for example, they got it on saturday, then monday, and they know they will get it on friday,(that's when we will see each other again) but why masterbate on thursday? This really bothers me for some reason, ive never been in a relationship where my partner did that.(or at least i didnt know). I know that in his previous relationship he didnt get sex so he would have to masterbate. But I do give it to him. I know he loves me and he says it has nothing to do with me not satisfing him. But for some reason it REALLY bothers me. Please only serious answers, i would really appreciate some opionions.
2007-08-10 09:28:26 · 50 answers · asked by sweetone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Typically men masturbate less when they have sex more frequently (women are just the opposite). It could be that your bf has an ocd that needs to be addressed.
2007-08-10 09:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't mention how old the man is, but for a teen, they can have sex 2-3 times a day and still have a desire to masturbate. For a man in his 30s-40s he would want to have sex every 2-3 days, and if not, he might just masturbate. One thing you might want to ask and find out, and men can be very honest about this, is why is he doing this? Is it a release of tension? Is there something that he dreams of that is not being provided? Don't take this personally, that is the worst thing you can do. Men have physical needs and it isn't all about the woman, sometimes it can just be a need to release tension from work, stress or whatever.
2007-08-10 09:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it's totally normal. And the other guys you dated did it too. You just didn't know about it. It's not a reflection on you at all. Basically, testosterone makes guys just want sex all the time. Guys hit their sexual peak around age 18, so you may find that it diminishes once he's in his 30s or so. But it's normal for most guys to have some kind of sexual gratification daily. If you can't or don't want to participate that often, you have to expect that he's going to go for a little self-gratification.
You're going to have to really think about WHY it bothers you so much. Does it make you feel like you're not pleasing him? Are you uncomfortable with pornogrpahy? Basically, what it comes down to is that this is a problem you're having. If you can figure out WHY you're bothered, you can address the specific issue, either by talking to your significant other or exploring your own feelings about sexual behavior.
Good luck.
2007-08-10 09:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What are you 15 years old? It bothers you? What in the world makes you think it has anything to do with you. Clearly you know nothing about hormonal levels in males and females. Many women are very happy with 2-3 times a week. There are many women that need it 2 times a day. You need to learn that everyone has a different libido. His is clearly different than yours. He is fulfilling his hormonal needs that you are unable to satisfy by not seeing each other every day. All men do it. All men will do it until the end of time. It should not bother you, because his is clearly not cheating on you in any sense of the word.
2007-08-10 09:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by WCS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is YES. It is perfectly normal. He's right, it has nothing to do with whether or not you satisfy him. In fact, you probably satisfy him enough that he's probably thinking about you when he's doing it. That in itself is a compliment. You really shouldn't let it bother you. In fact, you really shouldn't even think about it. Maybe you might consider doing this together on the phone. Then it makes the anticipation for the next time you are together that much better. Use your imagination. Sex is supposed to be fun and un-inhibited. In other words, don't limit yourself or feel bad about each other's sexuality. It will make your sex life much more enjoyable.
2007-08-10 09:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by merokoxoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for a guy to masturbate but I just dont think it normal for him to do it even if he gets sex, maybe he is so used to this habit that is just part of it. Unless he is stressed out or if he is so sexual he needs it everyday.
And it's true this has nothing to do with you. But I suggest you talk to him if it bothers you so much, and ask him why he has the need to masturbate even if you are giving it to him.
Once he gives you his answer then you can ask him if he can go one thurday without masturbating.
Look a relationship is about compromise and communication, so hopefully your boyfriend can meet you 1/2 way and he can gradually leave this habit and you can be happy too. So like I said maybe it's an old habit left from his last relatinship. My last partner was just like that and he stopped doing it...but gradually. So that is why I tell you not to ask him to stop abruptly it has to be slowly.
Good luck
2007-08-10 09:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex 2-3 times a week = masterbating 4-5 times a week.
Depending on age, the younger you are the more times you need to ejaculate. Dont get jealous of the guys hand. It shouldnt bother you, he is not doing it to hurt you.
2007-08-10 09:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lazarus Cadaver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" ive never been in a relationship where my partner did that."
that you knew of.
Men masturbate, if it wasn't supposed to happen, the arms would never reach the weiner.
Why on earth would a man doing what comes naturally bother you? As long as he's giving it to you when you want don't worry about it. Masturbation only becomes a problem in a relationship when either partner does it to the exclusion of sex.
2007-08-10 10:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by Pete P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, both men and women are sexual creatures. I don't think it is anything wrong with that. You have to look at it this way. At least he isn't cheating to fulfill his sexual urges. He is simply enjoying himself. It is nothing you are doing wrong and you shouldn't be offended or upset by that. For some men 2-3 times a week is not enough. That doesn't mean you should become Little Miss Porn Star, but maybe he just thinks of you and becomes horny so instead of him looking for lust in all the wrong places, he does it himself. It's not a bad thing so don't think you are doing something wrong.
2007-08-10 09:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by hamptoncutie204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious ??? It is normal for a man to masterbate at least 2 or 3 times a day whether he is getting sex 2 or 3 times a day or a week or whatever... Don't you masterbate 2 or 3 times a day .???
How old are you ???
2007-08-10 09:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Any healthy male can have orgasms 4-8 times a day easy! We are sexually driven to procreate. Ill let you in on a secret he's masturbating the days you have sex even.
2- 3 Times a week isn't even enough for 50 year old men!!!
2007-08-10 09:34:06 · answer #11 · answered by Brad I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋