him constantly, it will hurt you more and it will be harder for you to move on....
second, take this solitary time to find yourself...... it will help you heal..... talk to your family or to friends,this will lighten your burden...... pray because this really is the solution...ask for guidance for you to be strong.... ask for the power to forgive your boyfriend......
third.pamper yourself..... go to the salon, have a new hair cut, go to the spa or to the gym.....just do anything to make yourself happy....
fourth, think positive....think happy thoughts..... remember this is just a challenge.... you can do it....

take care...

Answer 10

It means even he don't love you any more he still wants you. Either to be your boy friend or he just want to use you.
So when the time comes that he realize he cannot find what he wants to other girl, he can just comes back to you and say" he cannot forget you and he still love you. So my advise is" try to forget him and put your attention for more important things of your life.