well, i decided to ask it here coz none of my frds seem to be mature enough... i'm 15 and i've been datin for nearly 4 mths.... i feel like my bf n i should step to the next level. i never had s.ex before n i know he hadnt either, though we've felt each other more closely a week ago. we're alone at his mother's kitchen and he started opening my blouse and touc.hing me under my bra. i felt very very hot it was good but we kissed and just tht. we saw his sister arriving from the window and just stopped. thats how far we've gone. i want more n im sure he wont complain... i just dont know how to behave... i can handle to find a place, this wouldnt be a problem, dont laugh but what i need are the technical details!!! how can i get relaxed enough so it wont hurt? how long it takes for that to get hard? how can he put on me and keep it there? why do people shake that much, is it really necessary? could i get in a org.a.sm on my first time? if so, how will i recognize it? how long it takes?
2007-08-10 12:53:06 · 16 answers · asked by soverycurious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hello!! did i mention i want kids? he'll b wearing condoms duh... i asked for details not for reprimand. r u all mothers n fathers? i want tips!!! come on...
2007-08-10 13:06:45 · update #1
ok people... u took the day to criticize me as if i had nothin else in mind, oh what kinda comment was tht bout my grammar... ths not school hello! ive got a very good grammar bleh... adding, i assure u ill take care, and no i dont agree i should drastically low my expectations, it can n it will be great! also, of course ive been through hand jobs myself... didnt mean to bleed tht night... have already met my own little friend, thanks.
2007-08-10 13:29:00 · update #2
Leonie, y did u remove ur comment? Miss "i love stephen" u seem very informed... amazing, specially if u want to wait so much... and no, sorry ain't got a mommy. i live with my grandma n grandpa. addin: ill b 16 on sep 1st. does it make any diff?
2007-08-10 13:40:34 · update #3
Sweetheart16, thanks. u seem to be the smarter person in this whole thing. u succeed to tell me the most boring truths others tried but had no sensibility at all. i dunno if u r actually 16 but if so, its good to show em teens r clever. i know u r right in many aspects ans although we've been dating 4 mths, we know each other since always... we grew up in the same stree, played with the same other kids, same school, he is in fact my closest friend... n im sure i love him n he loves me back... and no, no one is pressurin me, except my hormones...lol i get breathless everytime im near him, summing up, ill say it again, i need those obvious details only experienced ppl can give!! is it hard to get? i have doubts bout birth control, lovin or not, where to do it (wont be in a car seat lol), i jus need to know how! but thanks Sweetie.
2007-08-10 13:53:26 · update #4
i ate letters.. i meant "i DONT have doubts" bout those thing i mentioned, sorry
2007-08-10 13:57:16 · update #5
aww hon PLEASE dont do n e thing stupid. 4 months may seem like a long time but trust me its not. okay, ppl r annoying me telling me ur too young. yes, u r a lil young to be thinking about losing it with some guy u've been with for 4 months, but u still have feelings and urges, so its okay lol
okay well ... lets see. please take the time to read this fully lol. even if its a lil long. seems like ur bf is ready to move on to the next level, but .. wat if u arent? think about the consequences before you do anything. wat would happen if you got pregnant right now? who would u go to and wat would they say. u know? u have to think of these things. u might think you're in love with this guy. but u cant be in love after 4 months sweetie. im not trying to sound like a *****. ill tell u wat i would tell my friend or my lil sister.
i think you should wait until you know for sure u wanna lose your virginity with tihs guy. theres a LOT of guys out there, are you sure u dont wanna wait till you fall in love? u may think ur in love but ... do u miss him wen ur not with him, and can u consider him ur best friend in the whole world? can u immagine urself with him in ur 30s and sharing every little part of your life with him? do u trust him and can u talk to him about everything? your period .. sex ... things you like during fore-play ( stuff u do b4 sex) and can he do the same to you? if you could tell eachother EVERYTHING in the whole world, and you owuldnt be scared hell tell someone, then u love him n u could lose it with him.
wow i sound crazy now. but seriously. u dont wanna make the mistake of having sex with the guy cuz u feel pressured into it, or u just wonder wat it feels like. dont u want ur 1st time to be as romantic and as beautiful as it can? like one of my teachers told us. wen ur older u don twanna remember ur 1st time being in the backseat of a car in an empty parkinglot with a guy u wish was dead now lol
write back tell me wat u think of my long adivce <33 lol
2007-08-10 13:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm 15 too and I want kids, but NOT RIGHT NOW! You are too young to have sex. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months too, but we have not had sex. He knows I'm waiting until I'm married and he respects that. Please wait at least a couple of years. But since you probably won't listen to anyone telling you not to have sex, here's some answers.
1)It will most likely hurt. Very rarely does it not hurt.
2)It depends on what you are doing to make it hard and if he likes it or not. It can take a matter of seconds just depending on what you are doing for him.
3)During the thrusting, it will most likely stay in. Unless he comes back to far.
4)It's just a way to reach an orgasm sooner. Or at least that's what I've heard.
5)You could. You can possibly get an orgasm without even having sex. Just a lot of fore play.
6)When it happens, you'll know.
7)There's not a set time for anything. When it happens, it happens.
2007-08-10 13:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me 4 months of dating isn't enough, especially if your only 15.
but if your going to do it anyone, it's good to know that most first times never worked out as planned, and there not all sexy n perfect like the movies, so i think you should lower your expectations. and i think maybe you should move onto handjobs and bj's b4 jumping into sex, so you feel less stressed over it. oh and first time is going to hurt no matter what.
it'll get "hard" remotely fast depending on what your doing.
orgasming the first time depends on the person. but i don't think you've been active sexually enough to know that since he's only been up ur shirt..
and your other questions i don't get.
i think you should wait to you actually understand what sex really is, than from music videos or tv shows. but it's up to you.
and most important thing use a condom. and if he doesnt want to use one, then don't have sex.
2007-08-10 13:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 10:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by hosfield 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, you are too young, too immature, and not ready for this. You're first time should be with someone special, not with a spotty teenage boy who only really has one thing on his mind, plus it's illegal. If you are caught, all hell will break loose.
If you decide to ignore this advice, and I have a feeling you will, at least use birth control. How do I know all this, well I was once a stupid 15 year old determined to have sex, against everyones advice. Think long and hard about this, please.
2007-08-10 13:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by staceylovbe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly it is illegal for you to have sex and secondly you aint ready yet dear
read these answers again silly girl these are the tips you need . dont grow up too quickly life is a slow experience
useful read from sweetheart16 take it on board please
we really are trying to help you dear in the end the decision is yours you ask for our comments whether directly or indirectly
we all want you to enjoy your first time but not for a while yet
added if thats the case wait till september at least take the illegality out of the equation its more for his protection than yours remember it is him who will be taken to court and put on register i am sure he can wait another month
and at last you seem to be getting a grip of this whole thing
good on you
i also noticed leonie changed her answer her first one gave you all the answers that you needed something must have spooked her shame really you needed that advice
sorry to keep coming back but Ixstephen is mis informed only no5 is correct
2007-08-10 13:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by dave kp61 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
First of all I would say wait as you only 15 and it is illegal to have underage sex.
I also would say that you need to do a little more 'researching' into the subject before you do it. That means talking openly and confidently about sex with boyfriend. Visiting a Family Planning Clinic to get some advice on different forms of contraception, what different types of STI's to look out for.
Having sex is risky - not all forms of contraception work and for many girls your age when contraception fails it means 9 months of a swollen belly and out pops a screaming baby.
You need to be mature enough emotionally about it all and trust me when you mature enough you won't need to ask questions because you will feel ready and know what to look out for.
Wait a little - 4 months is only a short length of time and it seems to me you only doing this to please him and to fit in with your 'gang'
Just hold off until you do all your research and reach 16.
Lx
2007-08-10 13:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by SunshineApple 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sovery...
Wow...where to start? Ya know, just take your time. You don't need to do it all at once. Play. Enjoy. Explore. You will learn best through experience, not from anyone here.
My only suggestion is though, when you do decide to have actual intercourse, maybe you should already be on birth control pills, or he should wear a condom. You don't want to spoil the pleasure of the first time by being worried about becoming pregnant.
Hope that helps.
2007-08-10 13:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
you should really wait before going to the next step, you are a little young for that, especially since you don't know all the detals about it, that shows you are not ready. watch movies or look at magazines. You will know when you are ready and you will know what to do then!
2007-08-10 13:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by bonnielynn73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you dumb?
You're 15, so unless you want to wind up with kids before you graduate from high school, keep your legs closed! Wait until you get married and know you and your husband can afford to care for children, financially and mentally.
Also, stay in school, and pay attention in English class. Your grammar is better than some, but still horrible.
2007-08-10 13:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Avillie 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋