Last night I hooked up with this guy I like for a while now. I passed right in front of him for a few times, and I winked at him and after that he came to sit at my table. We were talking for a while and soon he kissed me. That night we slept together, and it was awesome,so we both agreed we should do it again sometimes. He gave me his number and took mine. When he was leaving, he mentioned that he worked today until 1 am...I said "You have my number, so send me and sms"...and now I'm not sure what to do if I see him again. Should I go and talk to him? Or should I wait for him to call of send me an sms or should I send him one? How can I tell if he wants us to hook up again?
2007-08-10 06:57:59 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bet you have some butterflies in that stomach right now :) don't look to desperate by calling him right off the bat, he told you he would be working till 1:00 that is a good thing for it seems he wants you to know he is working so you don't think he is just NOT calling you.
Let him make the first move :) and by that i mean let him call or sms first, be patient i know it's hard you are crawling out of your skin right now feeling anxious but take a deep breath and just wait and see.
2007-08-10 07:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was actually in a similar situation as yours and everyone here had some pretty decent things to say. I really like the whole "decoding each other" comment because that's really how it is. It's hard to figure someone out in the beginning and don't feel guilty about sleeping with him. It happened, there's nothing to feel cheap about. I say wait for him to contact you and 3 days after the fact send a light hearted message on his phone not even mentioning the day, just something light to know that you are thinking about him but that you aren't suggesting another sexual liasion. If he is interested in more he will contact you back and talk to you about real things and not just sex. If it turns out to be just a one night stand, don't be upset, you got to experience this and now you can be more self aware of the men in your life and their intentions with you. Best of luck to you.
2007-08-10 08:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Paula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1.) Don't call him the next day.
Just give it some time. I can't believe he said, "lets do this again sometime." Thats pretty lame, but you have no reason to hide from this guy. If you see him at a bar, talk to him like you would an old friend. Don't crowd him though. Booty calls only happen after 1am. Keep that in mind.
2007-08-10 07:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by nemorino147 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well really you threw the ball in his court by asking him to sms you, i would wait a few days and see if you get one if not you could try sms but don't ask to deeper question about the relationship.
i don't think you should just turn up to talk to him, as if he does not want to see you again, men can be quite embarrassing and un feeling in telling you so!!!
if it does turn out that he does not want to see you again then adopt the policy it's his loss and move on there are plenty of other guys just around the corner!!!
2007-08-10 07:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should wait like till the day after he gets off work because if he did get off at 1 a.m. then he probably wants some sleep, after that then you could send him an sms or call him but only once. after that if he doesnt write you back or call you back or answer then it was probably just a hook up.
2007-08-10 07:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just busy and didn't get the chance to send u one yet. If u want send him one and then wait for a responce. I mean if it was good then why wouldn't he call u back? Believe me if he wants it he'll call. He could be a little nervous but ya'll slept together already, how nervous could he really be? I say do it, & if u don't get a responce u know what's up. Good Luck girl!
2007-08-10 07:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sunnie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be cool. If a guy likes you and wants you he will make it readily obvious. Of course there are guys that like it when a girl jumps him.
To me it always seems like there are two approaches to take with budding new relationships.
1) The cautious approach. Sitting back and letting it come to you.
2) The spontaneous approach. Involves finding a phone booth, or a public restroom somewhere.......if you catch my drift.
All and all it depends on the 2 people involved and what they are like. Good luck decoding yourselves, and try to have fun.
GL
2007-08-10 07:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by CrashCondon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you see him you see him go and say hi. Don't act snobby and blow him off. He'll get the wrong idea if you want to spend more naughty fun time together.
If you don't see him, then just wait it out until he calls or sms. You don't want to look desparate or clingy. If he wants you he'll chase after you.
2007-08-10 07:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told him to contact you, then the ball is in his court.
Wait it out, see if he phones, and if he doesn't - then it was most likely a one night stand (and don't try to convince yourself that he lost your number, is in the hospital with an incurable disease, etc.).
Also, I would give it about 3 - 7 days; if he does not call in that time frame, then it is most likely safe to write him off.
Good luck :)
2007-08-10 07:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by BK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just wait for him to call. That'll tell you if he really wants to see you again. Having you call makes you seem desperate. If he does call see how the conversation goes and that'll tell you if you like him more then just a friend...
2007-08-10 07:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋