i am 19 years old and i have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months. He is the first person that I have felt comfortable having sex with. My mom knows that we have been having sex and has made me feel guilty about having sex. it has affected me to the point where i do not get as wet as i normally do. my boyfriend thinks that i am not aroused by him and takes it personally. i just need to stop stressing about this situation and i wish i could be back to normal.
2007-08-10 16:54:17 · 10 answers · asked by Tara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For your Mom to be able to make you feel guilty about having sex........you have to be in agreement with her. You weren't brought up to have casual sex and that's where the guilt is coming from. Sounds like you have a great deal of respect for your Mom. Deep down in your heart, you know that she only has your best interest at heart, you know that she loves you and you may be worried about "what if I get pregnant?" Taking these risks has put you under a lot of stress. Not one time in your above message did you say "I really love him more than anything." Yes, you did say you were comfortable having sex with him, but are you "in love" with him and equally as important, is he really in love with you? If he were to ask you to marry him, what would you say? If you could have what you really, really want......what would it be? Maybe that's your answer.
2007-08-10 17:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're feeling guilty, you should maybe take a break for a bit. Maybe you did rush into it too fast, and your Mom mentioning it made you rethink your actions.
Or, if you feel it's simply your Mom imposing all the guilt on you, communicate with your Mom. Tell her that you felt like you opened up to her about something personal but she made you feel worse about it. Hopefully after talking about it, you won't have that guilt cloud floating around anymore.
2007-08-10 17:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by girlygirl8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an adult. Your 19, you have your own life. Don't let your mom push you around. Yes she is your parent and you should respect her, but in the end it is YOUR decision, not hers to make.
Feel good about your boyfriend, and forget about mommy wanting to keep you a child forever.
Remember...don't let others influence what you really want to do, be happy with your boyfriend and don't let mom get your down.
2007-08-10 17:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you have alot of respect for your parents that's good, but the truth of the matter is the only thing you have to feel guilty about is if your having sex in her house. there are times when parents can be to over protective and it sounds like she means well but shes over doing it. go to her and explain that you respect her as your mother, but she is really hurting your feelings, as for your boy friend I think he's really being insensitive to your needs right now if I were you I'd put him on a sex diet for about a month and see if he truly loves you and is willing to wait........
2007-08-10 17:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kenneth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19, if it is serious with you and your man then your parent(s) need to back off and let you get down to business. And you need to stop letting you parents decisions get in the way of your relationship.
2007-08-10 17:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by Never fear, for I is here....... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your an adult and your mother can be as upset as she wants but its your life. You made the choice and you have to live with it. Tell her how you feel and let her know that while you understand her opinion she has to respect that you are an adult and old enough to make your own choices.
2007-08-10 16:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What i did is not think about my parents while doing it cuz it will only make it worse just think about urself and ur boyfriend and enjoy....and dont stress
2007-08-10 17:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the guilt, your an adult now, its none of your parents buisness.
2007-08-10 16:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Tara...ur Mom needs to stop the teen training exercise now that you are an adult finding ur way....let her know...because as an adult...she's harassing you with her way of thought...you need to either embrace her thinking and live her way...or let her know it's your body...your life...and that ur not doing it her way anymore...jus let her know out of respect that ur being responsible doing "it."...and let it go.
goodluck
2007-08-12 04:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow the fact that you even have to ask this question...has she said anyhting about it or are you just paranoid?
2007-08-10 17:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by metro900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋