what is the average time frame for a relationship before an engament is appropriate for a couple in midtwentys

Answer 1

It's a personal choice. Every couple is different. But IMO, a couple should date for at LEAST 2 years before becoming engaged. And I think they should be engaged for at LEAST 1 year before even starting to plan their wedding.

Answer 2

Within a year of going together.
If you have only been together for a few months...then you need more time to really get to know them. There is an exception to the rule..if you where good friends before you started dating..then an engagement can happen at anytime...but you should really wait a year or so and be sure this is someone you can love the rest of your life. Too many people think "oh..if it doesn't work out..I'll just get a divorce". That isn't an option if you want to be happy with your man. Take your time and truly learn everything about him. Marriage is awesome..but it can be very hard. Friends do make better lovers..so if you learn to be his friend at the same time you are dating..your relationship will withstand more of the pit-falls in life as your marriage progresses.

Answer 3

2 to 3 years befor engament

Answer 4

I would say at least a year but my parents got married after dating 6 months and are still married to this day. 30 something years.

Then again I am currently dating a man I've been w/ since I was 16 years old and we're not engaged. We've talked about it but we got together so young & still are so young - sometimes it takes a long time to mature as a relationship. Marriage is forever and that means you have to grow w/ that person.

Answer 5

Do what your gut tells you. It's just an engagement. It's not like you are rushing down the alter the second you become engaged. Then runing off to some distand land so you can forget about everybody and start pumping out babies together. An engagement is like an appointment that you both are promising to make. But appointments can always be cancelled. Marriages can to...but it's more like you're in the middle of that appointment and then realize you need to be somewhere else...which is messy and causes a lot of problems. So an engagement, although it is a big deal, isn't something that you need to be too worried about. Just be prepared to take that next step into the relationship. Because things change from just dating to being engaged...and from being engaged to married...and from not living together to living together.

I'm not sure how long you all have been together. So I've just responded as if you have only been dating for a short time.

How long should the engagement last? However long or however little you want it to. Talk about it with your significant other. Whatever you decide together is best for you guys. Don't listen to everybody elses opinion because then you will never be happy and it will ultimately damage your relationship. Grab eachother, hang on, and make your own opinions about your life with this other person, because it is your life. My husband and I only knew eachother through friends. We started dating for about two days...then we became engaged. As expected, we got a lot of negative comments because of that. So be prepared for them. If you love some one, you should love them. And not be a coward about it. If you are happy, you're happy. And if somebody else isn't happy for you because they are afraid of taking chances....then that is THEIR problem. Not yours. My family was the biggest downer of them all. So try to be understanding with them and explain yourself well. Make sure you think about what you're going to tell them and not just come out with it. Be prepared to be ridiculed and come up with possible answers to peoples BS opinions.

It's understandable for people to be scared for you because it's a big risk, you could get your heart broken. But you could also be missing out on the love of your life...the time of your life. Sure, it makes sense to wait...but it also makes sense to do what you want because you only live once. It's a matter of what you want. So I say good luck! Have fun! And congrats!

Answer 6

Usually people date for at least a year before getting engaged, then have about a year of engagement before they are married.

I think 2 years is a good time frame to get to know someone in. You can also do this on a sliding scale. If you date for a short period of time, have a longer engagement. If you date for a long time, you can have a shorter engagement.

Answer 7

Religiously, my pastor will not marry anyone that's not been together for at least a year. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and still are not engaged (though I'm sure we will be when he and I are both on the same page and ready for this). I would say anything after a year, but let your significant other know if you want to settle down. Either it'll be right for the both of you, one of you will have to wait for the other, or you should break up. Hang in there!

Answer 8

I think 2-4 years is appropriate. My boyfriend and I are going on 2 and a half years, we are not engaged yet, since we do not want to rush into anything before we are ready. But we have both talked about it and know the direction we will be heading in the future. His signs of commitment is enough for me right now to know I am not wasting my time on someone who does not want to be with me.

Answer 9

Everybody is different, some can get married after 3 dates and make it last. Some can date for 3 years and not make a marriage last.

But, as a rule of thumb, I'd say at least a year, that way you've experienced eachother completely through every time of year, every season and every holiday.

Answer 10

Six months if you spend a lot of time together before the engagement, and then engaged for about 4 to 6 months. You might want to look into premarital classes at a local church. You will be surprised about what you find out about each other. And it is a lot of fun!!