2007-08-11 00:08:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
(((((Rae))))) It's mostly the idea that we all want ot see ourselves and being independent and self-reliant. I suppose it stems fro self-pride, we ALL want to see ourselves as being able to take care of ourselves and our needs. When we are put inot a situation where we need to ask for help, it makes us ashamed to admit that we just can't do everything for ourselves.This is one of those things that we, as humans, need to overcome. We ALL need help in one form or another all throughout our lives and there is NO shame in seking and asking for that help. the shame comes with not showing gratitude for actually receiveing that help.
Raji the Green Witch
2007-08-11 04:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Raji the Green Witch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No only to seek, but to even accept.
I think it has to do with obligation.
For a lot of people (and this backed up by dictionary definitions) accepting help (and even thankfulness!) has a component that means to incur an obligation.
I think that when we do not allow others to contribute to us, we are being selfish and egotistical. We are putting our own feelings above theirs, and denying them the opportunity to do something that will make THEM happy.
There are a lot of people in the world who have invested their time and energy into something, becoming expert at it because they are passionate about it, and they long for someone - anyone - to let them share that, whether it's making a good join in a cabinet or reading or anything else.
2007-08-11 05:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Raven's Voice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because more often than not, they have been usually rejected before, or experienced being used when they seek help from others..
2007-08-11 00:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think because asking for help is an admission that you can't do it yourself. A defeat, if you will. That's hard for some people to admit: that they need others at times and aren't completely self-sufficient.
2007-08-11 00:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes pride - or they're afraid of being embarrassed of what other people would think. The only shame is not getting help.
2007-08-11 00:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by j b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Number one, pride. Number two, shame. Number three, fear.
This is not a scientific survey, just my opinion
2007-08-11 08:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Morgana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pride, of course.
Men more so than women, because we're wired that way.
There may also be a fear of revealing faults, risking gossip.
2007-08-11 06:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be best that way... since many times we can work things out on our own and get stronger in the process.
2007-08-11 00:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people think that the person there asking help from may think there silly, stupid etc.
Sometimes its a case of ego.
2007-08-11 00:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by martinn12006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people are shy ... and many people don't want to be seen as weak I think ...
2007-08-11 00:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by Luay14 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋