renewal of vows?

Question

We are coming up to 10 years married and I would like to arrange a renewal ceremony, how much is this are we just paying for registrar or do you still pay for paperwork? Any nice different ideas on how to hold it would be welcome too thx

Answer 1

We got married abroad by ourselves but wanted something to share with our family when we got back, so we had a renewal of vows at our local register office with just close family and friends, with a big Party at home afterwards. We had bridesmaids again and you can exchange rings again or just re-dedicate them, you get to choose what you want to say, my husband read a poem to me at the end which had all the women in tears - although afterwards I found out the registrar had suggested he read it!!! We got a certificate at the end and had to go through all the legalities at the beginning on where we got married etc, I'm not sure whether it is just the registrar you pay for but I know it is cheaper than the wedding ceremony.
We attended a renewal last year and they had everything that they hadn't' had at their first, with a singer, doves, gaming tables the lot so you can do whatever you want

Answer 2

I never quite get why people want a wedding re-do. You just can't recapture that moment when you pledge your life to another, and a re-enactment of the "wedding" is just cheesy. That's why most people end up not doing it. Like they say, one wedding per husband. But your situation sounds like the thing that prompts a vow renewal. These are normally on major anniversaries starting with 5. Would that be an option? You're correct that there's not much of a ceremony, and they're generally not huge events, but it doesn't have to be casual. You could set aside a room at a nice restaurant, for example. And then you'd read the new vows you've written, reflecting renewed commitment or however you'd word it, then you'd eat and celebrate. Another option is to do this as a destination thing with just the two of you, or with immediate family. But don't play a bride. You've been married for several years.

Answer 3

I don't think you'll get any paperwork - you're already legally married so nothing is changing. As far as I'm aware there are no legal requirements for vow renewal but if you want a registrar then of course you'll have to pay for it

Do you have a favourite place that you both love? A holiday resort for example?

When you got married did either of you want a wedding different to what you had, if so could you what they would have liked this time?

Each to their own of course but I have to say I've never understood why people want to renew marriage vows. I'm getting married a week on Sunday and my vows will be FOR LIFE, I won't ever need to renew them

Answer 4

I dont know why you need more paperwork when you are already married. A vow renewal is merely a symbolic action; nothing physically changes. You are affirming a marriage which is already 10 years strong- focus on that, keep the ceremony short and sweet (no wedding dress), then have a "10th anniversay party" with family & friends.

Answer 5

Since you are already legally married, you definitely don't need to pay for a registrar.

You actually can have anyone close to you assist in renewing your vows. You could also have clergy if you are members of a church. At my church they renew vows/bless the marriage quite often.

I think it is a lovely idea to renew your commitment to each other! Good luck!

Answer 6

No paperwork necessary. You already did that.

Here . . . folks generally ask their clergy person to officiate at their place of worship. The vow renewal is often followed by a party at their home.

Some couples go to Vegas or Gatlinburg and have a vow renewal at a chapel there.

Whatever you decide, good luck to you.

Answer 7

we are renewing our vows in november for our 10 yrs wedding anniversary, and we dont pay no one as we are getting married again and there shouldnt be a fee to refile yiour paper work the wedding certificate u have is just fine . we are having 2 bridesmaid and 2 groomsmen and my kids in this wedding and a simple buffet dinner and i got my dress for a steal at davids bridal for 40.00 and it was so nice and beautiful. do your own thing and enjoy the nite. have as many guests as u want and what ever kind of food u enjoy. but make sure this is our nite not no one elses. congrats on your renewal and god bless u as u go thru life happily married...

Answer 8

There is no point in renewing your vows at a registry office as there is no spiritual significance to it. The RO is just a legal way of being married.

Answer 9

You can have a ceremony done at a church or another location - it's not "another wedding", so you just have to arrange things with your minister/officiant for a blessing, basically. Then you would just have an anniversary party - a dinner and little party for family and close friends at your home, or another location.

Answer 10

You pay for both i think- i remember my brother did it a few years ago- they had a simple ceremony at home with close family rather than all the fuss a big wedding affords.