2007-08-10 22:37:34 · 20 answers · asked by nino d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
here's the story... her bf is in thailand and they have been engaged since april.. and i met her last may.. and didn't told me about her engagement,, all i know is that she has a bf.. here's the thing, her bf already cheated on her last january in thailand.. but she took him back and risking right now.. u know what?? i even travelled for her,to see her and be with her.. this is the first time i have ever loved someone like this.. she wants us to be friends,plain friends... and that i must "keep" everything that happened to us and the things we have shared for the last 3 months.. i really dont want her to be out of my life coz she means everything to me right now.. was i been used by her?? please tell me what to do.. im really confused.. i still love her so much but she's being cold to me.. no replies when i tell her i love her and that i miss her.. as in no comments or anything... it kills me when she does that.. please help me..
2007-08-11 05:53:24 · update #1
You have a Mistress. You certainly couldn't call her a girlfriend because she is someone else's fiance.
Why would you want her anyway? She's already proved herself to be ready, willing, and able to cheat on a person that she has promised to love and be faithful to. She'd do the same to you.
2007-08-10 22:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any idea why she is still engaged to him? Maybe there's a lot going on in her head. Questions of which of you 2 r going to be a better life partner for her. She may like u but feel that she will have more security wid the other guy. So show her dat you can give her all she wants...if not now then with time. All de best. Hope things work out for you.
2007-08-11 05:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by Duski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point in time you will have to reconsider your relationship, do you really want to share your girl with another guy? Also, she will have to make an important choice... she might be with her "long time" bf simply because of the security he can give her, on the other hand maybe with you she is feeling the breeze of something different, something new..you should try to figure out whether she actually loves you or not. You should figure out what you want, and if you guys want each other than stand by her until she finally breaks up with him. If however she doesnt want to break up with him, then you have to step back and find someone whom you can call yours.
2007-08-11 05:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted to be with you she would. It seems like she wants cake and eat it too. You need to remove yourself from this relationship as 'she is really not that into you'. This was a book written for females however, it does apply to males also.
And at the end of the day it is unfair to the man whose proposal she has accepted. Put yourself in his shoes and ask if they feel comfortable?
Do you really want a relationship that can never be out in the open for fear of someone seeing you together, you are the 'other' man not THE MAN.
Respect yourself and extricate yourself from this relationship and perhaps some relationship counselling would be worthwhile for you to regain your thinking and balance of what you want from a relationship.
You deserve to be loved, adored and wanted by your partner 24/7.
2007-08-11 05:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounded like my bf ex!!!
Here is the story :
before i met my bf..
he met her (his ex)in the badminton class
they become frenz
she flirted wit him and ask him to be her bf(she had a bf)
my bf tot she was single
after dating over a month then he know that dat girl had a long-time bf
my bf tot she will leave dat guy cos of him
he buy her stuff that she demanded(exp stuff)
he waited her for 2 month +
den he dump my bf and
go on wit her long time bf..
and she is still always pm my bf
even wen he is wit me(dat is of cos>it make me unhappy)
all dis time are not worth wasting
Dump her!!! cos she totally use u!!!
ended up wit no gf and an empty wallet
hope u dun fall in to the same trap!!
Good luck^^ wish u all the best!!
2007-08-11 06:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by hermainie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay....im not going to say this to be mean. Im gonna lay it out nice and simple, i don't want to hurt you for this... But...i wouldn't undertand if she has a second boyfriend if she is already engaged... You must really love her. Talk to her and tell her that, sort it out, and see who she wants to be with more. And if she wants to be with you, thats great, if she doesn't then.... you have to respect her choice. But if she wants to be with you... her being engaged, doesn't mean anything. she can chose not to be married, and be with you. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-08-11 05:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is obvious that your girlfriend does not have an understanding of integrity - in the fullest sense of the word - she is indulging in infidelity.It is also obvious that you are a willing accomplice to this deception.In is not my intention to moralise with respect to your dilema,nor is my resonse subjective.My response is based on the the principle of "as ye sow ,so shall ye reap",and if your girlfriend continues with her deception/infidelity,and aid and abett same,both of you shall have to reap the consequences
2007-08-11 06:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Socrates1944 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get some good health insurance..your going to need it when he finds out and kicks the $hit outta you!
2007-08-11 05:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
engaged doesn't mean married - if u love her and she loves u then "love is in the air..." & if u feel like it's worth it, go for it
2007-08-11 05:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by Denisuka 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find urself another girlfriend. if she really wanted to stay with u, she wouldn't still be engaged to another guy.
2007-08-11 05:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋