Women in religion who believe in submitting to men, I have a query for you?

Question

Can you give specific instances where you would not, as well as specific examples where you would just merrily say "Sir, yes sir" and execute the command from the "higher" man, like a well trained Marine?

Here are a few scenarios I'd like your input on: Let's call it, "Submit, or not Submit?"

*He wants to "do it" at 3am, and you have a sinus infection, 100.3 degree temperature, and body aches. He knows this.

*He wants you to use your day off watching the kids so he can go bowl with friends. You had plans to go to the spa. He had off for two days last week and went bowling.

*You want to go play cards with some girlfriends and hang out. He says NO. No reason why. But he plays poker every weekend with his friends.

*You get offered a great position at a local college. He says NO because you will be making way more money than he will, as "teh head of teh household".

*He wants salmon, but you want chicken. You hate salmon. He likes them both.

Paul...DO NOT try to Vulcan mind bend me. I am not overlooking anything. You are just mad because I pinged this crap spot on and asked hard, relevant questions.

Answer 1

I know it's for women but I thought my POV is important too.

As a man I find submissive women highly unattractive and uninteresting. My wife is a strong woman with a mind of her own and I respect her for that. I have strong viewpoints a great work ethic and can stimulate her mentally and physically and she respects me for that.
Submissiveness has no place in a marriage, it should be a partnership between two equals. Only the insecure would want that.

As far as jerky behavior from men, I apologize for the pathetically weak among my gender.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Why does everything have to be a hierarchy with Christians anyway? It must be the Middle Eastern and Greek roots, they're obsessed with that stuff over there.

Strangely enough, I've never heard this submission crap mentioned by any Cherokee Baptists (the real ones, not the Baptists who claim Cherokee ancestry.) Our culture looks down on that submission stuff.

Answer 4

The way I look at it is like this:
Yes, wives are supposed to submit to their husbands. However, their husband is also supposed to love, respect, honor and be willing to sacrifice for his wife.

And this is biblical. In all of those instances, the husband would not be respecting the wife, so I would see no reason for the wife to submit.

So in order:
1. I'd tell him to go please himself if he wanted to, but leave me alone.
2. I'd risk starting a fight, and say, "NUH-UH!"
3. Unless he came up with a good reason for stopping me, I'd go anyway.
4. Compromise. Or just do it anyway.
5. Tell him tough luck. When he does the cooking, HE can decide what we eat. Until then, *I* decide. And since I do all the cooking, this is especially valid.

Answer 5

Yeah this guy you made up sounds like a jerk. The Lord said hearken unto his word but only if he is being righteous and the things that you are describing are what is known as un-righteous dominion. I am a Christian (LDS) and I dare some man to treat me like that. I am married to a wonderful man who is a DR and he never treats me like that. I don't think its all men just some who have serious control issues that act like that. And the women who "submit" to them have serious self-esteem probllems. They all need help.

Answer 6

You are confused. Submission is "voluntary" placement of oneself under the authority and leadership of another. A woman can only do this if she respects, trust, loves, and believes in the man she is married to. He will put her interest and that of the family first.

I would say the above examples are purely two stubborn personalities that need to come together with one mind and stop being selfish.

Answer 7

None of these examples are pertinent to loving submission in marriage. Marriage doesn't demand that a woman allow herself to be a doormat for someone to walk all over. You seem to be overlooking the rest of that passage - where husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the Church. Christ loved the Church by laying down His life for her, always placing the needs of the Church before His own needs. A man who treats his wife the way God calls him to treat her will have no problems with the way she relates to him.

Answer 8

The passages on submission and headship in the Bible (Ephesians 5 and Colossians 3) emphasize the importance of love, consideration and respect between spouses. In this context, it is always important to note that power and control should not characterize the marriage relationship. Colossians 3:18-19 reads, "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." Ephesians 5:22-29 (excerpts) says, "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church...(25), Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her... husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies..."
Submission is a word which can be described/defined as “willing conciliation.” That means that the wife should be "willing," not coerced. Wives are to respect their husbands. Husbands are to be considerate of their wives. Both partners should be willing to “put the other’s interests above his/her own” as Philippians 2 describes. The woman should be willing to submit to her husband not be unwilling or forced. The man should be a loving, servant leader – accountable and responsible to God and his family. A loving leader leads –doesn’t manipulate or pressure. A submitter doesn’t "take over."

Answer 9

I love to see the man who would try to make me submit!
LOL
He'd be toast!

And before you ask, I am married. He's not a pushover either.

Answer 10

My husband wouldn't do any of those things. He is so good to me and we don't have children. He says, "I am his baby"
He is so sweet and any time off we have we want to spend it together.
He has the cutest way of asking for sex, he smiles and tickles me. I know he feels frisky. I would never say no, no matter how I felt.