Ok, I am leaving out of the country and my 13 yr can not come with me because her father would not allow it, which is fine, so I decided to let her go and live with him and his wife, being that he is just now getting back into her life after being absent from it for over 6 yrs. We fought for years to get him to pay child support and final after 7-8 years child support is being taking from each check and we get his tax return. Well he wants to have another child with his wife but she does not want to speacilly with the way he has treated his child. So he cried becaused he supposelly missed her growing up and he wanted her to come life with them. So, I asked her what she wanted to do and of course she wanted to live with him. But after her being there for the past month or so I was told by his wife only by accdent that he will be tring to get child support out of me. So my feeling are that he only wanted her to stop paying child support and with the help of his wife get me to pay.
2007-08-10 08:39:47 · 9 answers · asked by cher2802 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He may have actually wanted his daughter to live with him and just feels that since she is living with him you should be paying child support. It is customary for the non custodial parent to pay support. You can't have it both ways, you made him pay support when you had her, now it's your turn. What I would look into is having the back child support payments he still owes you applied to any you may owe now.
Before you claim I'm being unfair, I was a single mother and supported my child by myself without any child support. At the time I had her the mother had to pay to have the father located to force him to pay support. It would have cost me more than I would have ever gotten from him.
2007-08-10 09:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue him for back child support owed you. Also you dont need his permission to move with child only. You can also obtain permission from mthe courts without dads permission aslong as you can show that the move is in the childs best interest and that you have a place to live. What youve obtained from his wife is hearsay and cant be proven to use against him in a court of law so forget it unless the wife is willing to testify to it. If he arrearages he basically lost his bargaining power in the courts involving the child to the support was current but allthat doesnt matter much but can be used in court when and if he does sue you for support. Good luck
2007-08-10 16:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like all he's worried about is the money. A bigger question is what is so important that causes you to leave the country and leave your daughter behind with a jerk that abandoned her in the first place? I would think your daughter is going to have major emotional issues after her dad abondoning her first and now you. She will never be able to have a normal relationship when she gets to that age. Sounds to me like two people that have their priorities messed up are a match made in heaven.
2007-08-10 16:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by HH123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, thats sad, you would think he would be more big hearted, but you may be right, he want the money as well, or wants it to stop, seen this before, its just sad, well its on you, you give her back he can take you to court over money, you should have set rules with a lawyer first... thing i dont understand is, if she was with you, you can live in another state, no law says you cant move with your daughter... never heard that before.. seems odd you would leave her with a father who really dont care..it seems.
2007-08-10 15:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Saggezza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you might be looking at this the wrong way the child support that he paid couldn't have equaled what the total cost of rising a child so that might be alittle wrong how ever if that child is living with you still should he pay you child support?and what ever the answer would be is what you should do as a good parent
2007-08-10 15:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by ldhotlipps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes thats the only reason he wanted her to come live with them and as far as him getting you to pay him support he may not get it since he owes you back support for all those yrs.and depending on where you live just because shes living with him now i think he still might have to pay the back support since she was living with you all that time...call the place where you get your support checks from and ask someone there they should be able to tell you...
2007-08-10 16:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to pay all back child support, before asking you to pay him........ Or he needs to stop payment and not ask for any, but be a man and take care of his child.
2007-08-10 17:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Renee M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't regret leaving the country and leaving your daughter behind.
2007-08-10 16:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you just give her up???
2007-08-10 16:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Francesca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋