my wife told me that she will be very mad, upset,if i join the army.. i understand that i might get sent down range.. i guess its b/c if we both get sent down range we have no 1 to keep our kids(2)... but i dont know im still thinking about it..what you guys think??
2007-08-10 08:23:48 · 20 answers · asked by calcutta200224 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
yes my wife is active duty?
2007-08-10 08:35:33 · update #1
Being a patriot is a great thing!
2007-08-10 08:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by The Voice of Reason 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off I don't care for the Army, I like the Navy and Air force better, they're much better to the families of the people serving our country. Having said that, I do think that trying to take an active role in defending our country is an honorable thing to do. I myself am too chicken to do such, but I respect all the men and women out there fighting for us, weather I agree w/ the war or not. I would be concerned about the fact that ya'll wont have someone to watch your kids. Perhaps if you could find someone suitable then you could discuss it w/ her again.
2007-08-10 15:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by gotta luv me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think any of us would get mad.
There are dual marrages in the military, but it is very had. Not just with deployments, but PCSs as well.
I know people that leave the military because they cannot be stationed together because of their MOS/Rank combinations.
I just read a story about an AF couple, where one of them is getting an 18 month sabatacle because they have not been able to see each other for several years.
You can do it, but think hard first. Talk to some other couples who are dual military. Look at how much you stand to lose if you do this.
2007-08-10 16:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by mnbvcxz52773 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your wife need to have a serious discussion on what is best for your family. As far as your children go, usually there are eager grandparents to care for them should you both be deployed, but you have to consider the grandparents age, health, location etc., since I'm sure you don't want to place a burden on them that they couldn't handle. There used to be rules about deploying husbands and wives at the same time, but I don't know how they apply those in the Army today. As far as anyone getting mad at you, the only ones that should concern you is your family. For the rest of us, those that can't respect your decision to serve your country don't have any business enjoying the way of life that you are willing to defend, and those of us that do respect a persons decision to serve, are thankful for young men and women like you and your wife. Seriously do what is best for your family. As the spouse of a soldier, you already sacrifice more than most, and you have my respect for that as well.
2007-08-10 16:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some research and I think you will find that the military has provisions in place for both parents to not be deployed concurrently. It does happen but it can also be avoided. Imagine the benefits if you both did 20 years and had two retirments and then also two jobs after service. However that issue is between you and your wife. Talk to her chain of command about two spouses in service and deployments and talk to a recruiter about your options. You may not qualify to enlist becuase of family dependency.
2007-08-10 17:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by seachelle38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be proud of you for joining army to protect our country. Dad was Marine. 3 uncles did tours in Vietnam, Father-in- law served in WWII. I would hate for you to get sent down range due to wife and kids, but mad at you, NO, total respect.
2007-08-10 15:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be extremely proud of you. Is your wife active duty? I know going to war is a drag, but the military life is the best there is. Free medical, they will pay you to go to school and pay your tuition, you can travel around the world and get paid for that, too. Go for it. If your wife doesn't like it, dump her.
2007-08-10 15:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you join, I believe they have rules about two parents serving at once in the army for the sake of raising the children. The children will keep at least one parent home at all times. So if you join, someone will be at home at all times I believe. You can ask your local army recruiter. Good luck.
2007-08-10 15:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by NICK A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife must be in the military too? If so man you need a family support system back home that will keep your kids. that is your #1 priority! I think if you got that worked out you should join if you want to......Fresh Meat!!! -SSgt Bolduc
2007-08-10 15:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Scratch-N-Sniff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I won't be mad at you. I have loads of respect for anybody in the armed forces. I think it is a very brave and admirable profession. Good Luck to you in whatever you decide.
God Bless
2007-08-10 15:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow!! 1st of all thank your wife for the great service to the country, 2nd i think if both of you go what about the kids and how long are u willing to go for...anyway i'm currently thinking of going to the navy and already i feel bad because of what my parents think but it's good servive from me to th country...so im wondering how wil your kids feel :( anyway i would disagree for you to go because of your kids..
*Good luck making the final decision :)
2007-08-10 15:38:55 · answer #11 · answered by Joyce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋