What should i do bout this?

Question

I have/had a crush on a guy at work. The thing is we used be close friends and I started liking him as more than a friend. I got the since that he liked me too since he always flirted with me and cracked jokes, etc. But, he has a gf in the Phillipines whom he is engaged to since I helped him get the ring for her. He only gets to go back there once every 2 years and I think we started experiencing sexual tension since we had a convo about doing it. I called him a dog since I thought he was comin on to me but then he denied he was serious bout it and said he was kidding. I apologized to him but then he started ignoring me. He said I should focus on someone else and it's best that we no longer be friends since I was too weird.Yesterday, I emailed him saying that we were both wrong for talking about sex, he blamed me for being weird. i got mad and told him not to b my friend, just a coworker. he told me not to email him or talk 2 him unless work relatd and he acts like he doesn't care.

Answer 1

I would leave him alone but still speak and be nice when you run into him at work but other than that you shouldn't bother him. He apparently has strong feelings for his gal and wants to remain faithful to her.

Answer 2

Ok I'm going to be really blunt about the situation. This is some high school s***, you both knew in your hearts you should 've had sex with each other somewhere down the line of this mutual relationship. You two really liked each other and could've had something special. Instead you each point blame at each other when you knew what was in your heart in the first place. I know that morally what I'm saying is wrong but let's look at the situation. You and he kicked it real hard together, he told you that he had a girlfriend in the phillipines that he only gets to see once every two years. On top of all that you helped him pick out an engagement ring.

You two were priming yourselves to have sex with one another. Real talk, what you two needed to do was have sex to break the tension between you two. The truth is he really wanted to he just let his conscience get in the way. My opinion is what's a girlfriend going to do for you living on the other side of the world? Eventhough he was engaged to her he still should have kicked it with you because you were there for him. I've had sex with a girl that is a good friend of mine and we're still good friends til this day.

Life is funny like that sometimes but, you get over it and move on. Sorry it ended that way but that's what happens when you encounter someone that wasn't ready to "play ball." Sometimes it's just not cool to date people you work with.......Lesson learned for the future.

Good luck!

Answer 3

You're right....the sexual tension is beating you two to death but you're never in a position to admit it at the same time (probably just as well, too or you'd end up doing each other). You two have manfactured this fight out of absolutely nothing to keep from admitting simultaneously that you have feelings for each other. That's sort of admirable under the circumstances (since he has a girlfriend), but in other ways it's sort of silly because it's obvious to everyone, even people who don't know you. What should you both do? I'm not sure....maybe you should show him this question and the answers we all post to it to see if that starts any meaningful dialogue between the two of you. Good luck to you both.

Answer 4

Why would he want to be with someone who he only gets to se every couple of years? What kind of a relationship is that.? Sounds to me like he is feeling guilty for flirting with you, and needs to decide once and for all what it is that he wants.

Answer 5

back off for a bit, if he loves someone else you shouldn't break him up, but if they don't meet, be there for him, and tell him how u feel.

Answer 6

u should back off ...he is engaged to someone else

Answer 7

he was enjoying his time with you

Answer 8

Hook up with him.