Ok I picked out champagne bridesmaid dresses without really thinking it through and it washes out some of the girls. There are seven girls and a few of them are going to tan a week before the wedding to get a nice glow to make the dress look better on them! I loved this idea and wanted to ask all of my bridesmaids to do that. I understand that some may not want to enter the "cancer box" but today they have all of the Gradual Tans and things like that. Is it too much to ask them to do that? Unlike some brides I REALLY want all of my 7 girls to look their best and I think everyone looks better with a healthy glow! I also want them to look not so washed out in the pictures. I will not force any of them to do it but is it too much to ask? Does is sound Bridezillaish?
2007-08-10 07:30:12 · 12 answers · asked by MadKat 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Cammie..."NO tan is safe"...umm....how about the bronzing lotion i sugguested???
P.S. I am aware that they are no "My Bridesmaids" so thanks for the heads up. A suggestion to my friends and family is in no way possesive.
2007-08-11 11:01:22 · update #1
If you were close enough to these girls to ask them to be in your wedding, you should be able to talk to them about tanning. I would think you could bring it up without being bridezilla. You don't have to demand it, just bring it up in conversation and see what they think. If anyone is totally against it, tell them that's fine, it was just a thought. If they want to look their best too, they will probably want to do it and then you shouldn't worry about paying for it either. Your pictures will be beautiful anyways!
2007-08-11 08:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by firsttimemommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you did ask them to "go get a tan", yeah it's a bit weird.
If you are going to lose sleep over it perhaps you should have a girls day out and you can host a get together at the local tan shop and buy everyone a spray on tan a few days before the wedding as a thank you or something.
And if anyone bows out, don't worry if they might look washed out in the photos; those pictures are all about you anyway. You don't want to be outshined (or outglowed) by the 7 tan bridesmaids in your photos.
2007-08-10 16:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mamacita 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can understand what you're saying. But I think that you can't really TELL them to tan but suggest that they do. Of course it's not your intention to put them in danger, I personally tan in a bed and if it takes A LOT of tanning to get cancer.
Also you can get a bronzing powder that works REALLY well for the day of the wedding. You just use a makeup brush and apply it where the dress is not. And it washes off with soap and water.
I think bottom line it should be up to them if they want to tan or not. It's not going to make them or you look bad if they are lighter skinned, and if they are okay with not being tan then you should be too.
2007-08-11 08:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by tortorbo20 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The princess bride would pick out the dress her bridesmaids will wear without thinking through the consequences her choice will have. But that's ok. Everyone expects a bride to be a little like a princess in her demands. However, yes, you are being bridezilla to insist on the tan. Now you have stepped beyond the bounds of attire, hairstyle, etc. and into the realm of personal health. Take a deep breath, step back, and let your bridesmaids make this choice - or not - while you still have friends !
And by the way, any kind of tan is NOT a HEALTHY glow!
2007-08-10 18:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes, they may think "who are you to tell me that I HAVE to tan or I won't look my best." If you are that set on the girls all getting a tan then I think you should pay for those who don't want to get into the cancer box to have a spray tan. Then of course you open yourself up to the others wanting you to pay for their tan times too. You could give them a subtle hint, like giving them a bottle of the slow build a tan stuff by Bath and Body Works or Neutrogina along with a nice card telling them you can't wait to see them all dressed up in a month or however long. That might be a bit nicer than telling them "In order to look your best, I've made us all appointments to go tanning!"
2007-08-10 11:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they dont want to tan for the wedding then ask them to do the spray on tan so everyone looks the same. but u will probably have to pay for it and u need to make sure u have the money to have all that done. we are doing the tanning bed thing for all of us and i have already paid for the service and stuff like that. this our wedding and i want us all to look good...
2007-08-11 03:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're simply suggesting or asking if they would be willing to do it I see no problem with it. Demanding it is another story, but from reading your question I didn't that feeling. Just try not to get disappointed or stressed out if they decide not to get the tan. And considering that you're actually taking the time to see if you are a "bridezilla" shows to me that you really aren't.
2007-08-11 09:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mekana 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say offer to pay for it since they've already bought the expensive dress they prob won't wear again and whatever else they needed for the wedding. But honestly, if they don't wish to do this, then don't make them. Apologize to them about the color you chose, and tell them you didn't realize it would wash them out.
2007-08-10 14:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by m930 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not really. At least you aren't demanding it you are doing it because it is in their best interest and yours. I'm sure that if I had tried on the dress and saw how much it washed me out I'd hit the cancer box before you asked. Don't worry about it....I used to work in the bridal industry and trust me...I've heard wayyyyyy worse stories! Relax and get excited about the great day of celebration! Congratulations!
2007-08-10 12:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You have no right to order people to get a cancer causing tan.
No tan is safe.
They are not "your girls ".
They are you relatives and friends.
Chill.
2007-08-10 13:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cammie 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋