should i be mad?and wat should i do?

Question

my dad cheated on my mom for his girl friend that he got with before my mom and dad got divorced.the girl (his gf nicole)keep getting my dad's attention off me and my sis.he doesn't call or even send gift's to us.he acts like we don't exist, and my mom gets the tough job.he doesn't even think about spending time with us when he is in town,he'd rather go party with friends
he is always gone because he plays pro football.WHAT SHOULD I DO?:( :(

Answer 1

Call a press conference and tell the world what an @$$ your dad is.

Answer 2

Well. that's really tough stuff. I can't think of too much. I'm no professional, but might recomend killing him with kindness. Putting on a really strong front as though you don't have any problems with him. These might get his attention. And I'll tell ya for sure that if you can't get what you need from him you'll need to learn to accept this whole awefull thing, somehow. Resentment against him will only drag you down. If I'm just a little lucky then i will be right in saying that this resentment is one of you're last thoughts before falling asleep. Resentment can drain you of time, energy, spirituality, happiness. Don't let him take all those from you.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry you're going through this and I know how you feel. My ex put us all through pretty much the same thing. I suggest you write him a heartfelt letter expressing to him how you feel without being nasty. That way you at least know you tried and you'll feel better for having done so. My guess is that he's going through a mid life crisis and his focus right now is on himself. It happens to a lot of men. At some point he'll no doubt realize what damage he's done and how much he's lost. He doesn't see it right now but he really is the loser here. Please give your mom all the love and support you can now, believe it or not this may be even more difficult for her than it is for you! With or without your father, things will get better in time.

Answer 4

No body is perfect. Its hard to deal with all this, and you are allowed to be angry. But remember he is just a person. He will make mistakes. I dont know how long he has been acting this way, but I am sure sooner or later he is gona realize some things. Its hard on everyone in a divorce. Maybe its to hard to see you right now, he is hurting somewhere inside. His gf is not keeping him away. Maybe he doesnt know how to act, maybe he is afraid that you hate him, he might feel ashamed of what has happened and its hard to face up to it.

You need to talk to him. Write to him if he is out of town. Its not good to keep all this anger inside. Tell him the truth. You miss him and want him in your life more. Even though he is not w/ your mom, doesnt mean he shouldnt come around to see you. Sorry this is happening to you. But all of you will make it thru this. Good luck

Answer 5

ah, you're another victim of DDD (deadbeat dad disease) join the club. mine always liked to go to the bar and drink his paycheck away, then stumble home and beat on my brother, my mom and i, then one day he has this bright idea to join the navy........21 years later i've seen the guy maybe 35 days total since he left in 1987 and i was 2 (almost 3) then. As for what to do, there isnt much you can do, he's an adult and can decide for himself what he does and doesnt do. However, it is really sad that he'd throw away all the memories and special moments that come along as children grow up. just remember it isnt your fault. you didnt make his decisions, and you had no option in whether or not you came into this world, yet you're the one that has to suffer. But there is one thing i do know. Later in his life he will realize how bad he messed up by blowing you off like he has been, he will wish he could hit rewind and do it all differently. Then he will be the one that feels bad and lonely and he'll know how you feel right now. i know i felt that way up until i was 20. infact, i blamed myself for everything that happened up until i was about 11, then i got up the courage to go to people who knew my dad for what he really is. i lost any respect i had for him when i asked everyone what they could tell me. its been over 2 years since i last spoke to him and i hope it remains that way. but for you i hope your father realizes what he is losing before he's lost it forever.

Answer 6

That really stinks. He sounds like a big, irresponsible kid. You can write him or call him and tell him how you feel or you can wait for him to grow up and wish that he had made time for you - that will probably happen someday. In the meantime just try to live the best life you can with the friends and family who are investing their time and energy in you. Life is a long way from perfect but you gotta keep going.

Answer 7

It's ok to be mad. I've never been in that situation so I can't really relate to you, but I think you should talk to dad. Make him feel uncomfortable, gather your siblings and ask him which is more important in his life, his family or his desires. From what you have said he is childish and self-centered. If you really struggle with dealing with this, find someone you can really trust, like a sibling or a close friend, and just let it out. You'll feel better emotionally and physically. God bless you and your family.

Answer 8

That's tough. You can't MAKE your dad pay attention if he doesn't want to. It may be hard to understand and accept just now, but Nicole isn't responsible if your dad isn't finding time for you and your sister. Your dad is responsible for his actions. Write him a letter, tell him how you're feeling and let him know that he is hurting you and your sister. If he's smart, he'll realize how important you are in his life.

Answer 9

My daughters were anger at there dad for a long time because he never came to see them.
As far as i know he never cheated on me,but after we divorced he drifted away from the girls and i don't think that's right for a father or mother to do but it happens sometimes.
I'm sure your dad loves you and your sister so dont be anger with him , have a for giving heart and love your dad we all make mistakes.

Answer 10

well sounds alot like my dad. he treats me the same way like i dont exist. there is not much u can do right now but when u get like 18 or 19 and move out he will probably want to see u. so just ignore him back treat him the same way. but when u get back at him then i would let him back in ur life. cause everyone needs to hang out with there dad once in a while.

Answer 11

Tell him how you feel. Maybe the chick's getting to his head and he does not realize the stupid things he is doing. Hopefully, he'll see how wonderful it is to have children and begin to cherish it once more now and for the rest of his life. If he stays the way he is, then I wouldn't fight it. Dads like that never change, and it'd be too heartbreaking just to sit there and take the way he's treating you.