How do I answer this question?

Question

My husband and I have been married for 2 yrs. I want children, he does not (he has 2 from a previous marriage). People are alway asking me when I am going to have kids. This is a touchy subject and is really nobody else's business. How do I answer this in a nice way, but in a way to make them quit asking?

Answer 1

You have a choice. You can turn it around on them by saying, "thanks for asking, why do you want to know?" which will put them on the spot and force them to justify themselves.

Or, you can just shrug and immediately change the subject. Only the dullest people will not get the hint. For them, you use the above stated response.

Answer 2

My cousin married a man with 3 kids of his previous marriage, she never had one of her own; but when people ask her is she have children or any question like that she always answers she has 3.

Answer 3

If you are feeling this way, it must be evident to those people too. I mean do you go around telling them about yours and your husbands' points of view. You should not. You have been married for just two years. Wait, when he sees how good you can be with your two kids, he might want to have more with you. And stop saying that they are his kids. They are both yours now.

Answer 4

i would try and take this in a light hearted way rather than deeply! ... just say something like 'oooo i dont know, we talk about it every now and again but cant decide' thats not a yes or no answer! ... they should then shut up! :)

i agree though! its never anyone elses business ... you wouldnt dream of asking someone the next time they might have sex again and i think this is just as personal in all honesty ... not something ive ever done!

Answer 5

Tell them that having children is a big responsibility and a huge decision to make. Something you and your husband have to decide when you are best suited financially and emotionally to take on. Once you feel you are both ready to handle it you will make that decision. Then ask them to please stop pressing you on it and wait and see. Tell them they'll be among the first to know when the time is right.

Answer 6

Just tell them that that's between u and ur partner....and if u have them they will see the children!! i know it's a little rude, but that's the only way u can get people to stop asking personal questions!!!

Answer 7

You could answer it in two ways:
1. just to take the edge off of it, just say "haha kids? nah too young for that, but who knows what the future brings, but for now i love my step kids (assuming you see them, if not just go with the first part) and my husband.

2. Be straight forward and just say "Hmm i dont think we are ready for kids, but when the time comes we will let you guys know, till then nothings happening so dont hold your breathe.

but i'm sure if you just brush it off in a way where you'd be joking about it, they'd drop it eventually because its not directly affecting them so they will forget it eventually.

Answer 8

I know how you feel! People can be so rude and presumptuous! I think the best way to handle it is to say you and your husband are discussing it. That way you're not telling them flat out to mind their own effing business.

Answer 9

i'm with Sharon M's first suggestion -- turn the tables on the busybodies!!

or just be blunt and tell them it's none of their business or it's a personal issue between you & your husband...there's no 'nice' way to say 'none of your business' is there? but they should mind theirs and not ask, so they're not exactly being polite!!

Answer 10

You can say that you already have 2 children and you and your spouse enjoy the size of your family at this time.