ok- I have known this guy since Kindergarden, And I really like him, but I am scared to ask him out. And if I ask him out and he says no then our friendship will go down the toilet. But If I dont ask him out, then he will never know that I like him, and he might like me too!!! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!!
2007-08-10 16:47:34 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They say its better to have loved then never have loved at all. SO... Take a risk, take a chance... it'll hurt so bad if he says no but if he says yes it will be a wonderful feeling...
2007-08-10 16:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are ways to show interest that don't demand a response like asking someone out does. Send some signals and see what happens. And I'm not referring just to flirting and playing games, though I expect others will recommend that. A more mature approach is to see if you can move conversations to more personal topics. Deep sharing is how relationships take root. I'm assuming you're old enough to know what I'm talking about.
By the way, his saying "no" probably wouldn't send your relationship down the toilet if you take it gracefully. Awkward for a bit, but no reason for a total rupture.
2007-08-11 00:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he should know better than to drag a friendship's worth into a decision. Second, try to find the nerve to ask him out anyways, if you truly liked him, there should be nothing stopping you from making your move. Explain what he means to you and why he should accept you're feelings. If you don't know what to say, try practicing using words that you know he can easily relate to what he knows and what you're trying to say at the same time. He will connect to you more easily and hopefully accept you.
2007-08-10 23:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by gorika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you know it is immoral to go out with a kindergardener?
I on the other hand never went to kindergarden, so you could go out with me!
2007-08-10 23:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Deadhead Neil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you got a good one scence kindergarden then there usualy good because he knows what your like just simpley say i want to ask you something but it might ruin our friend ship if you take it the wrong way then after you ask him then hell be dieing to know what u have to say .
good luck
2007-08-10 23:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out
or get one of your friends to ask him out for you:]
if he says no then ask him if u could still be friends
2007-08-10 23:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jesicaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask one of his friends that your pretty cool with to ask him if he has any feelings for you.
from then on you ll know what to doo.
2007-08-10 23:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by crazygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shoulda told us how old you were. I guess try to flirt with him subtley, and see how he reacts.
2007-08-10 23:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Will999909 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read this it might help
IT'S 7TH GRADE..."I WANNA TELL HER SO BAD"
I stared at the girl next to me...She was my so called "best friend"... I stared at her... Long, silky hair... And I wished she was mine... But she didn't notice me like that... I knew it... After class she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before... And I handed them to her... She said "thanks"... And gave me a kiss on the cheek... I wanted to tell her... I want her to know that I don't want to be "just friends"... I love her but I'm too shy to tell her... And I don't know why...
IT'S JUNIOR YEAR...
My phone rang... On the other end it was her... She was in tears... Mumbling on and on about how her love had broken her heart... She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone... So I did... As I sat next to her on the sofa... I stared at her soft eyes... Wishing she was mine... After 2 hours... A Drew Barrymore movie... And 3 bags of chips... She decided to go to sleep... She looked at me.. Said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek... I wanted to tell her... I want her to know... That I don't want to be "just friends"... I love her but I'm too shy to tell her... And I don't know why...
IT'S SENIOR YEAR...
The day before prom... She walked to my locker... "My date is sick" she said... He's not going to go... Well... I didn't have a date and in 7th grade... We made a promise that if neiter of us had dates... We'd go together just as "best friends"... And so we did...
IT'S PROM NIGHT...
After everything was over with... I was standing at her front door step... I stared at her ... She smiled at me... I wanted her to be mine... But she doesn't think of me like that... And I know it... Then she said "I had the best time... Thanks!"... And she gave me a kiss on the cheek... I wanted to telll her... I wanted her to know that I don't want to be "just friends"... I love her but I'm just too shy... And I don't know why...
IT'S GRADUATION DAY...
A day passed... And then a week... And then a month... Before I could blink... It was graduation day... I watched her... Perfect body... Floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma... I wanted her to be mine... But she doesn't think of me that way... And I know it... Before everyone went home... She came to me in her smock and hat... And cried as I hugged her... Then she lifted her head from my shoulders and said "you're my best friend"... "Thanks!"... And gave me a kiss on the cheek... I wanted to tell her.. I wanted to know that I wanted to be more than "just friends"... I love her but I'm too shy... And I don't know why...
IT'S A FEW YEARS LATER...
Now I sit in the pews of the church... A church that she is getting married in now... I watched her say "I do" an drive off to her new life... Married to another man... I wanted her to be mine... But she didn't see me like that... And I knew it... But before she drove away... She came to me and said "You came!... Thanks!"... And she kissed me on the cheek... I wanted to tell her... I wantd her to know that I didn't want to be "just friends"... I love her but I'm just too shy... And I don't know why...
YEARS PASSED...
I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend"... At the service they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years... This is what it said... "I stare at him... Wishing he was mine... But he doesn't notice me like that... And I know it... I wanted to tell him... I wanted him to know... That I don't want to be "just friends"... I love him but I'm just too shy... And I don't know why... I wish he would tell me he loved me"... I wish I did too... I thought to myself and I cried...
2007-08-10 23:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋