Why is it so hard to trust..I find it really difficult, especially when you get those thoughts and images in your head! about your girl or guy cheating! How do i stop this and start trusting more!
2007-08-10 15:03:38 · 15 answers · asked by In love! 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're paranoid like this, you can't enjoy your relationship, and you'll end up pushing him/her away. You just have to assume that they're not unless you have proof otherwise. Just be content to think that they have chosen you, and therefore must like you - if they do cheat, then they were never the one for you, and are therefore not worth worrying about!
2007-08-10 15:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Libra ♎ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to trust because people are so good at hurting us! In this day and age, with the internet and such close quarters, people are hard to trust because they have the opportunity and the tempation to do things they never did 50 years ago.
I struggle with this every day -- I am thinking my boyfriend is still shopping the personals even after he's told me i'm the one he was looking for. It's easy for people to have secret relationships now because of the internet -- its so easy for us to imagine that he's found someone else and is going to bail on us tomorrow.
But I have to just trust him and block he images of him cheating, because it hurts ME to sit and worry all day. Talk about it -- communication is the best thing... most girls can tell when the boyfriend is lying, at least after a while. Trust your instincts and you will sense when he's cheating, if he really is. If he is, DUMP HIM and move on, there is a man out there who will love you like there's no one else on this earth. You are better than that, to accept that kind of behavior out of someone... its not natural to have several sex partners, no matter what anybody tells you.
Have confidence in yourself, trust your partner, and if there's no trust, move on. Trust yourself first.
2007-08-10 22:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by suwanneeredhead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling u should stop thinking of bad things. Think positive. If u keep on like that u will never ending worry. Come on darling, bf is u choose to be together then u must start to trust him. But one thing i can say... trust of person can be control. I mean u can trust a person by it personality. U don't need to put 100% trust ur bf or gf.... but at least give 90% of trust to them ok....
2007-08-11 12:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by workingbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok all people have the same problem
but you just can think about the reason that make your friend cheat in a certain situation before going to tell him that he is cheating
he you find or feel a good reasone then wait for a while try to talk with him about that situation he you feel that he is cheating then tell him " i feel that you are cheating "
then he may ask you why
tell him
hey may then explain that you mistake in your think
2007-08-10 22:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by ^-^ engineering student ! ^-^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have great communication, and that has to be the biggest problem with couples. If you don't talk, you can't trust the person you are with because you don't know anything about the other person. Talk talk talk a LOT. Even if it is about something you think is stupid, it's not. When you know your guy very well, you will know if you can trust him or not.
2007-08-10 22:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by stacynicole83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By finding someone you can trust whole-heartedly and those thoughts won't creep into your mind because of your love and trust for this person and you will trust them and they will trust you. It's seems far-fetched and tough but it can and does happen.
2007-08-10 22:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by Maximus82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sad and horrible truth of the matter is that no one, and i mean no one, will ever meet our expat ions, and therefore no one is completely trustworthy. you need to learn not expect too much of others and if they do something like cheat on you, then move on to someone else. do not let the behavior of others bother you, or influence you in any way. be the best person you can be and live life to the best of your ability.
2007-08-11 10:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by ultralord41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be trusted is more valuable than to be loved.u can only trust urself in today's world. give ur trust to only to those whom u know will never leave u or betray u
2007-08-10 22:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by ^!$#~U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it takes effort....you have to be secure in your own beliefs....doesn't matter who your pre-judgeing...you gotta understand what ever happens is meant to be...if someone ends up cheating then its for your own good to help you recognize that person isn't thee one....learn from it and know that their type isn't for you...gradually it won't be so much a issue of trust but a learning experiences.
2007-08-10 22:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive yourself for all your shortcoming's and you will find it easier to deal with things like trust.
2007-08-10 22:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋