Is it Wrong to Feel Sorrowful about Sex?

Question

I am 19 years old and have never had sex and I do not want to until I am married. However, a guy that I am in a relationship makes me feel bad and calls me frigid.My family brought me up to not have sex until marriage, but most people my age don't understand that. I know that if I were to lose my virginity that I would feel extremely sorrowful and guilty if it was not to the person I was married to. I also feel like I need to be a positive role model for my sister. I feel as if I did that, then I could no longer giver her advice bc I would be living a lie.

Your thoughts please.

Answer 1

You are doing the right thing. Because if something makes you feel bad after you do it or the thought of doing it. Well you shouldn't be doing it. Stick by what your morals are and don't do anything until you are ready. Your boyfriend can't respect that then he really aint for you. Because it really shouldnt matter if you have sex with a person to let them know you like them or you care or anything lie that feel me. You are alright keep that in mind. Fu ck what the rest of the world talking about

Answer 2

So... this guy is pressuring you into having sex with him??
If the answer is yes, then he's not worth it. If you don't feel
comfortable having sex with people before marriage then
don't do it, because you will regret it if you do. Don't
worry about what everyone else has to say. Just do what
you feel is right.

It's normal to feel sorrowful about sex before marriage,
specially because you were raised that way, so that's
something that you find wrong (at least for yourself).

I'm in the same situation. My parents are really traditional
and that's the way I've been raised, save it until marriage.
:p I know that if I were to have sex, i would not be able
to look them in the eye.

Answer 3

Listen, I'm 24 and a virgin, a guy at that, I understand what you mean and you would deeply regret it, in fact you'd probably regret it so much you'd break up with him, it's happened to people I know before. I know some people say it doesn't matter and if you have no conscience on the issue I guess it doesn't because you don't feel guilty...He should not tell you that you are frigid, that is a terrible thing to say to you. Love does not = sex like he thinks. In fact if he says things like that he doesn't seem like the greatest guy to be with, I mean he doesn't respect your values and that's no way to treat someone. If you have sex with him you'll feel even more inclined to marry him even if he's not so great a guy and you don't want that. I think you are doing the right thing and honestly it would be better to be with someone who respect you. There are better guys out there you don't have to settle

Answer 4

Good for you! I admire you for standing up for what you believe. Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad or guilty for doing what you feel is right for you. If he really loves you he'll respect your beliefs. I'd also like to say that I think it's great that you are trying to be a positive role model for your sister. You seem like a very intelligent and positive young woman. Hold your head up and keep it high!

Answer 5

You should be happy and fulfilled when you do decide to share your body, not sorrowful. I answered your other question about this subject, and again say that this man is not for you if he doesn't try to abide by your wishes. You are not frigid! You are committed to a certain ideal and need to find a man that is like minded.

Answer 6

adult males at right here communicate approximately women individuals in a disgusting way so i'm now thinking in the event that they view their very own mothers, better halves, sisters, gf's, aunts, grandmothers, and so on. in that comparable demeaning way. If adult males won't be able to communicate extraordinary approximately women individuals then that's honest to assume that those comparable adult males hate their very own woman kin and ancestors.

Answer 7

GIRL!!! DOn't become influenced by what people tell you! I BELIEVE IN THE SAME THING YOU DID>>> BUT UNFORTUNATELY I LOST IT BEFORE MARRIAGE (the good thing is that im marrying him) .... ANYWAY HE'S ONLY TELLING YOU THAT BECAUSE HE WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU..........PLEASE DON'T FALL IN TEMPTATION NOR LISTEN TO WHAT AIRHEAD PEOPLE SAY........IGNORE THEM.........IT'S ALWAYS BEAUTIFUL TO LOSE IT TO YOUR HUSBAND! AND NO MATTER HOW MUCH HE SAYS THAT HE LOVES AND TELLS YOU HE'S GOING TO MARRY YOU......DON'T DO IT..........ALOT OF THINGS CAN HAPPEN (and who knows maybe you guys end up breaking up- and what did you lose ?? your one pure thing that only belongs to you - something God gave you)....

if people pressure you......you can always say this my teacher from school always told us if a girl makes fun of you because your a virgin...don't fall under pressure.......tell them "i can become you (not virgin - slut - wh ore - etc) if i wanted too, but you can never be like me (virgin - pure) ........ and it's true.... only you lose your virginity....it's gone forever....even if you 'rejuvinate your virginity' (that's bullcrap) you only get it once... and you ONLY LOSE IT ONCE!

Answer 8

Then don't do it bottom line. Why do something when you are having so much pain your obviously thinking of the negative which means it aint time. He will have sex and boom be gone you'll be sad, and hurt it's time for you to think of you and what you want to do. Only you know your destiny.

Answer 9

I think you are kick a** i wish i would have waited. and if he really loved you then he would understand.... dont let him make you feel bad because you have a plan for your life. I admire you.... and how you have stuck to your convictions....

I am not as strong as you are.

Answer 10

Hitch™ says:
You are doing the right thing. Like I said in my previous answer to you, do what is right for yourself. Don't sacrifice your virginity for anyone unless you are absolutely ready to!