When I was 18, my former foster mother woke her son up out of his sleep, just to come kick my @$$ because she & I had an argument over her misusing my Social Security checks. Her son put his knee in my throat & raised my arm up & then took my fist & started beating me in my mouth with my own fist until it bled. I called the police & the police said that if I choose to press charges on him, then we'll both go to jail but if he chooses to press charges on me, then it'll be just me to go to jail. It doesn't seem right to me at all. Why was I gonna go to jail regardless, if I was the victim of an abusive situation?
& one time my former foster stepdad has choked me, & the police knew about me being abused in that foster home a lot. I called the cops, & one of them said, "Well, she has been know to make frivolous calls!" & they said next time I called them, I;d have to have a court summons. Why did they keep getting away with this physical abuse? I'm glad I live alone now.
2007-08-10 14:05:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
i have been abused before and you have my sympathy plus more. Hon, what you went through was wrong and there was no reason for your stepmom to send her son to beat you up. and then having your stepfather choking you. And as for the police not doing anything. Thats what they do best. When I got beat up and I called in, they told me that there was nothing that they could do because I couldnt prove it over the phone. So when i went in the next day to show them, they told me that i didnt have enough proof that he beat me. They dont care at all.
It sounds like you have moved on and that is good. you never have to go through that again. start a new life and focus on the stuff that you have and you never have to see them again.
Hang tough and always follow your dreams, you can do anything you want.
2007-08-10 14:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by angel66866 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many kids who endure physical, mental abuse from foster parents, birth parents, and other people. How to end it is a mystery. It seems we hear more abuse stories each day. I don't know how they continue to get aways with these things. I always wonder why the system doesn't protect children. We've become such a maze of paperwork that social services have forgotten the main purpose...children!
I'm glad you're out of this situation. Now you need to live life to the fullest and if possible put this behind you and go forward. They not to dwell on what happened. It will only eat away at you and prevent you from going forward. Don't let yourself or your future children end up in a bad situation. Work hard, further your education, and carefully choose your friends. Hopefully, you won't ever be faced with those demons again.
2007-08-10 14:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the countries legal system will never be perfect. In my opinion it could get much better. I am a police officer and even I dont understand why you would get arrested for being the victim of abuse. My only answer is the Police and or legal system misunderstood the problem which happens to occur to much. But what happen to you was very wrong and you deserved a fair trial where you were treated as the victim. In that situation there should be NO way the victim should be put to jail in any circumstance.
2007-08-10 14:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woooow. That's bloody insane. If you're telling the whole story, all sides of it and no hidden information then that's just awful. Sounds a bit fishy because why would the police be like that and not even check out the abuse case? And exactly, why would YOU go to jail too for being abused? Did you fight back? That might be why I guess. But no, if it's how you say it is, no both situations aren't right and they sound ridiculous and the court system is so jacked up.
2007-08-10 14:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your story is true...
Call the agency in charge of the foster family and report them. There may be a state agency you can contact as well. Try to obtain records from the police as to the times the police were called to the home and any reports that may have been filed. Did you tell anyone else about this like a teacher or a social worker? Were there any witnesses to your injuries?
2007-08-10 14:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible way for a foster kid to live! You are lucky to have survived. You may want to contact a lawyer and see if you can sue them for damages. I am sure you could use some counseling and it would expose these abusers. Call the Victim Assistance Center and ask for a counselor to see you about this. I am glad you are on your own now and best of luck to you!!
2007-08-10 14:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you seem like a trouble maker, and you don't sound completely innocent. Foster families get paid to take care of you, but that doesn't mean they have to put up with you.
If you had problems why didn't you leave and never came back, all they were gonna do was find you somewhere better to live. not sure why they got away with hitting you but you should have pressed charges since they are not allowed to touch you.
2007-08-10 14:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Digz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most of this should have been reported to your case worker and they would handle it. And as for the situation when you were 18, there must be more to the story, and if not then the police were trippin. And you could be charged if you wrongly accuse somebody or lie to make it seem as if they did worse to you. But that guy should be charged with assault.
2007-08-10 14:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its sounds like your leaving something out but if you aren't then this doesn't sound right what charges does he have to press against you it doesn't sound like you did anything maybe you got the wrong information from the police station but if you didn't i don't think you should worry about it because if what you said is true their is no reason for you to be charged with anything
2007-08-10 14:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sam W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem like you need alot of answers, Question Queen. I have been a Foster Parent to two wonderfull yet troubled kids and god is my witness I never harmed or threatened them.
You just fell on a bad apple, but i would suggest therapy.
2007-08-10 14:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋