I was out one night at the bar got drunk and got a ride home from a friend one of my bosses took my truck home for me but before he could my ex spotted my truck went up to the truck asked where i was and started a fight with my boss. Now im in some trouble with my boss and he isnt allowed anywhere near the bars that i work at? What am i supposed to do? We had just broken up about 2 1/2 weeks ago. We needed time apart i still love him, he still loves me...everyone hates him now and wants me to get a protective order on him...i know he isnt going to hurt me but what about the people around me? Please help...i have tried to ignore him but this problem keeps gettin worse i can't have a life now everywhere i go he keeps popping up and starting fights....yet he doesnt want a fully commintted relationship? Im desperate!!!!
2007-08-10 10:54:56 · 26 answers · asked by sxysar04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump the loser get a restraining order he is crazy
2007-08-10 11:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by antoinio i 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend is a violent man who has no control of it.
It also sounds like he is a bit of a control freak. What makes him think he can just go around hitting people and have no consequences at the end of it?
The best thing that could happen is that he starts a fight with the wrong person and he ends up coming off worse! This might teach him a lesson.
In the mean time, I would steer well clear of him. He may not hurt you physically but he is already hurting you emotionally. Physical scars heal with time, but mental and controlling abuse will last forever and change you as a person................this is what will happen if you continue with this man!!
I must ask................why did you get into trouble with your boss? It wasn't like you asked your bloke to knock him around! As it happened outside of working hours, your boss should not be taking it out on you inside working hours!!
He certainly has every right however to stop your boyfriend from coming to the bar at which you work...........that isn't personal that is buisness sense!!
2007-08-10 18:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Gillipoos 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot possibly describe the feelings you two have for each other as love. Don't insult the intelligence of the readership.
You only have three choices. Submit to his will, get the restraining order, or run.
If you submit to his will you will be a prisoner in your own home. As long as he does not get psycological help, he will be a danger to anyone who tries to help you.
If you run, you are just postponing the inevitable, because he will find you. Someone is likely to get hurt.
If you get the restraining order you can set the legal system in motion to providing you security and maybe getting your ex some psychiatric help.
Be careful whatever you do. You are smack dab in the middle of a no-win situation.
2007-08-10 19:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by DonPedro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don’t be. You did not lose anything by splitting up with him.
The way you describe him he is aggressive, selfish, because he doesn’t care that his actions might directly affect you and doesn’t want any commitment because (sorry to say, but he doesn’t love you) anyway not the way you think he does.
Some men are considering women as belongings and this is exactly the way he behaves.
He will behave like that with you or with any other girls. Somehow they will put the blame on women for they behavior.
So it is not your fault, it is in his genes.
Move on and find a real gentleman, one who respects you and adore you no matter what you do or say.
After 4 weeks I asked my girlfriend to marry me, and she said YES.
We are now for 9 years together, and I love her every day more and more.
Trust me, you don’t love him, you will know when you will meet the REAL ONE.
2007-08-10 18:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by vallhala2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a control freak...I was married to one. They are not good people for relationships. You can tell a lot about a persons integrity by how they react in bad situations. He is proving himself to not be a winner. I am sorry...I do know what it feels like to love someone and then see them acting this way. You will eventually grow tired of all this..either you will reconcile with him and then he will be more controlling or you will get sick and tired of his antics and learn to hate him. This is NOT a good situation to be in. No matter how he was before...the man he is now is no good. It will get worse before it gets better...you need to put an end to it now!
2007-08-10 18:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonflyshan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices:
First, sit down and try to rationalize with this guy and see why he keeps latching out like he does.
Second, get that protective order against him.
If I were you, I would opt for number two. Don't be bullied because you guys broke up. Take control of your life!
2007-08-10 18:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by Reo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he becomes dumb jealous and violent... and you really think that if he ever committed to you that he would never hit you? at some point.. the people who he starts fights with should press charges of assult... that would be a good start.... you do need a restrianing order... but that is really only to show history of violence or harassment... and the last thing is... that you help enforce the restraining order... that piece of paper does no good unless you use it when he does break it...
you still love him... every battered girlfriend, wife, spouse, ex battle cry... love makes you blind.... but love is to protect the person you care for... to help them fulfill their goals and dreams.... to be able to accept help to fulfill your dreams... not to cause harm in the life of the one you love....
2007-08-10 18:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he clearly is just jelous.guys are dumb like that.i have a boy that does the same type of thing.he always breaks up with me and when he sees me talking to another guy he starts a fight with him.
you should just call this guy and talk to him about it.if you ended on bad terms then your never going to get any closure so your feelings are still going to be as strong as they were when you were in the relationship.just talk it over and maybe you two could still be good friends and he wouldnt be so crazy
2007-08-10 18:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by MIMI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friends are right. You may need to get a protective order against him. You might think he won't hurt you but if he is popping up and starting fights then it will only escalate from there.
2007-08-10 17:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he think you are doing your boss? Whatever the answer, get a restraining order against him. And change your number. And buy a gun. For real. Women are usually killed by someone they know!
2007-08-10 17:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by mysterygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him, but he sounds unstable. Maybe he's so jealous of you because he knows what he does when you're not around. And how do you know he isn't going to hurt you? Maybe you should call him and talk to him so he can get some closure. Maybe that's all he needs.
2007-08-10 18:02:51 · answer #11 · answered by babygirl0777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋