is it wrong...?

Question

for me to be jealous of my friend cassie. ok heres the thing i was dating this guy adam but he dumped me for cassie i think i m pretty sure actually ne ways now that me and adam aren't together cassie and adam are all over eachother and i told her its fine but it actually bothers me because i do still like adam a lil bit is it wrong for them being all over eachother makes me jealous

i dont want to ruin the friendship i have with cassie i have known her my whole life but idk wat to do please help

cassie and adam aren't going out but everyone else says they should cuz there always around eachother n flirting

Answer 1

hmm she doesnt sound like a very good friend for doing that to you. i would just talk to her, maybe she doesnt realize shes doing it. if she truly is your friend, she will like you more than adam, and leave him.

Answer 2

First and foremost, you should have been honest with Cassie and your ex from the beginning. When they asked you if it bothered you, you should have told the truth. But they both should have known better. That is the first rule of best friends - never get with a best friend's boyfriend or ex! I don't even look at my best friends boyfriends in that way because I know they are off limits. You should re-evaluate if Cassie is really your friend because friends don't do what she is doing. Adam doesn't sound like he's worth even getting back with. If I were you, I'd find a new boyfriend and best friend.

Answer 3

Well you just need to control your jealousy and make sure it doesn't go out of control. Maybe you should tell Cassie about it and ask her if she likes him. If she does and they start. find yourself some other guy. And avoid Adam. Liking him won't help you, but only wreck your friendship. Good luck.

Answer 4

It is wrong of her to be all over him in front of you, but you can't really be mad since you told her that it was okay with you. You sound like you aren't okay with it, so you should pull her aside and have a heart to heart and fill her in on how you REALLY feel... that you still have feelings for adam and it hurts you everytime you see them together.
She will understand I'm sure if she is a true friend. Don't wait too long though beacause you don't want her to think that you are telling her it just so that she won't date him because you are jealous... which you aren't... you just aren't over him.

Answer 5

You need to tell your friend that it bothers you. I don't know how old you two are, but everyone knows that a best friend's ex is off limits! I can understand why you told her that it didn't bother you, but I think you should come clean about it. If she's understanding about it that's great. If not, then you need to consider keeping your distance from her if she refuses to stop hanging around him. Take some time to hang out with your other friends. She will come to realize that friendship is more important than boyfriends in the end.

Answer 6

Tiffany, Dear don"t be angry or jealous that is just the way it goes sometimes ! The lord has assured me that there is someone for everyone.Bless your friend cassie, her and adam may have met theirs.But don"t worry hon your guy may be just around the next corner. I wish it were me cause I am still waiting too , but I am 47 and disabled so I am unworthy. Just pray to Jesus for mr. right and you will be heard.

Answer 7

Ok she is your best friend? If it bothers you , you should tell her it does. But what if that guy is her one true love? Whos to stop true love? If your not together any more and them 2 hit it off, you just need to put space between you and the best friend for a while. Let your heart mend. There is someone else out there for you. Ya have to find that one special Mr. Right.

Answer 8

I had the same situation and they they both lasted 10yrs together and then they got married. I couldn't make any of my relationships workout because it was really bothering me that they where still together and I didn't like the way she broke up with me and stopped talking me and avoided me all together. All I would do was picture them making out and having fun and talking behind my back.

Long story short, we where all sitting together at a party once and they where making out in front of me, I finally got tired of it because it made me feel like and idiot, I whent off on her told her butt off. I am a very nice guy but she really pushed it and I was very offensive towards her. I feel much better now.

Answer 9

Of course it bothers you (the two of them). BUT, try to look at it this way: since it doesn't bother him to dump someone, then, he WILL dump her, too. WAtch and see. The best thing you can do, is to stay away from them as much as you can for right now. Why be around where you feel nothing but pain and jealousy? Steer clear of them till they break up. Give it time---they will.

Answer 10

no you have all right to be jealous because if she was a true friend she would never had gone out with him in the first place. even if she say she doesn't mind a still shouldn't go out with a friends ex because all it does it make things worse between the two friends and sometimes it breaks up friendships over too. if you don't want to lose her friendship you need to sit down with her and talk to her about it. let her know how you feel about it and that you don't want to lose her as a friend. and if she's a true friend she will break up with him. my friend did this to me she started dating my ex and because of it we ended up breaking up as friends. I tried talking to her about it but she didn't care enough about our friendship to not go out with him. it ruin our friendship and in the long run he left her for someone else and now she wants to be friends again but I can't trust her so I'm not going to be her friend again because of it. and i don't think you want to ruin your friendship over a guy for no reason either. it's an unspoken rule that you should never date your friends ex unless you want to ruin your friendship. good luck.

Answer 11

No because he be littled you and at the same time startrd a fling with some one else.
Allways remember . Guys come and go but best frinds stick together.
Talk to her. tell Her how you feel.