One of my close friends has been going through some "regression" since someone close to him passed away. We've been friends for years and according to him and our friends, i was always the girl that "opened him up" - he felt comfortable w. me and could easily tell me things compared to other people where they would question him about things. He's a "shy" type with girls and keeps to himself with his own personal matters but open and outgoing with others.
Since we've met he's always adored/respected me. Earlier this year, i realized i felt the same way and he did, so we kinda "got together" (kisses/cuddles) and I was his first kiss (we're in our 20's). But after this, we decided not to rush and become friends. About a month later, he lost his friend and everything went downhill with out relatiionship.
The whole time i was just concerned about my friend and how he was doing; i didn't want anything else but for him to be okay and for us to be good friends again. Instead, he's been avoiding me the most - avoiding all his friends and only talking to "certain people" and i'm not included. He has no "problems" anymore, and he's back to this insecure, quiet guy who comes off as an a s s h o l e. The random times when we would talk now and then, he would be NORMAL but everytime he gets closer to me, he comes different - he's NORMAL with everyone else but with me, it's like i'm the plague and he wants to avoid getting sick...
Why doesn't he wanna get close again?
2007-08-10 20:36:07 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's like everytime we're "normal" again he takes a step back and pretends that it never happen...it's more of fear that something bad might happen if we get close and thus, it's my fault...and he's been hanging out with this girl that he's good friends with but she tells me they don't talk - he'll give her half a s s answers but he just likes hanging out wit her ...:(
he's also a "shy boy" - we haven't really "talked-talked" in a long time and i don't know if half the time it's him wanting "reassurance"
2007-08-10 20:37:02 · update #1
He feels bad about life and just wants to be alone. You remind him of what he can never have....a GF. So he pushes you away....soon for good.
2007-08-10 20:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋