I hate my mom so much. she trys to guilt trip me. how do i get her to stop?

Question

i hate my mom. she always mkes me visit her on the weekends. i hav cheerleading tryouts on monday i just found out about. i refused to go 2 her house after a fighting her over it. now she wants 2 pick me up after tryouts. i said no but she is going 2 b there &try 2 pick me up. i just want her 2 freaking leave me alone!! i live with my dad and she keeps trying 2 guilt trip me & i hate it! i dont have 2 go if i dont want to. my dad is alwayz late 2 pick me up after cheer practice(i was a cheerleader last year 2. they just make us try out again) so my ma will b there on time & try 2 force me to come w/ her. itz happened b4 after skool. wut do i say wen i c her & she trys 2 take me w/ her?

i wont c a counceler! what do i do on monday after tryouts???

i live w/ my dad and step mom and sista and we ALL hate her. she screwed up our life, never fed us was never home and constently screamed at me. trust me. i have a reason.

i hav a reason to hate her. she HAS abused me b4. i luv cheering and she nos im not gunna drop outta try outs

Answer 1

All you have to do is not feel guilty. say no and stick to it. period. if she knows you wont feel guilty she ll stop trying.

Answer 2

Write her a letter. It should include you telling her to give you some time and space. Also, tell her to please stop trying to pick you up from cheerleading practice and tell her that to you it feels like a guilt-trip and you can't leave with her anyway, so it only drives a wedge between you further.

Chances are, when you both change a little over the coming years, you'll be able to stand her later. I used to clash with a parent big time, but now I like them. Sounds like your mom is a special case of anus though. Don't cut her out, but when she guilt-trips you, call her on it, and be firm. Don't be manipulated. She probably thrives on getting emotion out of you. Be calm around her and refuse to argue, say no and exit the scene. If you need help saying no, talk to your father and have him try to handle it. But don't get emotional around her, or she'll know her manipulations are working.

Answer 3

Tell her no and then have your dad talk to the coach or teacher and tell them that you are not to go with her.

However, this is your mother and how you treat her now will haunt you for the rest of your life. You need to ask your dad to get some counseling for your anger, hate will consume you. I'm not saying you have to spend time with your mother if you have a legitimate reason, but frankly this just doesn't sound like anything but teenage drama and playing your parents against one another.

Answer 4

Wow. She has abused you? I would wait inside the foyer for your dad. If your mother sees you, go up to her and talk to her. Tell her that she isn't allowed to pick you up at school. Say your dad said so. You shouldn't have to go if you do not want to. I am also a cheerleader and my dad is also always late. I just wait inside the foyer or if it's nice out, on a bench and read while I wait for him to come. If you do not like reading, listen to music. But explain to her, that she cannot force you to come with her. Since it is try out day, there will probably be other people there so I highly doubt she would yell you out in front of your friends. Is she does, say, "Mom, I'm sorry you came all this way to pick me up. But I'm not going with you. Dad is on his way and he is taking me home. Have a safe drive." and walk away. good luck at your try outs! knock 'em dead!

Answer 5

ok. so the gulit trip thing, all parents do it. you can't stop them. i know it is annoying, especially when your a push over (like me) and always feel bad, guilt trip or not.

but with the whole picking you up. just say that your dad is picking you up and you have plans with your friends, or with your dad, then so it won't be a lie, ask your dad the day before or something, tell him you want to spend quality time with him, and make plans to go out to eat, or go see a movie. something anything. and if she does try to pick you up, just tell her that you have plans, and that you are sorry she came all the way out here for nothing. (don't leave that out. so that she knows you appreciate it (even if you don't), and that you feel bad for not going with her).

you can't avoid her forever. if you really want to be nice, add in that maybe you guys can do something next week. but then you have to go through with that. (dont' lie to her)

hope i gave you some ideas. =D

Answer 6

First of all you need to get a spelling and grammar tutor. Your spelling is atrocious. Please don't use texting as a defense for your poor spelling. This isn't a text message, it's a question. Second of all, if your father has full custody of you, your mother can't just take you. There are legal procedures that must be followed. You need to talk to your dad and tell him what you told us. Your mother may have a legal right to see you and take you to her house. Since you're old enough to post a question, you are old enough to participate in any legal proceedings regarding your life. I suggest that the next time there is hearing regarding custody rights, you talk to the judge and tell him what you want.

Answer 7

And why don't you like your MOm? is she a crackhead or a hooker? Or the guilt you are feeling is because Daddy has told you how bad your Mama is, or worse yet Daddy say's you can get away with alot more than Mama let's you get away with? Don't know your age, but you seem imature. Yes you can give me the thumbs down, but you will think about what I said. Grow up unless you can't because your an infant.

Answer 8

Agree with her. Tell her you're the meanest, most ungrateful kid on the planet, just like she's the nicest, most understanding and patient mom in the world! Obviously you two are not good for each other. Tell her to go find a decent kid she can respect and you'll go find a meanER mom YOU can respect! She's not going to stop until she's forced to confront the fact that you are not a little piece of clay that she can mold anymore.

Answer 9

Really get over yourself, is spending time with the woman who gave you life gonna kill you. Its not like she abuses you, count yourself lucky to have a mom who loves you and wants to spend time with you. Quit being so selfish.

Answer 10

Just tell her to give you space...bottom line is...shes your mother- you love her most likely...shes not gonna be here forever...she just wants to spend some time with you- especially since you dont live with her. Just make her happy for one day and go with her. Then tell her to ease up after.

Answer 11

Pay more attention in English. If you are not a native English speaker you need a better teacher.