my sibling and I are both in our twenties and very close in age. When we are away from eachother, we are like best friends, but once we are under the same roof, it is a different story. Somehow we always end up competiting with eachother, or thinking the other one is jealous. I have really tried lately to be more open (less sneaky about what I am doing: diet, exercise, makeup etc.) The result have been 1) either she copies what I do in secret (just trust me I know) 2) she thinks some how, I am just showing off and have something up my sleve, 4) she thinks that I am some how copying her. I am thinking about confronting her, but I think she will just deny it, or spin it around on me. Any advice?
2007-08-10 14:20:19 · 6 answers · asked by breezy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is no way to 'cure' sibling rivalry, it's natural to want to compete with your sister. However, you both should be mature enough to talk it out. Just tell her what's bothering you, like a 'girl-to-girl' talk. She'll listen to what you have to say, and hopefully won't annoy you (as much!) anymore.
2007-08-10 14:23:59 · answer #1 · answered by hugsforfrazier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sibling rivalry has been around since the beginning of time. think of Cain and Abel in the bible and the very tragic end of that rivalry.Here is hoping that in your case, the outcome is more benign. There is not much you can do to end the rivalry that now exists between you and your sister. In a funny way it is actually very flattering.And accepting her actions as flattering may just deflate her enough to put an end to the whole affair.Rather than confronting her( a process that might lead to unintended outcomes)when you notice a copy of something on her, smile and say to her that it looks as good on her as it did on you.That you did not realize that she enjoyed your taste in clothes, shoes etc and from now on you would let her know when you get fresh imports.This will make you look like a caring , loving, sister but will not make very happy because in one fell swoop, you have reduced her to a competitor and done it in a sweet manner.Try that and some humor, but no violence .If it does not work, then we can try something new.Keep me posted.
2007-08-10 16:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister used to make fun of me all the time and resented when I tried to do things she did. In my defense, I thought my sister was great and I wanted to be like her because I thought she was "it." We get along great now that we are older and don't live in the same house. Maybe try asking your sister for tips sometimes to make her feel she has something special to contribute. Everyone is special in their own way. Only time can cure sibling rivalry and sometimes not even then. Good luck.
2007-08-10 14:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it you gained the ability to know what she's thinking? I think a heart-to-heart is in order, not necessarily a "confrontation". Remain as neutral as you possibly can, then any attempts on her part to inject spin will fall on deaf ears.
2007-08-10 14:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont confront since that will only lead to more animosity and competition. Try to arrange to live apart
2007-08-10 14:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-10 14:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by beileve in the unicorn!!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋