Need Dating Advice. I always can give advice to other people but for some reason I have bad luck with dating.?

Question

Here's the deal.In march I met this guy.He chased me out of the bar & asked for my #.We went out a couple times talked for hrs had a great time.Things were good,moving along.We slept together(1x)then he decides he needs more time.He dated this girl for 2-3yrs...she must have been hard on him bc I can still see it in his eyes...& they still work together.I have had some health issues the last couple months & hes been great.We see each other 1-2x every 2wks.Everytime he leaves, I cry but he doesnt know.He always says he misses me,I look gorgeous etc. 2 wks ago I told him it was time to throw caution to the wind he thought I ment sleeping together.He said he only can do that w/ someone he is dating bc the girl before me only used him for sex.I think he is great & I would never ever do that.So I said...See I want to date you.He was away & said we would talk about it when he gets home.That was last fri.I sent him a text tues.we talked for a while,said he would call this wk but hasnt.Advice?

Answer 1

Have you ever read "The Rules"? It's a silly book but it has some ideas about dating and men. You know, the man should run after the woman, the woman shouldn't return phone calls, shouldn't tell the man she likes him first, etc. As I said, the book is sort of manipulative and stupid but, at the same time, it is somewhat true.

Maybe you need to think about stepping back and giving this guy some space. Seems that if you do that, it will allow him to come to you if he is truly interested and if he doesn't then it wasn't meant to be and someone much, much better will come along.

I believe that when things are meant to be, they just are. Things will happen easily, smoothly, flowing into place. This is true of everything -- not just relationships. So, if it's already getting to be too much work, it's time to sit back and let it alone. That's my take on it anyway, you have to do what's in your heart.

But again, remember, if it's not meant to be, and a much more wonderful man does come along and it's all easy and wonderful, ultimately, you will be so thankful you didn't waste too much of your time.

If I'm wrong, and it is meant to be, then it will just all fall into place...

You get the point!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Yea keep your # to yourself.Bar are not the best place to find quality people, Find some 1 nice an has value not bar stool.This guy has issues.