Do u have time to help me, thanks either way. She just killed me, and i was a fool for thinking it would last.

Question

ok well my ex dumped me a lil over 2 months ago ( we dated for 4 years since i was 15 and she dumped me for someone else even though she denies it b/c she was dating him not even 2 weeks later and i'v cut all contact with her even though she thought after the break up that we would be best friends and she sends me messages ( facebook-even though i deleted her from that and msn, the whole works) asking if we can be friends and if we can start talkin blah blah blah and i just ignore them b/c it hurts me to c her and talk to her. I even gave up moving back to mexico when i was 16 to b with her and my entire family is down there. and i just found out that she's moving in with her new bf, anyways i have been trying to get over this. i party, talk to girl, and do alot of things but i just cant help but to think of her 24/7 and im sick of it b/c she's the one who left me, anyways anything u guys can suggest that will help me get over this b/c it just hurts to much,AND SHE SAID MY LOVE FOR HER WAS NOT ENOUGH. mean while i'v been through alot of crap b/c of her and she just leaves me b/c someone better at the moment walked in..what a B!T(H but still i love her to death...and well thanks for your advice and help..and if ur goin to write quit being a wussy blah blah FUK UR SELF

thanks to everyone and the second guy who answered..that actually made me laugh...lol...thanks everyone

Answer 1

Bummer, man! Get involved in something where you can meet new people. Best to you! ;-)=

Answer 2

I read an article somewhere that said it can take almost twice as long to get over someone as you spent in the relationship. These things just take time. You have to do some soul searching and forgive her. Not for her sake, but for your own. If you keep harboring anger (which is the opposite side of the Love coin) then will only eat at you. She's not suffering - why should you? I agree with not talking to her. She's a selfish b!tch. I certainly hope and believe that she'll get this all back 10-fold. In the meantime, console yourself with the fact that she's the type of person who will never be happy no matter what. She'll always be looking for something better.

Concentrate on your own life, move it in the direction you want. If that direction is Mexico, then go for it.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Awh! Well i am so sorry to hear.
I can't believe she would move so quickly with a person after two weeks, than a person after four years!
You should ask her to ask herself, which of the two of you [the other guy she's with and you] is the one that would give up the most for her. I'm betteng it would be you. You already moved away from your family to live with her, and you give her all of your heart, and all of sudden she sees someone else and just throws everything down the drain.
That's not right. It shows what kind of person she really is. I know it's hard because you love her. But think of what kind of person she is..She may leave the guy she's with for some other guy she likes even better! Not to mention..
There's other fish in the sea. So take some while to breathe and get your composure again. You'll find more and better fish in the sea, even if it means taking a heartbreak and a journey to find the right one!
Take care hun!
xx
P.S. It only happens to the best of us.

Answer 4

The only thing I know to say is to tell you the pain doesn't last forever. I know it's pretty intense now, but you will get over it and your life will move forward. You were with her a long time and loving her has become a habit. It's not a good habit anymore, its a bad one now. Best thing to do is break bad habits whatever way it takes. Between the habit and the feeling of rejection it's going to be pretty rough going for a while. But it will get better and hopefully your next relationship will make you wonder why you wasted so much time being hurt over this one. Best wishes for a happier life in the near future.

Answer 5

She is not right for you and while you are busy thinking and loving her the one that is might pass you by Love is hard anything that is really worth it in life is hard but you really need to give yourself the opportunity to find that special person you desearve and the only way that can happen is if you stop talking to this girl for a while tell her your busy when she calls or can I call you back I am in the middle of something maybe you should reconsider the move now that she is not a factor who knows maybe things will pan out better there atleast take a vacation there a little escape from insanity.

Answer 6

I feel SO bad for you! I can tell you are really hurting over this and I'm so sorry. I certainly understand why you don't want to be her friend and don't want her texting you, etc. I would not want anything to do with her. I know you don't believe this now, but gradually you WILL get over her. It sounds like you are doing all the right things - going out with your friends, talking to other girls and trying to remain positive. You will get over this and you will meet someone else worthy of your love and affection. She did not appreciate a good thing when she had it, and probably will be sorry someday - maybe sooner than you think. Hang in there, and take care of yourself.

Answer 7

Hi hun...yeah girls are just as bad as guys are. ive been through alot myself and the best advise i can give you is you have to accept the fact that she screwed you over and hurt you and there are so many more women that will appreciate your love. She obviously was not the one for you and i dont know you but it seems like you put ur heart into her. i have gotten hurt alot worse and it sucks to realize that the person you love is not that person. Its easier said than done but ur a guy and for most guys its easier to get over a girl. Keep yourself busy and be with your friends. Dont try to find answers or make sense of this just say to yourself i derserve better and you will find it and once you do you will look back and be like what i stress out for. good luck and if you want let me know how it goes for ya.

Answer 8

You've done all you can with regards to deleting all remnants of her from your computer and severing all contact with her; now all that remains to be done is to allow time to take its course and heal your emotional wounds. I know it's not easy because I've been there, but I promise you there is life on the other side of the pain you're now feeling. (And some pretty terrific women you've yet to meet, too). It's probably too early to even think about them now because your emotions are still raw, but when you are ready, they'll still be there waiting to be discovered and cherished.One final thing to think about: I know you're angry with your ex and that's to be expected, in a lot of ways being flighty and confused is age-appropriate behavior for a young girl...hard news to take if you're the one involved with the young girl who was all "in love" just a scant few weeks ago but who now can't make up her mind how she feels, but it is innocently true. (We throw them a few innocent curves too as we develop, so I guess it all balances out). You move on by getting back up, dusting yourself off and taking a step (any heading) toward achieving your goals. Everytime you fall in love with a woman it's different, but there are certain similarities that give you an experience-base from which to proceed. And though a certain amount of acrimony is unavoidable try not to let your experience base be about bitterness or it will taint your next romance. Good luck, Man.

Answer 9

You are bitter and i'm sure for good reason. What ever the cause of the break up was, it happened, its over, its in the past, and there is nothing else you can do about it. Now that that is said, you are going to suffer for a long time. I can honestly tell you though that time heals all wounds. You may be hurt for several years but you will get over it. It just takes time.

Answer 10

Well I was in a relationship similar only mine was 9 years and he cheated and blamed it on me.the only advice I can give is this it takes time to heal,try not to party to much because that can quickly turn into a habit that is hard to break.Also don't try to meet another girl right away,just because she says your love was not enough dosen't mean that was the case at all,it sounds to me like she had what I call the grass is greener syndrome,she probobly had her eye on him before she broke up with you. You have done the right thing breaking all ties with her because you you cannot be bf with someone after a break-up like that, it's immpossible.Just try to stay strong the right girl is out there somewhere just be patient.I hope I was able to help.LOTS OF LUCK TO YOU.

Answer 11

It's too recent in the breakup and it's normal for you to feel hurt.

I think you have taken the first step towards moving on and getting over her. It takes time to get over someone, but just think about this why are you going to give your love to someone who thinks it's not enough... Better yet find someone who will love you back and appreciate what you have to offer.
Keep yourself busy continue your social life, when the time is right you will find someone special.

Good luck