Okay this is really serious and I need help. There is this guy I like. I have known him since high school, we graduated this year and well there are times where he calls me and talks to me and then there are times when I call him and talk to him. Are conversations dont last very long, the longest we have ever talked is about 10mins on the phone. I have told some of my friends about me liking him and they say that I am to good for him that he isnt good enough and that I can do better. Well I have known him for a year and a 1/2 and I feel that I know him pretty well. He has no Idea that I like him and I want to tell him but I dont know how. I dont want to be straight up and tell him "I like you" I want to kind of give him hints rather than just tell him. What kind of hints would you give a guy/girl.
P.S. he is a class clown and he might not take it seriously I want him to take it seriously though.
The reason my friends say that im to good for him is cuz of looks and how he is a clown
2007-08-10 19:51:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that this is amazing! My advice is that the nicest think you can do is to say "I like you". I'm not sure how young you two are but I can say that I paid little attention to discrete hints or body language when I was in my early teens. Tell him you like him! Your friends are just jealous, sounds corny but it's probably true.
2007-08-10 19:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by CyEngin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am actually in a very similar situation at the moment and I totally understand how bad it can suck. Guys tend to freak out if you're just straight with them and it can scare them away without giving them a chance to consider you in that girlfriend sort of way. You should definetly try hinting by flirting with him a little at first, and if it dosen't seem to work try something a little less subtle like inviting him over to hang out with you and some mutual friends or if you feel comfortable enough try a one-on-one situation. Obviously your friends are a little shallow and arn't even good enough for this guy if they think that about the way he looks, just focus on your own gut instincts and if you feel like this guy is right for you then try it, and if it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be. Sometimes friends don't quite understand, but if you want to keep them on your side because they actually are good people and treat you with respect then just keep some of the guy stuff to yourself until you've figured out what to do with your situation then they might understand more if you end up actually dating the guy. I appoligize for not giving you better advise, but like I said I am also in a similar situation and am looking for someone else's opinion as well, so I hope I helped a little.
2016-05-19 06:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by liana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you talk to him ask him if he wants to hang out. Suggest a movie you've been wanting to see or something else that's casual. You may see a different side to him then the class clown that he was. Everyone is attracted to different types of people so for your friends to say you're too good for him because of his looks is not very nice. Hang out with him one on one and get to know his other sides.
2007-08-10 19:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not to be harsh but, I will tell you like I would my own daughter (shes now 29)
If you graduated this year, why would you want to play high school games?
Ask the guy point blank if he would like to go out sometime...dancing, movies, out to eat or something simple like that.
You are now in the real world and need to start maturing. Drop the silly teeny-bopper stuff and grow up.
2007-08-10 19:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it was me i would tell him straight up but the way you are going you will need to talk longer than 10 minites and if you cant find something to talk about just say something funny and tell him that if you could see him you would want to hug him that usally gives some kind of a hint........
2007-08-10 20:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by magan m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try honesty; If he laughs he 'aint worth the effort. If he is isn't interested but is nice about it accept his friendship at face value. If you can't handle that, politely back away and give yourself some space.
2007-08-10 20:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by bulruq 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've been speaking with him for over a year and he hasn't asked you out on date, then I'd say he thinks of you as just a friend. It doesn't take most guys very long to ask a girl out if they feel a physical attraction towards them.
2007-08-10 20:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
word of wisdom, get out while you still can. you seem relatively intelligent and sound like you have a bright future ahead of you. this guy on the otherhand sounds like hes going to live with mommy and daddy till 50 and sponge off every person he can to get by. you are gonna be one of those girls in small claims court for a loan you made to him and he calls it a gift never a loan. the judge is going to say exactly what i am telling you now, "what the hell were you thinking", ...your rational is going to be something like this: "...but i love him and i thought i could change him and make him a better person..." trust me i work in the courts and have seen this a million times... LISTEN OUT THERE YOUNGSTERS!
2007-08-10 20:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe one time call him up and say hey we should do something sometime. hang out together and the natural chemistry will either flow or not. You won't know until you spend some one-on-one time with him. Bon chance!
2007-08-10 19:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by Treefaerie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him out to dinner or to a movie and get to know him better to see if you really want a relationship. dont let what your friends say make you choose your option, go with what you think is right.
2007-08-10 19:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by whenpumbaflys 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋