ok, so basically when me and my boyfriend broke up I met this guy a FRIEND guy, I never had intentions of being more than friends. He just made me laugh and we had good times drinking and he took my mind off my ex. Well me and my ex got back together and now I feel bad ever hanging out wiht him because my ex doesn't know abou thim and he keeps texting me, that other guy asking to hang out and go out, for drinks. Is it bad that I go out with this guy and have drinks if were just friends? For some reason I feel bad if i did it. I text him back just saying that Im going to sleep. But if I were to hang out with him behind my boyfriend's back.....what is this? So weird....am i bad?
2007-08-10 20:09:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not at all. Just let him know that you've gotten back together with an old boyfriend, and that you'd be happy to have drinks if it is all three of you.....
....unless, of course, you have some romantic designs on your drinking buddy. Then it's a whole different ball of wax. You might give it a couple of weeks to see if you have worked things out with the boyfriend, and (if so), let your drinking buddy know what the deal is. Otherwise, you can probably string him along with excuses ("Oh, my friend just came into town and we're having girls' night out," etc.) and go back to him when things don't work out with your ex. Of course, there is a chance your drinking buddy will see through this game-playing, but those are the risks you take.
2007-08-10 20:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with your boyfriend and let him know that you were hanging out as just friends with another guy when you were not together. Its not fair to sneak around to see this other person. How would you feel if your guy was doing the same thing with a girl and telling you they were "just friends" If you don't tell him and he finds out it will look like there was more to the situation then you are saying. When me and my ex broke up it was basically because he told me he had gone out to dinner with another girl. He said it wasn't a date, but the fact that he knew it was something he should not have done, and he confessed it to me let me know that even though he said it wasn't a date, this girl was the person he chose to see instead of me..i think that says it all.
2007-08-10 20:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing weird here...except your reaction. There is nothing wrong with having a guy pal. Unless you have a mean, violent and controlling boyfriend who does not trust you and must keep you under lock and key at all times.
2007-08-10 20:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's just a friend, what's the big deal? I don't think it should be something that you hide from your bf though - unless there is a reason to hide. And if there is a reason to hide, maybe something is wrong with it.
2007-08-10 20:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what your biyfriend is liek if he is controlling and overbearing then he probably wont liek it, but if he is relaxed and doesn't care about you have a good guy friend, then it should be ok, technically ur doing nothing wrong...while u were broken up, its none of his business what you do in ur life..
2007-08-10 20:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mike H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋