Is eloping romantic or not?

Question

I was thinking of eloping with my fiance since we don't have the money to get married since I was duped out of the lump sum of money I was supposed to get. Our parents offered to pay for the wedding but they disagreed about the plans so we decided not to take their money. I really want a wedding but I can't really afford. We were planning on getting married next July but I know in order to have a good wedding you have to plan way in advanced. I'm not sure how romantic eloping is. I was hoping to have a wedding with the colors, bridesmaids, cakes and champagne and danceing but I can't afford it. so is eloping the solution?

Answer 1

you can have a small and intimate wedding without having to spend a whole lot. there are so many ways to cut cost. like have flowers but have more candles than flowers. it makes it romantic and still won't cost as much as having tons of flowers. having less guests would also cut costs. location, maybe have the ceremony and reception at the same place. they might give you a great deal on that. a buffet instead of a sit down. if you really question about eloping then i don't think you should elope. it sounds like you rather have a wedding than eloping and if you did go with eloping you might regret it afterwards. or you can elope and next year when you have money saved up you guys can renew your vows with a nice ceremony and reception.

Answer 2

Eloping can be very romantic but considering you really wanted a wedding, eloping for you won't be as romantic. It will cause a lot of resentment.

You still have time to save for a small wedding. If you and your fiance pay you can have it a 100% your way.

Why not have a casual wedding in the backyard with your family and friends? You can do the yard up really pretty and get family and friends to help with making the food. A wedding doesn't need to be a fancy show at some expensive reception hall or whatever. I think it will be really nice and sweet, so don't give up and cheat yourself out of a wedding hon.

Answer 3

If it's what the couple desires then eloping can be very romantic. Much more so than having some elaborate affair involving pomp and pagentry that they can't afford then regretting it, because debt is very unromantic. You don't have to go to the courthouse to elope many vinyards, bed and breakfasts, hotels, beaches ect. offer inexpensive little packages and most come complete with photography, flowers, and cake. Some even add such extras as videography, carriage rides, ect ect. However, if your heart is truly set on a traditional wedding then there are many ways to cut costs. Just be careful, I have friends that regreted the expenses of a big wedding that could have been put on more important things such as a down payment on a home, but none of my friends who had smaller weddings or elopements had any regrets.

Answer 4

YES! Eloping can be romantic. We were two weeks away from our wedding when we gave invitations to our families only. We provided them with directions, time and the reservations we had made for them. We loved it and they did too. We had our beautiful formal wedding, but we didn't pay that gosh awful price that many do. We have amazing pictures, an awesome video and everything else other formal wedding havers have. We got married at a beautiful little chapel in Gatlinburg TN that took care of everything. They even offer discounted cabins for you and the family! We had a party when we got home with our friends... complete with cake and etc. It is a great way to say money and be romantic too. Plus, there were so many free things to do in TN. The mountains are amazing and we go back every year for our anniversary.
Good luck!

Answer 5

There is a certain charm to elopement but it is overshadowed by the sense of implied urgency that accompanies it (as if someone was pregnant or being chased by the law or something). If these are not your dynamics, consider yet another alternative. (I admire your collective stance against accepting the offer from your parents because of their inability to be civil). So, instead maybe you could consult with a wedding planner and assemble a wedding package that has all the features you want but scaled way down to an affordable level. Then budget for it, take six months or so to pay for it in advance, then come wedding time you still have a tastefully romantic wedding with traditional trimmings, but at a price you not only can afford but have already paid for by the time you walk down the aisle. There are as many options as there are people to think them up, so anything you can possibly come up with there is a way to make it happen.

Answer 6

I think eloping can be extremely romantic. You can concentrate on your groom and he can concentrate on you . . . without any of the distractions or stresses of a large wedding. You can focus on the commitment being made . . . and not focus on the small details that stress out so many brides.

You can still have a lovely dress and small bouquet. Your groom can wear a suit and have a bout. Have a few photos taken. Stay somewhere romantic a couple of days for your honeymoon. Bring along a tiny cake and a bottle of champagne for the two of you to share. An elopement can be as romantic as you make it.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I think eloping is kind of sad. 3 years from now you will be back on here asking us if it's okay to have another wedding now that you can afford to throw the wedding you never had. The answer will be no, you can't go back and do it later. Set a budget and stick to it. You don't need to have 100 guests. Maybe 20 or 30.

Answer 8

I guess u can elope and then have a party after words if u choose. i would wait and see if u can save the money for the wedding u want or if u dont have the money around the wedding date go ahead and elope dont elope now as u may be unhappy...

Answer 9

Is eloping romantic? It is if you think it is. It isn't if you think of it as second best. If you're dreaming of being swept away without a care, then eloping is for you. If your dream requires bridesmaids and dancing...not so much.

So, the choice becomes do you want to be married now, scale back your plans and marry on schedule, or wait longer to marry while you save more money to have the wedding you want? There is no right or wrong answer here. There are only choices, and you need to decide which one best matches your needs/desires.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

Eloping can be very romantic. Try the Little Bell Wedding Chapel in Harrison, Arkansas. You get pics and everything. It could be a whole lot less stressful than planning a wedding too.