I am 19 yrs old and I have a really harsh living condition! My parents have always compared me and my sister, she messed up before me and now they take it out on me always saying ( don't be like ur sister) well my sister was licky and got out at 18 to go to school. I have decided to go to the local community college to save money. My dad is always getting on me about things.. and sometimes he looses his temper a little too much.. i guess u'd say I am afraid of him. It seems like all my mom and dad do is put me down.. and tell me i am going to fail.. I want to move out of the house in with a friend it is cheap living and I have a real good job a car and i paay for all my classes .. but i don't know how to break it to my strict parents.. any help?
2007-08-10 17:34:27 · 10 answers · asked by ohhsathleticgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are over 18, therefore you are an adult. You can come and go as you please so just go. Tell them that you are going to go live with a friend and go to class, etc. Just don't loose your temper, don't let them see you upset, they will win. Just line everything up and go. If they ask you why just tell them that it's going to be easier for you to live with this friend.
2007-08-10 17:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, how long have you been dating your boyfriend? If it's less than 6 months then that's still and new and shaky relationship. If something were to happen and you'd need to move back home, then your parents would put and even tighter leash around you. If you tried to do anything else again, they'd hang that over your head. Also, are you planning continuing your education? College is expensive and there's that whole problem with loans and borrowing money from family which wants you to stay near. It's true that they can't keep you but that also means that they don't have to accept your return either. If you still want to move out, then tell your parents that you're not a baby chick anymore, you need to go out into the world, spread your wings. It's tough outside but how else will you learn? You need to stumble and get back up. Tell them that you love them and appreciate everything they've done for you but it's time to let go. Reassure them by saying that you'll call and visit from time to time. If you leave, don't forget to tie up and take important things like birth certificates, tax forms, bills (cell phone), bank accounts, social security, dental records, and health/car insurance. It may seem easy to just take your stuff and go but the paper trail is extensive. Also, be sure you can financially support yourself. That's where most people fall. Be careful and be safe.
2016-05-19 05:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by maureen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reconsider and don't move out.save your money and move later.Reassure your parents that your not your sister. Has your Dad hurt you physically yet ? If he hasn't yet he won't . Your parents maybe wrong the way they are treating you but it sounds that they only want the best for you. Show them that you are worthy of their trust and get good grades and try to make smart decisions . Moving out might be a bad one. Even though you have a good job you can save more at home. Be wise and try to stick it out.
2007-08-10 17:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by arriba_21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 19, you no longer have to answer to them. They control you with fear. I would wait til the last minute to tell them. After you have made arrangements. Then have a friend help you move your stuff so you have someone with you and your parents cant control you or scare you. Once your out you will feel like a bird soaring with freedom and away from your toxic environment.
2007-08-10 20:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your 19 you are old enough to live on your own, and your going to college, so that shows responsibility. Tell your parents you want some indepence before you are too far away and to old to mess up. This time is important for you because you are at the age where your considered an adult and your learning how to survive on your own but you are still young enough to lean on your parents for some help. Let them know that you love them, but everyone needs to leave their parents house eventually, you never know maybe they're ready for you to leave to.
2007-08-10 18:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't have to make a big announcement. It's really time for you to move out anyways, so just say during dinner, Mom, Dad, I think I am going to move out. If they try to stop you, just move out. They can't stop you.
2007-08-10 18:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... tell them to read your comments here. you have spelled it out fairly well.
whether they accept it or not means nothing.
You are taking the initiative to begin a new life. Congratulations. I hope it works well. If it doesn't, failures teach us how to improve. It is a learning thing, and I am sure they did not just walk out of their homes and become proverbial successes either. God with you.
2007-08-10 17:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dr weasel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be gone when they come home one day. Then pray you don't ever need their help, for the rest of your life.
Love you, bye.
2007-08-10 20:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents that they have raised to you be independent. thank them for all the opportunities they have given you and for all the times they've helped you (you KNOW there have been times!) and tell them that you'll visit often and that you love them.
2007-08-10 17:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't stop you, just leave.
2007-08-10 17:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋